2. Who has never been angry? Everyone has his own temper, personality and mood. Once it is not well controlled, the collision between people will be full of gunpowder. Moreover, social life also has its own operating rules, and it is impossible to make everyone happy. However, anger has its reasons, but it can't dominate our lives. Reasonable emotional venting is necessary, but in order to avoid the wild horse ending, we should control our emotions within the range that individuals can control. If emotions are mainly brought to individuals through the outside world, then emotions are your own. In order to protect the sunny mood, people should learn to control the dark mood. As long as you work hard, bad emotions can be restrained.
When a person loses his temper or sulks, it will produce a series of changes and reactions to human physiology, causing damage to human organs and even endangering life. In addition, anger can also damage the brain. When people are angry, their mental state is abnormal, which makes people highly nervous and unconscious. Under this bad psychological state and strong negative emotions, the "insular cortex" in the brain is stimulated, which will change the brain's long-term control over the heart, affect myocardial function, and cause sudden ventricular fibrillation, arrhythmia, and even cardiac arrest and death. It can be seen that anger will lead to the imbalance of respiratory system, circulatory system, digestive system, endocrine system and nervous system, which will bring great harm. Being grumpy and often angry will not only strengthen the pathogenic factors that induce heart disease, but also increase the possibility of suffering from other diseases. This is a typical chronic suicide. Therefore, in order to ensure your physical and mental health, you must learn to control yourself and overcome the bad habit of losing your temper.
Whether you miss the past or think about the future, it's just a trick to deceive yourself. Your today has been wasted, and your life has lost another chance to create miracles.
Happiness is just a feeling of people. But this feeling is elastic. The same person, at different times, different places and different environments, will have completely different feelings about the same thing. The decline of happiness tells us that happiness comes with pursuit, hope and need, but with the change of these conditions, it will not stay at a certain time or place forever like a passer-by.
6. In an essay, Olev confidently wrote: "Olev will be the pillar of the country in the future! Whoever steals Olef's 1 minute is stealing Sweden! "
7. This phenomenon that the memory of unfinished works is better than that of completed works is called "Cai Gannick effect". The reason why this phenomenon occurs is that when we are doing something, there will be a nervous system in our hearts, which will often put us in a nervous psychological state. When the work is interrupted before it is finished, this tension will remain for a while, so that the unfinished task will always haunt my mind; Once this task is completed, this tense state will be relaxed, and it is easy to forget what was done before. The Cai Gannick effect shows that when psychological tasks are interrupted, people will be obsessed with unfinished tasks, thus generating a higher degree of desire, which is what people often say: the more things they can't get, the more valuable they feel; And what you can get easily will be abandoned like a lost shoe.
Everything in the world should have a reasonable scale, beyond which things will develop in the opposite direction. As the ancient Greek philosopher democritus said: "When it is excessive, the most suitable thing will become the least suitable thing."
9. Always keep a clear head and mind, and don't blindly follow the superior leadership. The decision of the superior is correct and wise, and we will certainly spare no effort to implement it. If the decision is biased, and you listen to the wrong decision of the leader without thinking, the consequences will be very serious, not only can't complete the task well, but also affect your future.
10. An honest and capable person may be swallowed up when he enters a chaotic department, while a person without virtue and talent can quickly make a mess of an efficient department. Organizational systems are often fragile, based on mutual understanding, compromise and tolerance, and are easily infringed and poisoned. Another important reason for the extraordinary ability of saboteurs is that destruction is always easier than construction.
1 1. As a complex of sociality and animality, it is normal for people to act for the benefit. Assuming that his existing interests are threatened, his instinct will tell him that he must not lose this vested interest. If there is a power crisis, the owner of a vested power will not give up his power easily, nor will he easily set up an opponent for himself.
12. Competition is to overwhelm and surpass each other in feelings and interests. Only by getting psychological satisfaction in this overwhelming competition can life become more meaningful.
13. If we look for ways to solve the problem from the familiar general way of thinking, we can generally list two ways: moralizing the shipowners, hoping that the private shipowners will find out their conscience and create better living conditions for the prisoners, or the government will intervene and force the private shipowners to improve the mode of transportation by administrative means. But the above two methods are difficult to achieve, and the effect may be minimal. But the new system can not only meet the needs of shipowners for profit, but also enable prisoners to reach their destinations safely. This is the role of the system.
14. The most taboo for us to spend money is to grasp the timing and quantity. When to spend money and when not to spend money; When to spend more and when to spend less. It's like putting salt in soup. We should pay attention to when to put salt, when not to put salt, when to put more salt and when to put less salt, because this is very critical, and maybe a meal will be ruined by this "salt". In our daily life, the consumption of money is like mastering the amount of salt. You must spend when you should, and you can't spend money indiscriminately when you shouldn't. If money is spent at the right time, it will often have a multiplier effect; If money and time are spent, it may get twice the result with half the effort. There are too many places to spend money in life, so we should queue up our daily expenses, prioritize them, and then make reasonable arrangements according to our own financial resources to use all the good steel on the cutting edge. In this way, our life will be like an unusually delicious food, and our money will be scattered in the delicious life in time and properly like salt in soup.
15. In today's market economy society, money has become one of the most precious resources, so we must spend it when we need it most and use it in the most suitable place.
16. In life, people often make mistakes in judging "gains and losses" because of limited rationality and become "rational fools". Prospect theory tells us that in the face of gains and losses, we must understand and analyze risks from a rational perspective, so as to make the right choice.
17. Self-exposure should be gradual. Self-disclosure must be slow to a fairly moderate level, so slow that both sides are surprised. If too much personal intimacy is involved too early, it will cause anxiety and distrust of the other party, think that they are unstable and dare not entrust them, thus widening the psychological distance between the two sides. True intimacy is gradually established, relying on trust and constant experience in getting along with others. Therefore, your "self-exposure" must be based on gradual deepening, so that you can be liked and make intimate friends.
18. Bill Gates once said: "Life is a big fire, and the only thing we can do is to get more from it." When robbing something in a fire, you must pay attention to your priorities. We don't have much time to think. We should try to pick the most important ones and give up those that are more important than next time. In the competition, we can't try every opportunity, succeed in every field, give up what we are not good at, give up fruitless attempts, give up too many desires, and give up wrong persistence. In this way, we can become real winners.
19. If we only talk about cooperation, give up competition and blindly pave the way for others, then others will arrive at the destination first, and we have to wait for failure.
20. When your strength is weaker than your opponent's, pleading can't arouse sympathy, but it will make your opponent look down on you even more and want to get rid of you as soon as possible; Confrontation, the disparity between the enemy and me is too great, and it can only be self-destruction; At this time, we have to be smarter, cooperate with our opponents, impress them with interests, and achieve a win-win goal. Of course, if you want a strong opponent to cooperate with you, you must let your opponent see that the benefits of cooperating with you will greatly exceed those of not cooperating, so that your opponent can make up his mind to cooperate with you instead of being your enemy; For you, who are relatively weak, there are only advantages and disadvantages in cooperating with powerful opponents. Don't think that you are an opponent, you must put on an irreconcilable appearance. In fact, in the pursuit of interests, today's enemies may be tomorrow's partners.
2 1. If you want to be invincible in the competition, never give up what you have before you get something new, especially when what you have is very important to you. Cherish what you have, and don't give up what you have for something better. The stupidest person is to give up the wealth you have before you get something new.
22. If you only know how to take the road of others, even if you can make a little progress, it is not easy to surpass others; Only by doing what others have never done and creating their own path can we leave others behind.
23. Water flows because of the ground, and soldiers win because of the enemy. Therefore, the soldiers have no constant potential and the water is impermanent.
24. Politeness is like an inflatable cushion used in travel. Although there is nothing in it, it makes people feel very comfortable.
Mushrooms grow in dark corners. Without sunlight and fertilizer, they die. Only when they are tall enough do they begin to be noticed.
26. The more a society respects a certain spirit, the more it lacks a certain spirit.
27. When a person thinks about questions that have nothing to do with him every day and tries to find answers, it is tantamount to wasting time and life.
28. Don't rush for success, do what you can, and then constantly improve yourself; Don't dream of reaching the sky in one step, set yourself a practical goal, meet the challenge, keep pursuing and move towards success.
It is not today's reality that causes people's mental stress, but regrets about what happened yesterday and worries about what will happen tomorrow. Worry will not only affect our mood, but also bring greater pressure to our work and study. More importantly, endless worries can't solve the problem. Therefore, we should learn to control our emotions, look at problems objectively and temper our character in reality.
People who like to find fault, even the fiercest critics, will become gentle in front of a patient and compassionate audience. When angry troublemakers bite like poisonous snakes, listeners should keep silent and listen carefully.