But some people turn quarrels into mutual injuries and attacks, which are not worth the loss. Since it is the closest relationship between husband and wife, both sides have the responsibility and obligation to run this relationship well, so whenever they say anything, they should consider each other's feelings.
Only on the basis of mutual equality and respect, willing to understand another partner's difficulties, at the same time express their own needs, and finally discuss the best solution together, can we establish a good relationship. You want him to do something that will make you happier, instead of expressing his dissatisfaction only through emotional words when he is vague and hides some specific points of his real dissatisfaction.
Everyone should learn more about psychology, and naturally they can understand the different ways of thinking between men and women. Most men are rough and not delicate, and they often can't guess what you want them to do. When you meet a man who is willing to run a relationship, you may try to make some changes and take the initiative to give something that he thinks is what you need. You may be satisfied just right, but when you are dissatisfied, sometimes it is still thankless to do it. You will feel that you are not distracted enough, you don't like what you sent, or take you to places that you don't particularly want to go and do things that you are not very interested in. Even if he really makes changes and pays for you, it is difficult for a woman to feel loved and loved, and whether the other person's contribution meets your needs. He gives you the value you expect and positive feedback.
Therefore, it is still necessary for women to change their way of thinking, not to say that it is necessary for women to handle gender relations, but at least one party is slightly better and more interested in learning and improving relations, while the other party is willing to cooperate and change until they can get along well with each other, so that this basic relationship can go on smoothly for a long time.
In the relationship between men and women, unless some men are super dumb, unable to do things, inconsiderate, male chauvinistic and don't know how to respect others, they are basically dissatisfied with quarreling with each other, and women are more likely to take the lead. When they meet a man who finds fault with women every day, 99% of such feelings will not last long unless the woman's brain is temporarily short-circuited and manipulated by the man's spirit.
Of course, women can't always be emotional and unreasonable. Occasionally, men may have some patience to coax them. After a long time, no one can stand it, and both sides will be tired. Persist in a stable and long-term relationship between men and women, how to achieve what you want through occasional quarrels, and at the same time enhance your feelings, you need some methods and means.
1. Express what you need the other person to do, specifically to do something. For example, let the other person spend one day a week eating with him, or go somewhere. The more specific, the better, which is also convenient for the other party to do. Be mentally prepared in advance and arrange time to do it.
2. Figure out why you don't feel loved. Probably because on the way back from work, I accidentally saw other couples riding bicycles hand in hand, and then thought of working overtime every day, so it is rare to come back early one day. As a result, people accompanied me to drink supper. They didn't even think about spending some time with themselves. I was drunk, so I had to be disturbed and woke up to take care of him when I fell asleep. I want to sleep at night, and now I don't hold myself in some small details. I haven't bought a gift for myself for a long time. Look at the value of gifts received by others. Even if you receive a gift occasionally, it is not expensive but not enough. I have nothing to do, or eat together or go somewhere to play, not to mention the sense of ceremony announced by my circle of friends. Then, I can interpret it as that he doesn't love himself so much …
3. Is it possible that rational thinking is purely the cause of a person's depression without a good exit? Dissatisfaction with life day after day, year after year, and dissatisfaction with yourself. There is no good breakthrough at work, I can't see a better future, I am uncertain about my future, and I have no sense of security. It happens that your partner hasn't given you any hints recently, has no time to accompany you, and hasn't made any money yet. A series of things seem to be his problem, so argue with him! Vent your dissatisfaction. Haha ~
Whenever I think about the essential reason of my bad mood for the first time, even if I finally find fault with him and cry, I can actually accept it frankly, because I just need an outlet to relieve my mood and emotions, and it is quite pleasant to understand that tears are just a matter of excreting bad emotional garbage. Then, when the other half can express something again and is trying to change and adjust, he can find the feeling of being loved again, and his mood will be relieved and he can have a good sleep.
4. Enrich your life, keep your spiritual world full, feel less empty, pay more attention to yourself and learn what you want to do, so that you can have more sense of high value and security. We should not pay too much attention to each other, but should understand and agree that everyone is a lonely existence and everyone is an independent individual. The existence of a partner can always accompany him with high quality when he needs it occasionally, but it is not enough to accompany him all the time, and it does not exist in real life. No one can make a parasitic relationship so inseparable from someone, so an abnormal relationship does not exist and will not last long. Of course, most people have not reached this relationship, which is basically a normal companion demand. Learn more, and then communicate with each other how to maintain a good need and have a degree of existence when needed, so that the other party can feel the existence of love. It would be better to understand each other naturally. They are interdependent and independent, and they are always there when they are in trouble or need of each other.