There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people. Some people are kind on the surface, but in fact they are malicious. If you don't take more precautions, you will be "framed" by others if you are not careful. By the time you wake up, it will be too late, and you will miss the opportunity of life development.
People in the workplace, if someone does these things to you, often want to hurt you and need to be vigilant. The workplace is a place where interests compete fiercely. We are all colleagues, and Qi Xin can get things done with concerted efforts. However, some people scrimp and save, seek their own interests, and do things that harm others and do not benefit themselves.
1. "People who can do more work", your ability is too strong, but you are easy to be used and will drag down your body.
In the unit, capable people are often assigned more work. A very capable and honest person, so there are endless things to do every day. As long as colleagues can't finish their work, or they can't do it well, they will pass it on to you. Even if you have three heads and six arms, you will be exhausted and panting. Overtime is common.
You are often described as a person who can do more work, ostensibly praising you. Everyone thinks that people like you will be appreciated and reused, because you are too important to the unit, and many things can't be done without you personally. Sometimes, you think so yourself. As long as you do more things and do things for several people, you will be "outstanding" and become a master.
In fact, doing too much and making too many mistakes will often lead to many thankless things. To make matters worse, you work overtime and stay up late, and your body has been in a sub-health state. You are sick and don't know it. Also, it doesn't matter if a unit loses you alone. Don't think you are important. You are a hard-working person who has done a lot of work, but after you leave the company, the company will still run around, and it is not impossible to run without you. Therefore, your chances of promotion are rare. If you have a high probability of making mistakes, your boss will not look up to you and think you are a weak person.
Everyone tells you to develop in a "capable and honest" direction, so you should be alert and don't tire yourself out and often make mistakes. You should learn to refuse redundant work, and you should know that people who get off work on time are really good people.
2. "spit together", spit is actually complaining about life, hurting your spirit and hurting your confidence.
Everyone has a place to spit, and will not be 100% satisfied with the society, nor will they be satisfied with their work and salary. Even if you get tens of thousands of dollars a month, you still feel that the boss has wronged you. People who spit always have reasons to spit, which is also a kind of negative energy. Several people spit together, negative energy is amplified, and life is getting more and more confused.
My colleague Zhang Dawei walked up to him yesterday and said, "What about you? You have been working for five or six years. You see, compared with the people after you, you have been promoted, but you are still standing still. These days, without a good position, there is no good income. " His words have aroused my * * * voice, and I feel humbled. Over the years, I have no credit and hard work. Why not be respected by my boss?
One of my colleagues, Zhang Dawei, also complained that my present job is too complicated. I should take the initiative to "decompress". But I talked to my boss several times, but it didn't help. Just swallow your pride and keep doing it. After talking with Zhang Dawei for more than half an hour, I found that I didn't want to do anything and I couldn't do it well.
In the workplace, self-confidence is very important. If you feel hopeless from the beginning, most of your work will not succeed. Society will not be absolutely fair, as long as you put your mind right, you will feel better. Therefore, you should take more precautions when you meet someone who "spits" with you. Others are hurting your spirit and undermining your confidence.
3. "Flattery", people who praise you casually are often paralyzing your mind and hindering your progress.
You might say, "I'm not the boss either. Why should others flatter me? " In fact, some people, no matter who they meet, will say something flattering. He just wants to make friends with others and be an "honest man".
A person who pretends to be a good person is often not a good person. He's borrowing emotional cards, and then he's setting you up. For example, your colleagues always praise you for making a good report, doing it carefully and without any data errors. When you got carried away, he quietly arranged for you to help him write the report, and you were embarrassed to refuse.
Some people, who always want to praise you, are actually paralyzing you, making you "on cloud nine" every day, unable to find the way forward, and still feel that you are really powerful. Especially your competitor, through this way, let you stop making progress, and then he will take the opportunity to surpass you. Modesty makes people progress, while pride makes people lag behind. If someone flatters you every day, you will become complacent.
4. "Backstabbing", people who destroy your image, make it impossible for you to stand in the unit.
Some people smile in front of you but speak ill of you behind your back. Colleagues get along with each other, although they can't "know the roots", but they can also be regarded as people who know each other better and know something about family affairs. Therefore, if someone slanders you, they will find your "handle" or your "sore spot" and make you feel "the scalp is numb and someone is poking you in the back" every day.
Once, Xiao Li of our unit was promoted to vice manager of the sales department by the boss. At this time, colleague A Jian said: "Xiao Li is good at everything except petty theft. He also has to take a pen from the unit home to the child. " What was originally a trivial matter became a "disgusting" thing as soon as it came out. When the boss heard about it, his impression of Xiao Li was greatly reduced, which finally led to the suspension of Xiao Li's promotion.
If someone slanders you behind your back, it will make you look down upon in the workplace. You'd better "don't explain, don't pay attention" to make the rumor maker more clear and shut up. Clear is clear, turbid is turbid. As long as you don't do anything wrong, things will always be clarified slowly. If you explain, it will add insult to injury.
5. "Please eat and drink", useless socializing will only waste your time.
Many people like to eat, drink, have dinner, and have drinks. At this time, everyone is really flattering and has an atmosphere. However, if you attend more dinners and receptions, you will find that you don't have enough time, and even have to deal with dinners twice a day. After getting drunk, you will still hurt yourself and feel groggy for two days, and you can't do anything.
If you eat someone else's, you have to invite someone else back and waste your time. Throw away this social interaction, or you will be tired and hurt by it.