Today is really Xiaohong's "Black Weekend". She got angry with her male colleague at the office, and then she had another quarrel with her husband when she came home from work. Xu Wen in the office and Xiaohong's husband are classmates, so Xiaohong and Xu Wen are very familiar. Chatting in the office in the morning, colleagues praised Xu Wen for fully supporting his wife's tour guide work. He is a "model husband" who undertakes the heavy responsibility of housework and children's education. Just when Xu Wen introduced it to everyone with joy, Xiaohong said half jokingly, "Is it the standard for a model husband to beat his wife?" His wife took refuge in my house the other day! "This words say, everyone is very surprised. Xu Wen became angry from embarrassment and shouted, "Nonsense! "After that, he sulked all day and didn't say hello to Xiaohong.
Angry Xiaohong went home and complained to her husband: "Xu Wen has been promoted to section chief, and you?" Are you more timid than him? ""Yes, I admit that I am an incompetent person. " The husband said a little angrily. You are so disappointing that you will never be developed. Follow you, a cowardly ghost, and you make me look down on you! "Little red anger is not in one place.
"You are unreasonable! Hustling around "the husband seems to be unbearable, patting the table and loudly scolding Xiaohong." "Little red was sued by two men one day, so don't say anything else. Mainly because she accidentally violated a man's psychological forbidden zone. From the psychological point of view, due to the differences in physiology, psychology and social experience, people often have a psychological forbidden zone in their hearts. Different people have different psychological forbidden zones and different sensitivities. Although men are stronger than women, they also have a weak side.
Some topics are the last thing they want to talk about or mention. A lady needs to know some psychology. Whether you are with men in the workplace or with your husband at home, you should know men's psychological taboos. This is an indispensable part of female friendship, love and even career success. If you step on a man's minefield by mistake, you will be as unhappy as Xiaohong today. Psychological common sense tells us that men are often very sensitive to some words that involve their own evaluation, so that they are disgusted. Therefore, women must be very careful about the following topics about men, so as not to fall into an embarrassing situation.
Don't laugh at his timidity. Some men are timid, sometimes scared to death, or crying. A man's secret can be observed by a woman with her keen and careful eyes. But please don't laugh at him to his face. If you reveal this secret, he will hate you for damaging his manly image.
Don't judge his appearance. Men seldom praise their appearance. This is not so much because they are shy as because they lack confidence. If you praise his appearance, then he will have a positive attitude towards his body, be confident and participate in social activities more calmly. But if your evaluation is not so favorable to him, it will make him feel inferior and even cause strong anger, which should not be underestimated in men.
Don't praise his achievements in front of others. Men are naturally competitive and never want to give up. Many people often envy another person's success. If a person, especially a woman, appreciates another man's achievements in front of him, it will make him feel looked down upon. You want to belittle him.
Don't talk about his failure. For most men, if they are not considered as failures by others, they are considered as "successes". Here, the measure of success is not winning, but "not failing". The reason why we are satisfied with "not failing" is because most men admit in their hearts that there are only a handful of real winners. Talking about his failure sometimes inevitably makes him angry.
Don't talk about his role in the family. Although he is open-minded, considerate to his wife and diligent in housework, men subconsciously think that gentleness and housework are detrimental to their dignity.
Don't laugh at men's impotence. Among all male taboos, male impotence (impotence, premature ejaculation, penis, etc. ) is the biggest taboo. Once a man has any problems with his sexual function, coupled with other people's gossip, even a strong man will become vulnerable. Produce uncontrollable sexual distress, confusion and fear.
As I said before, men are not cold-blooded animals. Any verbal and behavioral stimulation may cause psychological trauma to him, and once it goes deep into the bone marrow, it is difficult to heal. Don't easily step into the forbidden zone of male psychology. The mental health problems of men deserve our attention.