(2) Alienation stage. When an individual enters adolescence, a physiological mutation will have a certain psychological impact. Due to the secretion of a large number of sex hormones, the gender difference is becoming more and more obvious. Individuals feel adult because of their increasingly masculine or feminine body shape, and feel anxious, uneasy, afraid and nervous about their sexual physiological reactions. At the same time, their vague understanding of sex makes them pay special attention to and sensitive to the special relationship between men and women. In order to clarify themselves, they often deliberately avoid the opposite sex. For example, in school, they show obvious boundaries between men and women and don't say hello when they meet. If some male students associate with female students, it is easy to cause ridicule and booing from the whole class.
(3) the yearning stage. In this period, girls are about 12~ 17 years old, while boys are a little later, 14~ 19 years old. During this period, with the development of individual sexual consciousness, their attitude towards the opposite sex has also undergone tremendous changes, from resistance, disgust, disgust and alienation in the previous stage to interest, care, love and attraction. Especially for the opposite sex you admire, it is expected to be close. Young men like to show their abilities and charm in front of young women, while children like to show their gentleness and beauty in front of young men. At present, they are keen to participate in group activities, such as dancing, traveling and partying.
(4) Love stage. Generally, girls enter this stage after 17, 18 and boys 18 and 19. The sexual intention of the character is gradually clear, and the object of love is gradually clear, and he tries to start a romantic journey, and at the same time, he transforms his good feelings for all the opposite sex into his attachment to the individual opposite sex. At this time, the individual not only pays attention to the modification of external image, but also pays attention to the improvement of internal personality quality, and the contact with the specific opposite sex also goes deep from the outside to the inside, which is a reflection of the sexual influence of young people's mature personality.
The development of adolescent sexual consciousness will generally go through the above four stages, and each stage will show some special psychology and behavior in senior grades. For example, in the embryonic stage of sexual consciousness, it shows rejection and closure to the opposite sex; In the opposite sex yearning period, on the contrary, it reflects a need for closeness and communication. Schools, families and society should give teenagers psychological guidance and education according to the characteristics of their sexual consciousness, so as to make their sexual psychology develop healthily. For teenagers themselves, understanding the development stage and characteristics of sexual consciousness is also of great significance for coping with various problems in adolescence, eliminating doubts and confusion and overcoming bad emotions. For example, the problem of puppy love in adolescence often annoys some parents and teachers. In fact, many times it is just a yearning and attraction between the opposite sex, not real love. However, some young people are also confused about their psychological reaction to being close to the opposite sex, afraid of being condemned by adults, and often nervous and anxious about it, which affects their normal study and life; Some young people regard their hazy yearning and devotion to the opposite sex as love, but they blindly confess or fall in love, which backfires and pays a heavy price.