Wo he Jia
Activity design?
1. Family is an inseparable part of society. In society, where there are crowds, there are contradictions, and families are no exception. By filling in the questionnaire of "Family Portrait" and interviewing young journalists, students can learn about their families and realize that family conflicts are inevitable and common. ?
2. Through scene setting and role-playing, let students know some reasons that affect family harmony and cause family conflicts, and learn to solve family conflicts. ?
3. Let the students know that home is the harbor of love through discussion. As long as you are full of love for your family, any contradiction can be resolved.
At present, there are more and more one-child families, and family problems are constantly emerging. A considerable number of parents work day and night, feed and dress their children well, and spoil them too much, as long as they study hard and get into college. In addition to studying at home, many students disdain housework, and even have never done "lifting a finger", living beyond their means and being naked. This is contrary to quality education. Through short play performance, students are encouraged to experience the hard work and hard work of their parents and show their love to their parents. ?
What is the purpose of psychological counseling?
1, know your family and your relationship with your family. ?
2. Understand the causes of family conflicts. ?
3. Learn to solve family conflicts. ?
4. Learn to be considerate of parents and express love with actions. ?
Counseling methods?
1, telling and discussing; ? 2. Interview a little reporter; ? 3. Scenario setting and role-playing. ?
4. self-expression ?
Preparation before counseling?
1. Tell the students to collect sentences about "home". Each student should prepare three sentences, the more the better. ?
2. Select four young reporters and prepare to interview each group of students about family conflicts. ?
3. Prepare three or four situations close to students' family life, and find some students to arrange sketch performances. ?
4. Prepare a "family portrait" questionnaire for each student. ?
Tutoring time: one class hour?
Tutoring location: classroom?
Consultation steps?
(1) Teacher's words: Speaking of home, I believe most students will feel warm. What exactly is home? Now you may think that when you are satisfied and happy at home, home is heaven; Whenever there are conflicts with family members, home becomes a cage again. Whether it's heaven or a cage, home is a place we can't give up all our lives. How to face home correctly? By studying this lesson, you may find the answer. ?
(2) Each student writes more than three sentences about "home". ?
(3) The teacher sends a "family portrait" questionnaire to each student, so that the students can fill it out according to their own actual situation, so that the students can understand their family members from their personalities and contributions, and gradually learn to express their gratitude to their families and make some contributions to them. ?
Attachment:?
Family photo?
(1) My father's birthday is, and his personality and hobbies are. My father does housework at home. He is a good man. ?
(2) My mother's birthday is, and his personality hobby is. Mother is in charge of housework at home. She was one of the good guys。 ?
(3) My birthday is, my personality and hobbies are. I do housework at home. What my parents expect of me is. ?
(4) I think the person who contributes the most to the family is the person who enjoys the most. ?
(5) I live in harmony with my parents (more than, less than) discord. ?
(6) The reason why I quarrel or conflict with my parents is often. ?
(7) My existence brings joy (more than, less than) burden to my parents. ?
(8) After filling in the blanks above, my reaction to home is. ?
The teacher inspires students to be grateful to their parents, pointing out that each of us gets a lot from our parents, such as food when we get home from school, new clothes when we get old, tuition and fees when we start school ... It's not easy for parents to provide all this! We must not take all this for granted. While devoting themselves wholeheartedly to their children, parents are also very concerned about their reactions. We should not turn a blind eye to their parents' efforts. (4) Teacher's statement: Judging from the "family photos" filled out by students, everyone sometimes disagrees with their parents. As the saying goes, "every family has its own problems" and "an honest official cannot break housework". Family conflicts are inevitable and common. The contradiction with parents is one of the signs of our growth. We should not be afraid of it, but at the same time actively try to solve it. ?
(5) Interview with a small reporter?
1, four small reporters interviewed in groups to find out what conflicts each person has with their parents and what causes them. ?
2. Young journalists exchange interview results and summarize the causes of conflict. ?
Generally speaking, the conflict between children and parents has the following reasons:
(1) Parents are too nagging. ?
(2) Parents are too overbearing and interfere with their children. ?
(3) Parents mold their children according to their own wishes, always feel uneasy about their children, and even monitor their actions. ?
(4) Children are unwilling to do housework. ?
(5) Children are playful and don't come home on time after school. ?
(6) Children often talk with classmates on the phone for a long time. ?
(7) Children watch too much TV, which affects their study. ?
(8) Children muddle along in their studies, and their test scores are not ideal, which can't meet their parents' requirements. ?
(6) Situational setting and role-playing of children's conflict with their parents. ?
Play it carefully by several students according to the situation prepared in advance. All the students discuss the situation in the situation and summarize the steps and methods to solve the contradiction. ?
Seriously consider the following questions:
1. What is the personality conflict in the situation? What kind of situation are you in?
2. What are the causes of character conflicts in various situations?
3. What are the ways to solve contradictions? (key)?
4. What methods are acceptable to both parties?
5. What methods are unacceptable to both parties?
[example]?
Scene 1: A student's room. The table is full of books, materials and stationery, and the quilts and towels on the bed are in a mess. The student is turning over a reference book anxiously. At this time, the mother came into the room and accused the student of being lazy at ordinary times, and the two sides clashed. ?
Scene 2: At night, the hour hand of the wall clock has pointed to nine o'clock, and a student is still watching TV with relish. At this time, it is close to the scientific examination. Parents urged the students to do their homework and review their lessons, but the students turned a deaf ear. Parents couldn't help nagging, and the two sides clashed. ?
Situation 3: A student's parents met the Cultural Revolution in middle school and lost the opportunity to go to college. They pin their hopes on their children and do their best to take care of them, hoping that they can be admitted to college in the future. However, this student usually muddles along, with scores ranging from 60 to 70 in each exam, and sometimes even fails. I often have conflicts with my parents because of my poor grades. ?
Situation 4: A student feels that going home has become a burden since the third grade, and he is upset at the thought of being watched by his parents when he enters the house. Parents of students are hard-working intellectuals, always shaping their children according to their ideas, opposing children to watch extracurricular books and TV movies unrelated to exams, and prohibiting children from getting together with classmates. One night, students came home from evening self-study and quietly kept a diary in their room. Mother poked around and walked in, pretending to be casual, glancing at the diary and dropping a sentence "It's getting late, it's time to get down to business". Parents' excessive worry and interference make students feel bored, helpless and depressed, and often conflict with their parents.
The teacher emphasized to the students in combination with their performance and discussion: Generally speaking, in the conflict between children and parents, parents' starting point is for the good of their children. As the saying goes, "if you are poor, you will think about change." Because of different times and environments, different thoughts and feelings, two generations have different opinions, and conflicts are very common. Parents are often used to sticking to their own opinions because of their own experiences. As children, we should carefully analyze the reasons for the contradiction between parents and ourselves, accept correct opinions and calmly explain incorrect opinions. If we can take the initiative to admit our mistakes or tolerate our parents' anger for a while, and then take the initiative to discuss with our parents the solution to the contradiction after the parents' anger subsides, and let our parents know and understand us more in an appropriate way, we will get good results. ?
When we have conflicts with our parents at home, as children, we should do the following:
(1) Be considerate of parents' pains. ?
(2) Reduce parents' burden with actions, and soothe parents' troubles and worries with understanding. ?
(3) Talk to parents more, so that parents can feel the return of love. ?
(4) Put yourself in the parents' shoes and forgive their mistakes. ?
Remember: as long as you are full of love for your family, any contradiction can be resolved. ?
(7) Short drama performance reflecting parents' hard work. ?
From the parents' point of view, several students reproduce the parents' hard work for their children through words, actions and expressions according to the prepared plot. All the students realized the difficulties of their parents in managing their families and exchanged their feelings. ?
[example]?
Scene 1: A teacher's mother gets up at six o'clock in the morning, toils for three meals a day, goes to work, does housework and takes care of the children, and doesn't start preparing lessons and changing homework until half past nine in the evening. ?
Scenario 2: Parents are willing to give everything for their children's study and life, while keeping everything simple. Buy school supplies, materials, tutoring, choose a good school, buy new clothes and shoes for children, and so on. I haven't bought new clothes for many years, and I can't bear to travel ...?
The teacher summed up: each of us has a home, and everyone wants his home to be warm and harmonious. Before the lesson "Me and Home" ends, I remind my classmates to cherish their home. Don't just take it from home and forget to give it to their families. Home is very specific. If a mother doesn't do housework and doesn't care about her children's study and life, we will doubt whether she loves her family. It's the same for all of us. If you only ask your parents for this and that every day and keep asking for it, but you never understand their hard work and don't share the housework for them, can you say that you love your family? Definitely not. How to love your family and repay your parents? Please make a "love home plan" according to your actual situation after class, and then put it into action according to the plan. Finally, I wish the students a harmonious family and everyone is happy. ?
(8) small reporters recite?
Me and home?
Home is a place where our stomachs are satisfied and our hearts are satisfied during the day. Home is not only the residence of the body, but also the sustenance of the soul. ?
Home is a book. When you open it and read it carefully, you will feel colorful and memorable. ?
Home is a harbor, when you are tired, let you stop and rest; It is also a gas station on the journey of life. When you encounter difficulties and get hurt, it will cheer you up and let you regain the sails of life. ?
Home is like spring, summer, autumn and winter all year round. Spring is full of warmth and hope; Summer is full of enthusiasm and heaviness; Autumn is full of harvest and peace; Winter is full of peace and memories. ?
Home is a warm river, which usually flows slowly in a calm way. When the change of life stirs up waves, it will adjust its own direction and give us the strength to ride the wind and waves. ?
Home is the place to realize our wishes, and we can't live without it. Set out with a warm home, let go of our wish and fulfill it. ?
Home will always be a post station in our hearts, which can shelter us from the wind and rain and send us sailing. ?
Love is the kingdom of father, the world of mother, the paradise of children and the center of love. The best wishes in our hearts revolve around this center. Home will follow my heart, whether flying over the horizon or crossing the cape, as long as I look back gently, I will see my lovely home. In a lovely family, in the four seasons of life, we are in the spring of 2008. In order to play the life comedy Me and Home well, we need to bring love into the role of children and send warmth and hope to the parents who raised us. ?
Supplementary activities?
1. Implement the "Love Home Plan". With the growth of knowledge, it is easy for middle school students to understand the dedication to their parents and the truth that they should repay their parents, but they often just say no to help. Therefore, this class requires students not only to make a "love home plan", but also to put it in place and summarize the evaluation. Give praise and rewards to students who have done well. Guide students to understand what kind of family-loving actions are worthy of recognition and should be strongly advocated. ?
2. Parents are invited to the school for discussion. Show parents the sentences about "home" collected by students and the "family portrait" filled in. Learn about family conflicts and contradictions from parents. Parents are required not to spoil their children too much and make them suffer, but also to respect their self-esteem, not to interfere with their children too much and not to design their future according to their own wishes. In addition, parents are invited to help urge their children to complete the "Love Home Plan". Teachers help parents adjust inappropriate expectations in time. ?
Suggestion?
Every student lives in a different family, so we should do a good job of investigation before class, paying special attention to students with nervous family relations and students from single-parent families to avoid hurting students with family shadows. Students should be given the right to "give up" when conducting family surveys, discussions and performances, and everyone should not be forced to participate.