1. Pay attention to what others say? When talking with others, patients often ignore what others say, but focus on their own anxiety and whether others notice their anxiety, which will make the conversation not smooth and make the patient's performance worse. Therefore, it is worthy of attention that patients with social phobia pay attention to the actual content of what others say and ignore their own subjective imagination. Please imagine that if someone is talking to you, but at this moment you only think about your anxiety and think that the other person also sees your anxiety, will you ignore the conversation? You know, your anxiety at this time doesn't help the conversation at all, so all you have to do is pay attention to the other person's conversation and don't let anxiety affect your interpersonal communication.
2. Don't guess what others think of you. You will feel uncomfortable when others are present. This is probably because you are speculating about what others think of you, and most of these opinions you speculate are negative. For example, when your palms are sweating because of nervousness, you will feel that others must have seen your nervousness from your expression or behavior and will despise you for it, but in fact, most people have been nervous in public, and they will not give you negative comments for it. When you are talking, you see two people whispering. You think they must be talking about your mistakes and finding fault with you, but in fact, they may be discussing your speech and expressing their views on it. When you drink at a party and see someone smiling at you, you think he is laughing at you, but in fact, he may be friendly to you or praising your elegant manners. Therefore, please don't speculate on others' evaluation of yourself, and don't let your wrong imagination affect your social activities. Remember, your thoughts don't represent others' thoughts, so you can't be sure what others think of you. And if you have social phobia, your guess will definitely be much worse than the actual situation, which will only aggravate your anxiety. In that case, why bother?
3. Looking for positive reactions from others? ? Undeniably, people with social phobia are more sensitive to negative expressions of others. As long as it is in social activities, patients are always used to looking for negative expressions on other people's faces as feedback for their bad behavior, thus making themselves more nervous in social activities. In fact, patients can seek positive feedback from others. For example, if you smile, others will smile back, indicating that the other party is not hostile to you. You can try to start a conversation, starting with talking about each other's clothes or any small thing you observe, and you will find that it is not so difficult to talk to others in public.
4. Looking back on the positive experience in social activities, post-event analysis is almost a job that every social phobia patient will do. They feel that by analyzing their social performance and recalling their mistakes, they can learn a lesson and avoid making mistakes again. But in fact, the process of recalling their mistakes will bring anxiety to patients and make them feel that they are social failures. Only when patients recall their positive experiences in social activities can they increase their courage to participate in social activities and affirm themselves. Therefore, after you take part in a social activity, please remember your good performance and try to do better next time. Overcoming social phobia requires not only courage but also self-confidence. Please encourage yourself, affirm yourself and let yourself have the courage and confidence to face difficulties and challenges. If your illness is too serious to adjust yourself, I suggest you seek the help of a professional psychologist.
The above is about social phobia and its related problems. If you have any related questions, please seek professional help. Psychological counseling is to use psychological theories and methods to help visitors find their own problems and their roots, tap their own potential, change their original cognitive structure and behavior, and maintain mental health.
Finally, choosing a suitable counselor is an important guarantee for the effect of psychological counseling. Please choose carefully.