How to control your emotions?

First, go out for a walk and avoid the environment that makes you angry for a while. You can travel or just go outside, go to an empty place, take a deep breath, and force yourself to let go of unpleasant things for a while to calm down. Second, think calmly and then think calmly. Ask yourself what you are angry about. Is it worth getting angry about? Is there a better solution than anger? Use rational thinking to control your emotions, be the master of emotions, not his captive, and let them expand freely. Say to yourself: he is not aiming at me. Many times, other people's bad emotions are not because of you, but may have their own reasons. So don't blame yourself for your anger. Anger is not given by others, but your misunderstanding. We should also think about how to control our emotions. We should control our emotions and don't do anything wrong because of their influence. Third, reduce anger. Treat the person you quarrel with as a mad dog. Someone once asked a Taoist how to reduce fire. The monk said that a long-distance traveler met a mad dog barking at him. Will travelers choose to bypass it and move on, or will they choose to squat down and howl at the mad dog? I believe you must have your own answer in your heart. Fourth, tell yourself not to be crazy about trifles. If you can't bear to be small, you will be great. If you care about small things, you will be rude in front of others. Therefore, we should do a good job in emotional management and leave a narrow-minded impression on others. The consequence of this is a small loss of job opportunities and a big betrayal of relatives. Therefore, you should learn to swallow your pride and make a small loss, which will not bring you much influence, but can enhance the impression of people around you. Fifth, exercise yourself and train interpersonal stress resistance. There is always someone around us who we find most annoying, which makes us always want to escape and work in a different environment. But even if this most annoying person disappears, the second most annoying person will be upgraded to the most annoying person, so there are annoying people everywhere, and it is useless to escape. Therefore, to exercise your resistance, you can only exercise your self-cultivation in front of annoying people. If you want to exercise your interpersonal relationship, but you don't know much about it. Imagine more happy things. Don't let unpleasant memories dominate your life, turn grief into strength. Sometimes you may get angry because others look down on you. Don't care about other people's behavior, set your own goals and work hard. Your success and achievements are better than countless refutations, and it is the most powerful counterattack against those who once looked down on us. How to control your emotions? Emotional management is to be good at controlling oneself, modulating and adjusting emotions, to stop the reactions caused by contradictions and events in life, and to relieve the tense psychological state in time with an optimistic attitude and humorous taste. Emotion refers to the short and strong reaction of individuals to the relationship between their own needs and objective things. It is a kind of subjective feeling, physiological reaction and cognitive interaction, which expresses some specific behaviors. Emotional management is a means to excavate and control these feelings, reactions, evaluations and specific behaviors. Emotion Introduction Emotion is an individual's subjective and conscious experience and feeling of external stimuli, which is manifested in psychological and physiological reactions. We can't directly observe our inner feelings, but we can infer them from their explicit behavior or physiological changes. Conscious state is a necessary condition for emotional experience. Emotion is the possibility or even inevitability of an organism's success in behavior, and the evaluation and experience in physiological reaction includes seven kinds: joy, anger, worry, thinking, sadness, fear and shock. The stronger the behavior in body movements, the stronger the emotions, such as dancing with joy, gnashing your teeth with anger, thinking about tea and rice, and being heartbroken. Are the reactions of emotions in body movements. Emotion is a part of the whole self-confidence, which is in harmony with extroversion cognition and external consciousness in self-confidence. It is a temporary and intense physiological evaluation and experience of self-confidence. Daniel Gorman, a professor of psychology at Harvard University in the United States, said: "Emotion refers to emotion and its unique ideological, psychological and physiological state, as well as a series of tendencies to take action." Emotion can not be completely eliminated, but it can be effectively channeled, effectively managed and moderately controlled. Emotions are not good or bad, but generally only positive and negative. There are good and bad behaviors caused by emotions, and the consequences of behaviors are also good and bad. Therefore, emotional management is not to eliminate emotions, and there is no need to eliminate emotions, but to ease emotions and rationalize one's beliefs and behaviors. This is the basic category of emotional management. Emotional management basically defines emotional management, which is to explore your emotions in the right way, and then adjust your emotions, understand your emotions, and relax your emotions. To put it simply, emotional management is the process of feeling, controlling and regulating individual and group emotions, and its core must take humanism principle as the most important management principle, so that human nature and emotions can be fully developed and human values can be fully reflected; Starting from respecting, relying on, developing and perfecting people, we should improve our self-awareness of emotions, control the low tide of emotions, maintain an optimistic attitude, and constantly carry out self-motivation and self-improvement. Emotional management is not to remove or suppress emotions, but to adjust the expression of emotions after perceiving them. Some psychologists believe that emotional regulation is a process in which individuals manage and change their own or others' emotions. In this process, through certain strategies and mechanisms, emotions have changed in physiological activities, subjective experience, expression and behavior. In this way, although there are positive and negative emotions, the real key lies not in the emotion itself, but in the way of expression. Expressing the right emotions in the right way and on the right occasion is the way of healthy emotional management. Emotional management is to be good at controlling oneself, modulating and regulating emotions, to stop the reactions caused by contradictions and events in life, and to relieve the tense psychological state in time with an optimistic attitude and humorous interest. Emotion is the experience of people's attitude towards things. Negative emotions and emotions formed by people are often only short-lived. After a period of pain, the intense experience disappears with the disappearance of the stimulus. Long-term emotional depression has a great influence on personal health, and the degree of influence varies from person to person. Four basic expressions of emotions: happiness, anger, fear and sadness. Pain is the most common negative emotion. "Emotion" is a weak, persistent and immersive emotional state; "Passion" is a violent and short-lived emotional state; "Stress" is an emotional state caused by unexpected events. Problem-solving ability: People who can constantly learn the ability to solve life, work and interpersonal activities have less pressure and more stable and mature emotions. Health-willing to exercise, pay attention to diet and life. Interpersonal aspects-tolerance, mutual support and care. Work-keep learning, don't waste time, and manage your time effectively. The spice of life-spice and optimism. First, observe your emotions. That is, always remind yourself: "What is my mood now? For example, when you are unfriendly to your friend because he is late for an appointment, ask yourself, "Why should I do this? How do I feel now? If you realize that you are angry with your friends for being late again and again, you can handle your anger better. Many people think that "people should not have emotions", so they refuse to admit that they have negative emotions. You should know that people have emotions, and suppressing emotions will bring worse results. Learning to observe your emotions is the first step in emotional management. Second, express your emotions appropriately. Give an example of a friend being late for an appointment. You may be angry because he worries you. In this case, you can gently tell him, "You haven't arrived after the appointed time. I'm afraid something will happen to you on the road. Try to convey to him the feeling of "I'm so worried" and let him know how you will feel if he is late. What is an inappropriate expression? For example, you accuse him of being late for every appointment. Why don't you consider my feelings? When you criticize the other person, it will also cause his negative emotions. He will become a hedgehog and be busy defending against foreign attacks. He can't stand in your position and think of you. His reaction may be: "There is a traffic jam on the road! what can I do? Do you think I don't want to be on time? As a result, the two began to quarrel, not to mention a happy date. How to "properly express" emotions is an art, which needs to be experienced, carefully pondered and, more importantly, used in life. Third, ease the mood in an appropriate way. There are many ways to relieve emotions. Some people will cry bitterly, some will complain to their friends, some will go shopping, listen to music, take a walk or force themselves to do other things to avoid unpleasant memories. Worse ways are drinking, driving fast, and even committing suicide. I want to remind you that the purpose of relieving emotions is to give yourself a chance to sort out your thoughts, make yourself feel better and have more energy to face the future. If the way to relieve emotions is just to escape the pain temporarily and then suffer more pain, it is not an appropriate way. If you feel uncomfortable, you should face it bravely and think seriously. Why are you so sad and angry? What should I do so as not to make the same mistake in the future? What can I do to reduce my unhappiness? Will this be more harmful? According to these angles, choose a way that suits you and can effectively relieve your emotions, and you will be able to control your emotions instead of letting them control you!