Parents and children are equal in personality. Parents and children are not masters and slaves, but equal, respectful, caring and trusting friendships. Parents should respect and understand their children, look at the problem from their point of view, communicate with them more when things happen, and understand their real thoughts so as to prescribe the right medicine.
How can we really master the inner world of children? Personally, I think: that is to communicate with children more, but the most important thing in communication is to be good at listening. Because not being good at listening will not only hinder the cultivation of children's good character, but also hinder the improvement of children's language level and understanding of children's real situation.
Because of his age, what a child expresses may not be consistent with what he wants. If you only hear the superficial language and don't understand his inner feelings, communication is prone to inconsistency between the superficial language and the inner language. We know that children's expression level is limited, and it is common for them to express their true thoughts, which requires us to listen attentively. Even when he grows up, he still has to listen attentively. Why?
With the growth of age and rich thoughts, people become more and more complicated. If we don't listen carefully, we still don't know what he is thinking and what kind of support his parents need most. Listening is so important, but listening is becoming less and less in our family.
Many of our parents don't understand their children's desire to listen, and don't understand what their children can only say to their parents. Some parents don't want to listen at all. There is no denying that China's parents are mostly office workers and have their own careers. Life is very fast every day, and only family members get together at night or on weekends; It is really difficult to spend time and energy to create an atmosphere for listening to children, and everyone's energy is not allowed. Parents' patience is also limited. Every day, they are filled with a lot of work. They work most of the time and even work overtime at home at night. It is really difficult to test children's patience at this time. As parents, if we want to get quick success and instant benefit, we just want to solve our children's problems in the shortest time, and think that we are self-righteous and don't need to listen any more, then our children's problems will only be ignored and sorted out, and we will become more and more disobedient. Our parents will become more and more impatient and helpless, and finally enter a vicious circle.
As far as human nature is concerned, parents don't want to listen, but we must overcome the weakness of human nature, spare more time, be more patient, communicate with children more, and satisfy children's desire for listening. Everyone needs to listen, including children. Let's be a listening parent and accompany our children to grow up healthily.
Different educational methods will have different educational effects.
Different family education methods will lead to different children's personalities. If parents spoil and spoil their children too much, then children will develop willful, presumptuous and good or bad characters. If you care too much about your child, and you are afraid that your child will be hurt, and you don't let your child contact others, and you don't let your child be independent, you will make your child timid and rely on your parents when things happen.
So what should parents do to make their children have a good personality?
First of all, I think children should be given a good and complete family environment. This family should live in harmony and love each other, which will make the children feel happy. Children in this environment are lively, cheerful and enthusiastic.
Furthermore, parents should pay attention to their own cultivation. Because parents are their children's first teachers, how can they educate their children if their morality is not good? However, if parents have very good moral character, respect themselves and others, then children will be educated into people with good moral character.
Finally, parents should educate their children in the right way. If the child does something wrong, he should be given correct guidance and let him know the truth of doing something wrong, instead of cursing the child indiscriminately, because messing up the scolding will only hurt the child's young mind.