Although teenagers develop rapidly, their personality and will are still in an immature and unstable stage. They have just come into contact with society, and they lack personal experience, correct understanding and psychological preparation for setbacks. In addition, they are competitive and eager for success, so when encountering setbacks, they will more or less show a psychological tendency of poor tolerance for setbacks. However, frustration education is conducive to improving students' determination, confidence and perseverance to overcome difficulties; It is conducive to enhancing students' tolerance, adaptability and overcoming ability to setbacks; It is conducive to promoting the healthy development and maturity of teenagers' physiology and psychology. Then, as a class teacher, how to effectively cultivate students' ability to resist setbacks? Combined with years of study and the work practice of the class teacher, the author here talks about some superficial views to entertain colleagues.
First, protect students' self-esteem and help them establish firm beliefs.
Self-esteem is the intrinsic motivation for students to be positive, overcome difficulties and educate themselves. When students are frustrated, their self-esteem is very fragile and they need special protection. The head teacher should give them psychological guidance and avoid "shutting them out" in a simple and rude way. Only when people have firm belief support can they persevere and persevere. Therefore, when encountering setbacks,
Have confidence,
Have the will,
Firmly believe,
Suffer setbacks,
Accept the test,
Welcome to victory. The head teacher should pay attention to the infiltration of moral education. By organizing students to watch movies and other activities, students can see their revolutionary optimism and strong beliefs, as well as their indomitable character in the face of difficulties and enemies, guide them to establish firm beliefs, scientific world outlook, outlook on life and lofty ideals, and improve their frustration tolerance.
Second, guide students to correctly understand and treat setbacks.
In study and life, students will inevitably encounter setbacks. Teachers should guide students from theoretical study and life experience to make them realize that frustration is a normal phenomenon in study and life. At the same time, we should also realize that it is not a bad thing for a person to experience some appropriate setbacks in life, because setbacks can sharpen his will and improve his ability to reverse adversity, overcome difficulties and adapt to social life. Educate students when they are frustrated,
We should treat setbacks with a positive attitude,
Analyze it,
Solve,
Get rid of it. Accumulate frustration experience, correctly attribute setbacks, and learn to use psychological defense mechanisms such as transfer, venting, compensation and sublimation to eliminate bad emotions after setbacks. Only in this way will we not be knocked down by setbacks.
Third, carry out psychological counseling to improve the psychological quality of frustration.
Psychological consultation is an important way and practical means to improve the psychological quality of middle school students. The head teacher should strengthen the study of psychological knowledge, improve the quality of psychological education, and often give individual counseling and guidance to students with psychological confusion in the form of letters or interviews to help students learn to know themselves correctly, evaluate themselves, motivate themselves and adjust themselves, so as to alleviate their psychological tension and conflicts, improve their adaptability and safeguard their physical and mental health. Through psychological counseling, students who have suffered setbacks can not only be provided with a place to vent their minds, but also learn to correctly understand setbacks and master strategies to deal with them.
Fourth, create frustration situations and accumulate frustration experience.
Psychology believes that a person's experience of setbacks has a great influence on the endurance of setbacks. Today's students, who have been spoiled since childhood, are mostly self-centered and have little experience in dealing with setbacks. Once you suffer setbacks and blows, you will have negative psychology, panic and low tolerance. Therefore, in order to improve students' frustration tolerance, it is necessary for the class teacher to create frustration situations purposefully and carefully, so that they can experience all kinds of setbacks. Such as sports competitions, knowledge contests, etc. You can also organize students to participate in social practice activities appropriately, so that students can suffer hardships and exercise their will in the activities. Through the creation of a series of frustration situations like this, students have accumulated some frustration experience to varying degrees, which enables students to forge ahead in adversity and grow up in frustration, which is very conducive to enhancing their psychological endurance and ability to solve setbacks.
Fifth, teach students specific methods to resist setbacks.
Carry out mental health education regularly and pay attention to psychological counseling in study, interpersonal relationship and adaptation. It can guide students to learn psychological counseling books by themselves, carry out targeted self-education and psychological training, cultivate good personality and exercise psychological ability. Focus on teaching the methods of self-psychological adjustment, and pay attention to guiding students to use them flexibly in life and study practice, and constantly sum up and improve. Such as: self-consolation method. Don't be depressed in the face of setbacks, comfort yourself and encourage yourself; speak After frustration, pour out bad emotions through reasonable channels to get psychological relief and inner balance; Compensation method. After a student's goal in one aspect is frustrated, he can achieve another goal that may be successful through other ways, as a substitute compensation, and gain psychological balance; Adjustment target method. After frustration, review whether the original goal is in line with reality, and if it is not in line with or beyond reality, revise the goal again. Through these methods, students can learn psychological health care, self-improvement, self-regulation, interpersonal communication and frustration tolerance, and cultivate their ability to bear and solve setbacks.
Six, set an example and carry out frustration education.
"The power of example is endless. Under the influence of specific role models, students can deepen their understanding of setbacks, stimulate their inner enthusiasm for progress, and improve their self-study behavior of turning setbacks into self-exercise. The head teacher should consciously collect some typical examples of great men and celebrities overcoming all kinds of difficulties and setbacks, and tell them to the students from the aspects of study, interpersonal relationship, emotion and ideal, so as to set an excellent example for them. For example, Sima Qian, who endured humiliation and unyielding, was angry with history; Zhang Haidi, who is physically disabled and self-reliant; Darwin, he was in a difficult situation, but he was stubborn and independent, and so on. In this way, when they encounter setbacks, they will look up to the example and turn it into great spiritual strength.
Seven, teach students in accordance with their aptitude and in a proper way.
Frustration education is very important for students' growth, which can achieve the effect that appreciation education can't. However, it should be noted that children of different ages, different environments and different sexes have great differences in mental development; There are also individual differences among children of the same age, environment and gender. Therefore, we should teach students in accordance with their aptitude.
We should choose appropriate frustration education methods for different students. For example, the free method makes excellent students feel depressed. Excellent growth period in praise, weak psychological endurance. In order to create the healthy psychology of outstanding students, we can adopt the method of letting the first prize float among many outstanding students to form a situation of catching up with each other in learning, so that outstanding students can treat the first correctly, accept failure with a positive attitude, and understand that advanced students may not always be advanced, and backward students may not always be backward; The opposite method hinders the solution of the problem. Most problem students are tired of learning, indifferent, hostile and suspicious, and their inferiority complex is hard to change. General punishment and criticism are just scratching their boots for them. However, problem students like cultural and sports activities. If we grasp their strong desire for expression and carry out seemingly ruthless reverse care, it is possible to touch their hearts and change their lives.
Eight, home-school cooperation to promote the healthy growth of students.
The head teacher can publicize the importance of frustration education to parents through parents' seminars, parents' schools, parents' training classes and other forms, help parents understand the essence of frustration education and gain parents' knowledge. At the same time, we can also teach parents the relevant knowledge and methods of frustration education, put forward specific requirements for parents, let parents correctly understand their important position and role in frustration education, actively cooperate with schools to carry out frustration education, and avoid the phenomenon that family education offsets the role of school education, so that families and schools can coordinate and form educational synergy.
In short, there are many ways to cultivate students' ability to resist setbacks. In today's quality education, the cultivation of students' good psychological quality and sound personality can not be ignored. The head teacher should make good use of these methods in combination with the actual situation, creatively carry out multi-level, multi-form and multi-channel frustration education, strive to improve students' psychological quality, promote their all-round development, and help each student to be full of positive and enterprising confidence, be optimistic and play the strongest voice in life.