The concept of infantile anorectal period was developed by psychoanalyst Sigmund? Freud proposed it, Sigmund? Freud divided the development of individual personality into five stages. The first stage is the oral stage, which is what we usually call the oral desire stage, and the second stage is the anal stage, which is the anal desire stage.
Sigmund? According to Freud's psychoanalytic theory, the anal desire period of a baby is generally 1-3 years old. At this stage, the baby's sexually sensitive area is transferred from the mouth to the anus, and the baby gets pleasure through the retention and discharge of feces. This stage is also the period when parents train their babies to defecate regularly. Therefore, the baby will feel that his defecation will have an impact on his parents.
Baby's urine and urine are basically out of control in infancy, will there be a saying? Rectum? It is very common to defecate while eating, because the baby's defecation system is not well developed.
When the baby is about one year old, with the arrival of micturition reflex period, once the baby's bladder is full, it will stimulate the baby's urethra and sphincter, so that the baby's brain can receive information and then send out micturition signals.
What will happen when the baby reaches the anal desire period?
When the baby grows to 1-3 years old, it is what we call anal desire period. Some babies have learned to call their parents after defecation, but when it comes to anal desire, the baby suddenly refuses to tell his parents, and there is a phenomenon of defecation retrogression.
Babies in this period think that feces are a part of their own bodies, which is regarded as excreting feces? Contribution? , or to? A gift? . Babies in this period even express their awareness of the surrounding environment through defecation.
The baby takes the initiative to defecate in a certain environment, which shows that he is expressing positive obedience to this environment. If the baby is unwilling to defecate in a certain environment for a long time, it means that the baby rejects this environment, which means that the baby is unwilling to make concessions by not defecating.
The baby's anal period usually lasts about two months. In these two months, there are likely to be many scenes that make parents furious. Washing your baby's pants and cleaning up your baby's poop will appear frequently every day.
Many babies have headaches when they reach the anorectal stage. For example, a baby who used to call his parents when he wanted to poop suddenly didn't want to talk about it, so he got a pair of pants when he went back, or simply hid in a corner that adults couldn't see. As a result, he basically spent a lot of time cleaning up.
The anal desire period also makes many parents completely at a loss about their baby's defecation. If they are facing the enemy, they always try to artificially control the baby's defecation, such as regularly urging the baby to defecate in the bathroom to prevent delay.
However, it is unscientific for parents to try to control the baby's defecation during the anal period.
Baby? Anal period? Parents are nervous? This will help the baby spend a better time.
How to help your baby get through the anal period smoothly?
1, accept and respect
Anal desire period is a necessary stage of baby's psychological and physical development, and acceptance and respect will help the baby to get through it smoothly.
For the baby's anorectal period, parents should first adjust their mentality, accept the baby's performance during this period, avoid impatience, nervousness and seriousness, avoid negative guidance to the baby, and let the baby treat the anorectal period with a normal attitude. At the same time, we should respect the baby.
For example, if the baby wets his pants or defecates in his pants, parents must respect the baby, face the baby's situation with a normal heart and accept the baby's performance. Don't talk about this, let alone joke with anyone, let alone discuss it in front of the baby. Family members should have the same attitude towards the baby's anorectal period to avoid bringing anxiety to the baby, otherwise it will prolong the baby's anorectal period.
2. Don't interrupt or force
Once many parents find their baby urinating, they take the baby to the bathroom and force the baby to solve it on the toilet. I hope the baby can develop good defecation habits in this way.
However, this practice of parents will destroy the baby's defecation and urination experience.
If parents are too compulsive about their baby's toilet training, it may make them feel nervous. Under such psychological pressure, the baby's natural rhythm of controlling defecation will be disrupted. If the baby urinates more times in his pants, the baby's anorexia period will be prolonged accordingly.
If there is too much interference, some babies will find it difficult to end the anorectal period for even a few months or more than half a year. Don't think it doesn't matter. This situation means that the baby's sexual development has stagnated, and the baby's subsequent growth and development will be delayed.
In addition, once some parents find that the baby's defecation law has changed, they think that the baby is constipated and has physical problems, so they forcibly take Kaisailu to cope with the baby's anal desire period. Such blind compulsion will make the baby associate fear and pain with defecation, and even cause the baby's fear and pain of defecation, which will make the baby suppress his urination and defecation, which may lead to the baby's real constipation in the long run.
This kind of parents must pay attention not to influence the baby's defecation law by taking medicine or forcing the baby to eat a lot of fruits and vegetables because of the change of the baby's defecation law, forcing the baby to change the development process of anal desire, which is likely to make the baby think that there is something wrong with his body, and the baby's ideological burden will increase, which will produce psychological pressure on defecation.
Step 3 treat it calmly
In the face of the baby defecating in his pants, parents must adjust their mentality and tell the baby as calmly and gently as possible. There is no need to worry, for example, it's okay, baby, and mother can change the baby into clean pants and continue to play.
Parents should not remind their baby every time: I got my pants again this time and remember to go to the toilet next time.
Infants in anorectal stage already know to urinate in the bathroom, but babies at this stage may not be able to do it for the time being. If the parents are extremely anxious, pretend to calmly remind the baby what to do next time, and the baby will notice.
Many times, parents subconsciously expect their babies to be like adults? Normal defecation? I think it's embarrassing for the baby to pee his pants. In fact, this kind of humiliation is just what parents think of as humiliation. If that's what this is about? Shame? Putting pressure on your baby is actually a kind of rejection, which will affect your baby.
If the baby often wets his pants, you can use diapers for the baby like a blossoming mother to relieve the pressure on the baby's anus. Don't blame the baby rudely when the baby grabs the stool with his hand. Tell the baby calmly and gently that there are bacteria in stool and urine, which will make the baby sick, and then help the baby clean up. Don't curse children with dirty words, shyness and other languages.
Some parents always like to laugh and scold their babies when they wet their pants, trying to make them realize their mistakes in this way, but parents' ridicule and scolding will only make their children feel inferior and have a negative impact on their personality development. In the face of the baby's anal desire period, parents should first ensure that their mentality is stable, which will help the baby's growth.