Let children develop in an all-round way
A child is like a tree, and his abilities and qualities in all aspects are like branches and leaves. A leafy tree is a strong tree, and a child with all-round quality is a healthy child.
Now, the three states of family education.
First, parents only stare at the branch of their children's scores and ignore other branches. Cut off the branches of children's paintings, children's extracurricular activities and music, leaving only the branches of music. Imagine what this tree has become. Second, parents see that their children are always inferior to other children's specialties, and are inferior to other children in a certain way, so they have the idea of quick success and instant benefit, and they do not hesitate to pull out the seedlings and even treat their children in a way of beating and cursing. In this way, the tree seems to grow taller, but its vitality is declining day by day, because parents have pulled out the root of their children's invisible life.
Now some parents let their children learn this and that according to their own ideas. The child is in great pain. Parents blame their children. He made great efforts, but the child still made no progress. ...
There is also a kind of parents who give their children free development space and guide them to develop in the direction they are good at. Society needs all kinds of talents, both scientists and waiters. Children who always take the first place in school are more difficult to become talents when they grow up than those who rank in the top ten or twenty. From our own experience, many students who have achieved excellent results in school may not be very successful after entering the society. What society teaches us is much more important than what schools teach us. Your child is likely to get the "first place" in society that he can't get at school.
Society needs people with all-round qualities. The key is to give full play to children's potential, find their own points, be the best of themselves, and be happy for a lifetime.
Get out of the misunderstanding of nagging
You may not realize that your children are tired of you because of your nagging. Taking care of your children like this is counterproductive and does not make them grow up healthily. Do you know why? It is because parents don't understand their children's psychology and can't think from their children's point of view.
As parents, we must remember that nagging is not educating children, but mostly parents find a balance for their hard work.
Some mothers nag their husbands endlessly, and as a result, they work hard at home all day long, but they have no prestige in front of their husbands and children. When children are older, they will look down on their nagging mothers. This is the failure of being a mother and the sorrow of many mothers.
The consequences of nagging at home
1, nagging easily leads to children's emotional rebellion-the more you nag your child, the more you ignore him.
2, nagging is easy to cause parent-child estrangement-strong rebellious psychology makes children afraid and irritable, leading to both parents and children in trouble.
3. nagging is bad for parents' image in children's mind.
Too many accusations and complaints, even sarcasm, make children feel bored and disgusted. Aimless nagging, saying what you see and where you want to go, makes children at a loss.
Create a good parent-child relationship
The relationship between parents and children is the earliest interpersonal relationship established by children. Parent-child relationship itself has obvious educational function and great influence. A good parent-child relationship is democratic, equal, mutual understanding and full of affection. It is very important to cultivate a good parent-child relationship, which requires parents' unremitting efforts, just like farmers constantly improve the soil for a bumper harvest.
Creating a good parent-child relationship can be found and provided for parents and friends to learn from.
First, consider the problem from the child's point of view, so that children can understand that their parents have been caring and accepting them.
Don't care, just accept it
To accept is to face the reality. Parents should calm down, accept some shortcomings of their children, think that there is still room for recovery, let their children understand your tolerance and generosity, and then find ways to deal with the problems they face.
Parents should not stare at their children's shortcomings. Parents staring at their children's shortcomings are actually strengthening their children's shortcomings.
Second, except school, every child can develop his own potential and broaden various fields of development.
Warn parents and friends, don't just stare at their children's studies, just stare at their exam results, but also explore their potential in other aspects.
Third, there are many solutions to a problem. Don't stick to an answer and have a conflict with your child.
The society has entered the information age, and the channels for children to acquire knowledge are constantly expanding. It is no longer the words and deeds of schools and parents. Today's children have more advantages than their parents in concept and knowledge, and now their parents are losing their natural authority in front of their children.
Parents and friends should not use their habits to solve problems and have conflicts with their children. They should listen to their children's opinions, study and seek solutions to problems with them.
Fourth, parents should constantly improve themselves and make progress every day.
Learning is not only a matter for children, but also a matter for parents. Parents should not only learn to accumulate knowledge, but also improve themselves in personal quality. The main method of family education is teaching by example, and the biggest feature of teaching by example is subtle influence.
Parents and children read books on family education together and learn various experiences.
Sixth, colorful family activities to cultivate parent-child relationship.
For children, the learning environment is everywhere. As long as there is a good environment, children's learning has already begun.
Listening to songs, reading aloud, telling stories, playing chess, hiking and taking part in labor are all good ways to cultivate parent-child relationship.
Parent-child relationship is close, and parents and children trust each other. Parents should cultivate their children's self-confidence, treat their children's shortcomings correctly, help their children correct their mistakes, provide opportunities for their children to display their talents without hurting their self-esteem, and make their parents the most lovely and respectable people in their eyes.