Bad habits 1: impatient, busy and stressed. When I got home, I couldn't help shouting, "Why are you always crying?" Stop crying, I hate it! "Reminder: A child with self-esteem and respect for others must first be respected by adults.
Bad habit 2: Don't avoid getting married for many years. You and your lover often quarrel in front of the children over trivial matters. Reminder: Our hostility and quarrels set a bad example for children's aggressive behavior.
Bad habit 3: Too generous. You are thrifty, reluctant to buy yourself new clothes, but you are generous to your child and never teach him to save. Reminder: Our "love" will make children only know how to take, but not how to give. Bad habit 4: I don't care if you come home from work every day. I always habitually ask my children, "How are you doing in kindergarten?" Ask, while busy cooking, cleaning the room, or reading the newspaper. Reminder: Our behavior seems to tell children: I don't care about your answer. As a result, the child thinks that we don't respect him and learn to perfunctory others. Bad habit 5: Don't admit that your child quarrels with other children for toys. Your punishment is a little too heavy, but you think: parents should match their words with their deeds, so they never take back their words. Reminder: We made a mistake and refused to admit our mistakes, and the children also admitted their mistakes. Bad habit 6: Complaining about friends breaking their promises. You complain to your child and wife, "Don't talk to him again." Reminder: You let the children see that in the face of disappointment, we did not actively try to solve the problem, but just complained and blamed others. Bad habit 7: Don't entertain children, clamoring for you to tell him stories, but you are always busy with other things. Reminder: Our behavior makes children understand a "truth": all work and no play in life, only housework and no games in the family. Bad habit 8: quarrel. You and your children are waiting in line at the supermarket for payment. A woman cut in line and stood in front of you. You argued with her and finally got into an argument. Reminder: Our practice gives children the wrong social skills training, and makes them mistakenly think that quarreling, abuse and even fighting are good ways to solve contradictions. Bad habit 9: lying and shirking. You are a member of the kindergarten parents' committee, and the teacher asked you to help write a few small articles for use in the garden newspaper. But you have been very busy, and then you call the teacher and tell her that you are ill and ask her to find another parent to write. Reminder: If you back down before trying, children learn to put their promises behind them and let themselves pass the buck easily by lying. Bad habit 10: Speak ill of your spouse. The road to marriage has finally come to an end, and your heart is full of resentment against each other. So you tell your 6-year-old daughter about the other person's shortcomings and tell her, "Mom/Dad doesn't want you, so you must never talk to him/her again." Reminder: In this way, children learn hatred and revenge. The bigger problem is that she will have no confidence in the happiness of her life. Bad habit 1 1: too tolerant. One day, you suddenly found out that your lover was having an affair! You tolerate, you tell yourself: "As long as he/she still wants this home, what else do you want?" Isn't it just to give children a complete home? " Reminder: The seemingly complete home created by our "goodwill" cannot give children enough warmth and love. Bad habit 12: disrespect for the elderly. Your mother-in-law tried every means to obstruct this marriage. Therefore, after marriage, you never honor the old people, never take your son to play with them, and often curse the old people behind their backs. Reminder: If you don't set an example of filial piety for your children, the consequences will come to you one day! Bad habit 13: You are always used to littering, and your wife will clean up everything you litter, so you never have to worry. Reminder: In this way, children will also develop the habit of putting all the responsibilities on others. Bad habit 14: You always encourage your children to learn from Kong Rong's pears at home, but you grab seats with the elderly and children on the bus, or let them climb onto the sculpture and pose at the "No Entry" sign. Reminder: Say one thing and do another, it will be difficult for children to adhere to their own moral integrity when they grow up. Bad habit 15: Love to compare with others. You always say to your child, "He is better than you!" " "Reminder: We always measure our children by other children's standards, which will make children focus on comparing with others and be easily influenced by others when they grow up. Bad habit 16: There's another traffic jam on the road. You drove through the emergency parking lane. The 5-year-old daughter behind asks you, "Why do we have to go this way? You said, "There are no policemen and no cameras here. It doesn't matter. "Reminder: When we break the rules without supervision, children learn that we can do anything as long as we are not caught. Bad habit 17: Love you too much. You are busy in the kitchen. When your 6-year-old son comes in and wants to help, you quickly push the child out of the kitchen: "Go, go, don't mind your own business and stay there. "Reminder: Our" love "for children makes them think that everything is the parents' business. Bad habit 18: When you are not convinced, you tell your lover angrily in front of the children: "Xiao Wang has been promoted. What's so great about him? Doesn't he understand computers? " Reminder: If you don't admit that you are inferior to others, children will learn to be self-centered and not enterprising. Bad habit 19: suppress initiative. When your 5-year-old son tried to open the alarm clock, you couldn't help flying into a rage: "What do children know? Freeze! " Reminder: Simply saying "no" can only destroy the parent-child relationship, suppress the child's initiative and force the child to go underground. Bad habit 20: even deceive and threaten your daughter to buy Barbie dolls. If you want to stop her, or even cheat and intimidate her, say, "If you don't listen, the police will arrest you." "If you don't listen, mom and dad don't want you."