How to help and care for the healthy growth of children with difficulties

The author believes that caring for and helping children with difficulties seems simple, but it is not as easy as we thought. This is a difficult, long and challenging road. In addition to great enthusiasm and perseverance, it is also important to correctly grasp the ways and means of visiting and the skills of helping. First, the reality and ideological status of children with difficulties. Due to various reasons such as poor family circumstances and imperfect family members, children with difficulties are not in line with their actual age compared with children of the same age, and they are too mature in thought. Some children will have all kinds of psychological problems, which directly affect their normal daily behavior, so that they often have some words and deeds different from other children at home, at school and in society, which is very unfavorable to their own growth and development. The main manifestations are: (1) Most of the children with difficulties in our detachment belong to family members who are not sound, some lack fathers, and some lack mothers. Because they left their parents' care at an early age, they seriously lacked the care from their parents. Although some of them are supervised by grandparents or relatives and friends, after all, unlike the care of their parents, these children with difficulties will feel powerless and helpless when they encounter troubles and problems, and over time they will become unwilling to communicate with others and introverted. Other children are short-tempered, impulsive, and angry. They often escalate unprovoked trifles into fights and cannot make friends with classmates or peers around them normally. (2) Psychological inferiority caused by poor family circumstances. Most children have the psychology of keeping up with the joneses and like to compare "Mom and Dad's work, their toys and pocket money". Children from poor families may feel inferior to other children because of a new dress, a new pair of shoes and a toy. If they are not well and effectively induced at this stage, over time, they will have psychological barriers of inferiority in constant comparison, and some even give up on themselves, lose confidence and don't want to learn. (3) Depression due to loneliness. Some parents of children with difficulties work outside the home for a long time and seldom go home. Because of the age gap, communication has certain obstacles. Children who are often alone, lack normal emotional communication for a long time, are easy to feel lost and lonely at home, and have a certain degree of depression recently. Some children will think that their families are poor and their parents are unable to go out to work, thus generating resentment. More extreme children even have resentment towards society and doubts about life. Second, it is a hot and difficult issue for the whole society to take measures to make children with difficulties grow up healthily. As a border policeman, we also have the responsibility and obligation to care for them and actively create conditions for them to grow up healthily in the same sky and sunshine, so that they can have the same happy childhood and the same wonderful life. Based on the grass-roots work of public security frontier defense, the author thinks that the care and assistance work should mainly start from the following aspects: (1) establishing files and grasping the situation. According to the task, at the beginning of the visit, it is necessary to find out the basic situation of children with difficulties and establish a dynamic file for each pair of helpers, mainly including the name of parents (supervisors), the name and telephone number of teachers, the basic situation of children, detailed home address, contact information (telephone number) and the source of family income. Tell the child and his guardian the contact information of the police (helper) so as to keep in touch at any time. At the same time, according to the changes of children with difficulties, timely supplement or change the relevant contents of the file. In this way, convenient communication channels with children's parents and teachers have been effectively established, and a caring contact network centered on helping children has been formed. (2) Smile and pay attention to details. Making a good first impression on children is an important prerequisite for successful help. When we first came to a family that helped children, it was both strange and sudden for children. Adults at home will be happy to welcome us, even grateful, because they understand our behavior. But for children, they have doubts, and they will think, why do these people come to my house to see me? What are they doing? At this time, if you act rashly, don't pay attention to ways and means, rush up to approach the child, hold the child's hand or touch the child's head, the child will often show disgust, avoidance and incomprehension. Therefore, you should pay great attention to the image and tone when you help the police enter the door for the first time. We should speak appropriately, quietly, kindly, with a smile and a happy mood, which makes people feel kind and makes children willing to communicate with you. At the same time, do more homework before visiting, find close people to help children understand their personality and hobbies, let children trust them to accompany them to visit, and then slowly befriend and communicate with children until they open their hearts. (3) Plan with your heart and care with your heart. In the work of helping and caring, we must not be eager for quick success and quick success, and we must not help just to complete the task. Without emotion, task-based help will not only be recognized by the masses, but also arouse their disgust, and even cause additional psychological trauma to the already fragile children with difficulties. Since we have formed a helping pair with children in difficulty, we must persist in helping and caring to the end. First of all, according to the actual situation of the help object, we should formulate a feasible help plan, refine the time, place, content and specific measures of help into a work implementation table one by one, and strictly follow the plan. Secondly, we should pay attention to practical results, adjust the assistance measures in time according to the changes in the situation, visit more, know more, ask more questions and analyze more at ordinary times, ask more questions in study and help more in life, and always put care first in the assistance work. (4) Eliminate chronic diseases and promote health. As children from poor families, due to the great differences in family environment and economic conditions, their family situation will be very different, especially in personal psychology. Due to the lack of family ties and poverty, some children from poor families have some misunderstandings about moral behavior and mental health to some extent. Therefore, in view of this situation, we should combine home visits, police camp open days, students' military training, heart-to-heart talks and other activities, and carry out regular ideological exchanges, emotional education, independent life education, inspirational education and considerate parents education with children to help them truly feel care and concern and experience the joy and happiness of life growth. At the same time, according to children's age and endurance, combined with interesting games, psychological counseling, psychological counseling and psychological correction activities are selectively carried out to cultivate them to establish a correct outlook on life, world outlook and values. (5) Strengthen communication and enhance mutual trust. Only by winning the children's hearts can we do a solid job of helping and achieve the expected help effect. We don't usually live together, and our contact time is limited. It's really not easy to win the trust of children. The author believes that only through constant communication can people enhance mutual understanding and trust. In fact, children are the same. Only by constantly contacting him and letting them know that someone cares about him and always cares about him, will he rely on you and trust you ideologically. The daily duties of the public security frontier police are heavy. How to do a "part-time job" well, how to do the best in a limited time, and how to benefit the children most can be practiced from the following aspects: First, we can strengthen communication and contact with children by telephone or letter, listen to their growth and progress, and give them more encouragement; Secondly, during festivals or winter and summer vacations, children can be invited to play the role of "police parents" to help them to be guests at home, so that they can feel the love and warmth from outside the family, master their life, study and realistic thoughts through chatting and playing games, and enhance their trust in the police through interaction; Third, you can take the initiative to participate in children's social activities and participate in "parent-teacher conferences" and school cultural performances as "acting parents" so that children can truly feel the sincerity and true love of the police. The wisdom of young people means the wisdom of the country, the wealth of young people means the wealth of the country, the strength of young people means the independence of the country, the freedom of young people means the freedom of the country, and the progress of young people means the progress of the country. Caring for children in difficulty is the responsibility and obligation of each of us. Let's give our love, weave a pair of dream wings for them and help them grow into useful talents for the country and society.