As long as parents think their children are promising, they will. This is the famous educator's piggy Marion effect.
Arbitrarily scolding and beating a child will make him lose his thinking ability.
A family without laughter can't raise a child with a good brain.
Giving children a space to be alone can cultivate children's habit of thinking.
6. When a child solves a difficult problem, don't just point out his mistakes, but acknowledge and praise what he did right.
7. Some people say that the process of children's growth is also the process of parents shaping themselves. This is not unreasonable. Parents should get used to growing up with their children.
8. Letting children do more can train their minds.
9. forbidding children to talk to themselves is tantamount to forcing them to give up thinking.
10, parents should frankly express their surprise for their children's "new discovery".
1 1, let children walk freely, which is beneficial to the development of mind.
12. "Playing a role" can enhance children's imagination. Let's play games with the children.
If children dance, taste, touch, hear, see and feel information, they can learn almost everything.
14. The impression children get when they are young, even if it is small and almost imperceptible, will have a very significant and lasting impact.
15, developing children's talents is not how smart your children are, but how smart they are.
Four foundations to make your baby smarter:
1. It is necessary to cultivate children's habit of talking with their parents and improve their language expression ability during the conversation.
2. Cultivate children's interest in observing and exploring things around them.
3. Teach children to read and cultivate their reading habits.
4. Prepare paper and crayons for preschool children, and let them draw what they are interested in. For a long time, many parents are willing to follow some established parenting concepts to raise their children. In fact, with the passage of time, the concept of parenting is constantly changing. The following five parenting concepts are tips for parents according to the latest research results.
Classical music can improve IQ.
Analysis: There is no doubt that music can enrich a baby's life. But can listening to classical music improve IQ? In fact, this conclusion comes from an American experiment in 1993. In the comparative test of listening and not listening to Mozart sonatas, the scores of the listening group are higher than those of the non-listening group, and they are widely spread. Therefore, classical music CDs specially played for babies and even fetuses have also come out. Let mothers believe that those elegant music can improve their children's intelligence.
A study shows that children aged 4-6 can improve their memory and attention by learning some musical instruments. But whether it helps children's IQ is still inconclusive. Therefore, if parents want their children to benefit from music, they still suggest learning a musical instrument when their children are old enough.
Sign language is good for children to speak early.
Analysis: Sign language is helpful to help babies express their needs earlier. But experts believe that when parents use sign language to their babies, they are also expressing it directly with their mouths. In other words, parents and children actually have two ways to communicate. In this way, sign language only plays a positive auxiliary role in the baby's language expression. What's more, there is no scientific evidence to show that speaking, walking and literacy earlier is of great significance to the baby's longevity. Update: Sign language should not be regarded as a utilitarian means of parenting, but as a form of parent-child communication with the baby, which should be carried out on the premise of time and energy. This is more conducive to parents and babies to communicate in a relaxed and happy state.
A walker helps a baby walk.
Analysis: A study confirmed that every 24 hours a baby uses a walker will delay its standing alone for 3.3 days. Moreover, the walker has a bigger problem, that is, the child is easy to bump or fall down the stairs when moving. According to the data, during the Walker epidemic, 2.5 Wan Baobao suffered accidental injuries every year in the United States. Updated version: Because the walker can easily become a safety hazard for children, it is best not to use it, so that the baby can learn to stand and walk with his own feet and legs from the beginning.
Entering kindergarten too early is not conducive to growth.
Analysis: Although some studies have confirmed that children who enter kindergarten earlier will have more behavioral problems than those who stay at home. However, there is no significant difference between the two parenting styles. Especially today's research shows that when children go out of the house more often, their self-care, self-control, independent problem-solving and social skills are improved to varying degrees.
In fact, each family's environment is different, each child's personality is different, and the situation encountered by children is different, so it is difficult to quantify the impact of different environments on children with the same standard. Facts have proved that children who grow up in any environment will be happy as long as they get enough attention and encouragement. Therefore, you don't have to worry too much about whether your child enters kindergarten too early, but which way is more suitable for your family and the best way for your child.
Television affects the baby's attention.
Analysis: There have been many research projects focusing on the relationship between watching TV and attention, but the conclusions are quite different.
A study conducted in the United States on infants who watch a lot of TV programs between the ages of 3 and 4 found that these children have attention problems at the age of 7; However, another study concluded that there was no correlation between them. However, despite this, other negative effects brought by television still exist. Because the baby can't accurately distinguish between life on TV and real life, watching TV will take up a lot of time for the baby to improve his physical fitness and social skills.
Updated version: It is absolutely unnecessary to prohibit the baby from watching TV. For example, some cartoons are still inspiring to children's growth. But the best way is to spend more time and energy with children to do some activities outside TV, such as games and telling stories. Definition of nouns: blind spot of will
Babies have a strong impulse to express their wishes, but nothing lasts for a long time. They must participate and cannot be forced. Or against the wishes of parents, or even some bad behavior; Or you can't control your behavior well. This is a "blind spot of will".
Behavior description
At a get-together, a mother chatted with me. She asked some knowledge about parenting. From her conversation, she learned that her son was two years old. He is a little man with big ideas, but he often makes trouble by expressing his will, or he resists any orders from his mother with "don't" and often plays with meaningless things. She asked how children of this age should be managed.
psychoanalysis
1. Will is the expression of the baby's subjective initiative.
Will is one of the three major psychological processes of human beings, a unique psychological phenomenon, and a prominent manifestation of infant's subjective initiative. People's personality characteristics and willpower are formed before the age of 3. At this time, the baby's will is enhanced and it begins to be a bit rebellious. Sometimes he says "no" to all instructions and doesn't buy the sermon. By the age of 2, the baby has a strong desire to learn, eager to express his free will, and has a sense of participation. However, due to his lack of fine motor skills and poor language skills, he can only add chaos to his parents.
2. Will is an important link to cultivate independence.
Independence is an important step in a baby's growth. From 1 year-old, the performance of willpower occurs from time to time, and it is more frequent and intense at the age of 2. About 2 years old, the baby's behavior is often chaotic, with independent ideas, and begins to form his own will, lacking practical life experience. In the process of baby's independence, you will encounter the following things: refusing parents' demands, opposing parents, ignoring parents, avoiding parents and so on. In fact, this is not that the baby is going against his parents, but a concrete manifestation of his rapid growth of willpower.
3. The development of will and the sociality of psychology develop simultaneously.
Will is always manifested in activities, whether the baby seeks to feed when he is hungry or refuses to feed when he is full, whether the baby is willing and tolerant of other children playing with toys or can patiently repair broken toys, there is will in the process of motivation and behavior inhibition. In the early days, the baby's will development is synchronized with its psychosocial and emotional development. The baby's personality characteristics have been basically shaped before the age of 3, although there will be some changes in the later growth process, but this change does not seem obvious. Therefore, we often say "look at the old at the age of three".
4. Will expression is an inevitable step of self-development.
1 year old, the baby's bad behavior may be caused by frustration. At first, the baby's will may be quite tenacious. When he becomes more independent, he will try his best to show his will. Soon, he will no longer accept his parents' complete control over his life. He will challenge his parents' wishes and strongly insist on his own opinions. For example, the baby may not like the food that Mommy chooses for him, and the clothes that Mommy prepares for him. No matter what parents say, he will say "no". The process of baby's willpower development is that the purpose of action is never clear and gradually clear, but if you lack sufficient persistence and self-control, your baby's endurance will be poor, and even you may not be able to stand a little setback.
Parenting strategy
1. Encourage in time.
If the baby wants to do something, parents should help him realize his wish, don't hurt his self-esteem, let alone pursue perfection. Too many restrictions will hurt the baby's self-esteem, make him obedient and dependent, and lack self-reliance ability. Congratulations on the success of baby Didi in time, and thanks for his kindness will make him more confident.
2. Set a suitable model for the baby.
If you want your baby to be confident, parents must first be confident in themselves. If the parents themselves are not confident, his behavior will send a wrong message to the baby: everything is uncertain, and I don't know if I am right or wrong. Therefore, parents must set an example of self-confidence for their babies.
3. Actively guide them
Babies aged 2-3 often like to imitate their parents and do things they can't do. At this time, parents should guide and help him to establish a view of right and wrong and explain why he can't do it. It can also divert the baby's attention, let him do something within his power, and prevent him from feeling frustrated when doing these things beyond his power. Parents should do their best for the baby's development, not just be satisfied with his resistance, nor be too limited. Blindly satisfied can easily lead to the baby's willfulness and stubbornness, while too many restrictions can lead to the baby's over-dependence and lack of self-confidence.
Step 4 listen to the baby's thoughts
Relatives give more care to the baby, which is the source and support of his confidence. Babies surrounded by caring atmosphere are often more confident than those who lack caring. Only when parents listen patiently can they really find the crux of the baby's problem, and then solve the problems he faces quickly and effectively. Every time the baby's heart knot is untied, it may help him to restore his self-confidence and get the warmth of being cared for.
5. Strengthen inhibition exercises
It is not a good practice to obey the baby's wishes too much. Parents should make a rough range of rules for their baby, within which he can have his own choices, but outside this range he must be bound. This can not only protect the baby's autonomy and self-confidence, but also prevent him from overindulgence and self-centeredness. It is essential to exercise restraint, and mommy should consciously cultivate the baby's endurance. The cultivation of endurance must start from an early age, and you can start training from ordinary games. When playing games with your baby, tell him that as long as you play, you will win and lose, and play strictly according to the agreed rules of the game. When playing games, parents should not always accommodate and accommodate their babies. There is nothing wrong with letting him try properly and fail. Usually, parents can consciously praise other children in front of their baby, so that he can understand that he is not the only outstanding person, and others also have advantages. He needs to learn to appreciate the advantages of others, teach the baby how to get along with others, how to accept others, how to learn to bear failures and overcome difficulties.