Only 15% of a person's success depends on his professional skills, while 85% depends on his interpersonal relationship and ability to deal with people.
This is what Carnegie, a famous interpersonal master, said.
Faced with these situations, many parents usually ignore them and think that their children are still young and will be fine when they grow up.
But as we all know, according to the data survey of the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in 2020, 1 person in every 88 children in the world suffers from autism.
China's clinical data show that:
Among the autistic people in China, 65% are children.
Among these 65%, nearly 80% of the children were out of breath when they were young, or they were inarticulate, intermittent, panting, illogical, timid, unconfident, paused, repeated, delayed or blocked.
It leads to imperfect or distorted expression, which makes children lack self-confidence, avoid socializing and even refuse to explain and communicate.
This kind of children usually dare not make eye contact with others, and there will be unknown so crying and so on. Among them, if there are obvious language barriers, children's language system will be disordered because they dare not speak for a long time, and may eventually become stuttering and stuttering.
If parents don't find ways to correct and guide their children in time and let things continue to develop, children will not get better after forming physical memory and language habit memory, but may be accompanied by serious mental problems such as paranoia, inattention and even depression.
This bad influence often lasts for a lifetime, and the result is likely to be irreversible.
Therefore, children, parents must attach great importance to these performances mentioned by your children just now, because this is equivalent to a "bomb" lurking around their children, affecting their physical and mental health all the time, and even affecting their future studies, careers and lives.
It is precisely because many children have such problems that many training institutions are active in leaflets, TV and other major media advertisements under the banner of solving these problems for children, and sometimes they can be seen by brushing Tik Tok.
However, these institutions have different levels and are mixed.
It is because of the large demand that parents are eager to improve their children's situation. Many unprofessional organizations have grasped the parents' psychology and tried to share a piece of the children's eloquence.
In order to prevent parents from blindly choosing to step on the pit, parents are advised to pay attention to the following points, and the last point is the most easily overlooked! Everyone must finish reading:
1 First of all, stimulate children's interest in learning and reading.
Playing is a child's nature. Han Haiying, a famous young psychologist in China, shared in People's Daily:
Therefore, when choosing language expression courses for children, we must ensure that this training institution has both professional methods and interesting presentation forms for children to accept.
Animation close to life, coupled with short stories and games that penetrate children's interests, is a very good introduction.
If the child is not interested in the course, it will not only be useless, but also the result may be counterproductive, which will make the child have serious resistance.
Secondly, the curriculum system is very important.
Language expression courses are very different from other interest classes. We should not only be a science major in the curriculum system, but also give a targeted study plan.
Because after all, every child's situation is different, not only in age, basic oral English, expression ability and wording ability.
For example:
A child is not afraid of strangers and can open his mouth in the face of strangers and acquaintances, but his language organization ability is not good and his speech is upside down. What about the other child, who lacks self-confidence and is timid since childhood? Then it is suitable for different curriculum systems. Even if two children are similar in age, the same teaching method cannot be applied.
The most crucial point is the level of teachers.
There are many training institutions, most of which are non-professional teachers, because the offline threshold is very low. As long as they meet the standard of Mandarin, they can be employed after a few days of simple training. Maybe it's an art teacher or a calligraphy teacher who teaches children every day.
Some teachers have strong personal abilities. For example, although he graduated as a broadcasting host, he doesn't understand children's psychology, so no matter how good he teaches, children can't accept it, can't absorb it, and it's useless to spend more money.
Therefore, we should choose a versatile teacher, preferably a broadcast host and a strong Chinese language professional. At the same time, we also have in-depth research on children's psychology and education, so that teachers can better guide children in all directions and make up for their shortcomings.
Finally, it is easy to be overlooked, that is, after-school exercises.
The practice time in class is only forty or fifty minutes, which is very short. If children want to improve efficiently, they definitely need high-frequency training and high-frequency feedback from teachers and parents, which will help children deepen their memories and help them expand their vocabulary quickly.
Therefore, a professional and responsible language expression training institution will pay special attention to children's after-school exercises, and classroom teachers will often contact parents to ask them about their recent practice progress and difficult interpretations, thus promoting the development of children's habits.
It is also very important that although many children's language eloquence training institutions in the market have arranged after-school exercises for their children, like schools, several children have arranged the same homework tasks, and institutions with this situation cannot choose.
Because, as mentioned above, each child's basic skills are different, and the lack of points is different. The homework after class is the same, which is a perfunctory and irresponsible performance, which has not improved the children at all and has little effect.
Teaching children should not be the end of solving problems, but the beginning of solving children's problems.
There are also some parents who go to the hospital in a hurry and choose offline broadcasting classes or language performance classes for their children. I don't recommend it to you here, because it has also entered a big misunderstanding!
Money is spent a lot, and the children's performance on the stage is not bad, but after returning to life, the children's language expression ability has not improved.
Why is this?
It is because language expression is literal meaning, a form of expression and a kind of "false confidence". I believe many parents also participated in many group activities when they were young, such as the June 1st performance and the class meeting performance.
When people grow up to face teachers in the workplace and need to express their communication, they will certainly feel insecure, afraid to face them and want to retreat.
Therefore, even if the child can perform well on the stage, it does not mean that the child has good language skills, nor can it change the child's introverted and timid personality.
Some parents said that there are similar offline eloquence classes in our local area.
But you know what? Offline eloquence classes are divided into two categories:
One is affiliated institutions, and the other is institutions run by teachers themselves.
Parents are least advised to choose franchisees. Franchisees have two fatal problems:
First, the curriculum system is too old, which was basically formulated 10 years ago, and can no longer be applied and fit for the growth needs of children now.
Second, teachers are generally unprofessional, and most of them are unprofessional teachers. After a few days of training, they will take up their posts. If the teacher is not professional, the learning effect can not be guaranteed at all.
Compared with affiliated institutions, the institutions run by teachers themselves will be slightly better. Most of them are teachers in broadcasting and hosting. The only drawback is that there is no complete curriculum system, and every teacher is the same. At the same time, teachers may have strong single ability and relatively weak comprehensive ability.
In addition to the above two serious injuries, there are several shortcomings in the offline "language performance" class that need your special attention:
Most parents will choose institutions within 3 kilometers from home for their children, and it is a headache for many parents to pick up their children for cram school.
According to incomplete statistics, in China, 73% of children are transported to school by grandparents, and electric vehicles are the main means of transportation. It's cold in winter and hot in summer, and the most important thing is that there are security risks.
According to the WHO survey, in the past five years, accidental injury was the second leading cause of child death, after childhood leukemia and other diseases.
Among the accidental injuries, up to 95% of the incidents come from traffic accidents on the way to and from home and school.
Offline language performance schools often lack a scientific and systematic curriculum system. 99% of offline institutions do not have the ability of teaching and research. Children's curriculum can only rely on the ability of teachers. The situation of "thousands of people and thousands of faces" happens from time to time. Language expression is not a cultural course, but it must be systematic in order to have a good learning effect. Fragmented teaching can not really improve students.
Offline institutions have a low threshold for teachers, and most institutions only require teachers to meet the standard of Putonghua. After a few days of simple training, they will be on duty to teach. It's just that the professional requirements of eloquence courses for teachers are much higher than those of art and dance courses. Without a good teacher, good learning results can't be guaranteed at all. If you spend money for nothing, you can't get money for your precious time.
Among the teachers in offline institutions, part-time teachers account for 90% or even higher. The teacher is only in charge of class, and there is almost no service after class.
In addition to the classroom, eloquence learning needs regular practice. Then the problem is coming. Parents are really helpless about their children's eloquence and can't effectively coach their children to practice. Therefore, the service of teachers after class is particularly important, and teachers need regular counseling to have better learning results.
Most offline institutions adopt large class teaching, and the number of students in one class is basically above 8- 15. There are many problems in large class teaching. First, each child's situation is different, and large class teaching cannot be personalized.
To sum up, if your child has similar problems, first of all, parents must pay enough attention to it, so as to avoid a temporary omission leading to lifelong regret for the child.
Secondly, when choosing training institutions, we must keep our eyes open and avoid detours.