The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a difficult problem for many families. Some in-laws are really mean to their daughters-in-law, and they are always critical and disgusting. Here are some ways to treat your mother-in-law.
How to make mother-in-law the most ruthless and Japanese? 1 Holding financial power.
If you want to have the right to speak at home, you must master the financial power so that your husband will stand on your side. Don't be stupid enough to sacrifice yourself for your family and be a full-time wife.
In the previous generation's impression, it was a woman's duty to take care of children. Taking care of children at home will not create value for the family. How many families have separated because their wives are at home full-time and have nothing in common with their husbands, which eventually leads to family breakdown.
Pull your husband to your side.
Sometimes, crying children have candy to eat. A woman should not speak ill of her mother-in-law in front of her husband, but learn to show weakness. Many women blow pillows and say that many mothers-in-law are not. The purpose is to woo her husband to deal with her mother-in-law. If you have such an idea, you are doomed to have no wisdom.
Those smart women don't have direct conflict with their mother-in-law, but rely on their husbands to stand on their side, so their mother-in-law naturally won't take advantage.
Learn to cope with the cold.
Sometimes, my mother-in-law will be unreasonable. If you quarrel with her, you are trapped. So the best way is to treat it coldly, or let the husband communicate with his mother-in-law and try not to confront him.
Don't live with your mother-in-law
The best way to get back at your mother-in-law is to stay away from her. Talk less, do your own thing, and don't take the initiative to care about her. Keep her out of your life. She's just a guest staying at your house.
Your child had better take care of himself, because then he will be closer to you and stranger to grandma when he grows up. This is the best way to get back at his mother-in-law.
How to make the whole mother-in-law the most heartless and lifeless? 2. First, act before the enemy.
When you become a daughter-in-law, you don't have to deliberately please your mother-in-law. You are not related by blood. Because a man is combined, you can't talk about who he is, and you can't afford to laugh. But when you are a daughter-in-law, you are a junior. No matter what attitude your mother-in-law has, your daughter-in-law is practical. You say yours, I will do mine, and give her basic respect.
Second, I often praise my mother-in-law.
As the saying goes, good words are warm in three winters. Who doesn't like compliments? When you hear others praise you for being young and beautiful, are you as happy as a flower? Although your mother-in-law has entered the old age and experienced ups and downs in her life, she may be mentally determined, but she still has no resistance to compliments from others.
When she put on new clothes, she was praised as beautiful today, as if she were ten years younger. I believe she will smile happily and have a good impression on you. I once had a friend who married her boyfriend of five years after graduating from college.
Third, I often take my mother-in-law shopping
It is a woman's nature to love shopping. Don't think that your mother-in-law can't go shopping because she is old. But this is not the case. My mother-in-law stays at home all the year round, explains things in simple terms, and occasionally takes her out shopping, which can not only arouse her memories of youth, but also help her physical and mental health.
She can see what young people like now and understand what new fashion trends have emerged in modern society. At this time, you not only spend more time with your mother-in-law, but also make her feel closer to you. So, take your mother-in-law out shopping more, so that you can get along well in this family.
Fourth, don't make out with your husband in front of your mother-in-law.
You know, when the mother-in-law is old, the average old man will not be as open-minded as the young man. They will be somewhat conservative and feudal, and they are very disgusted with the intimate behavior between men and women. Of course, we understand that marriage exists because of love, and the intimate behavior between husband and wife is normal, but you must choose the right time and place.
If you have intimate behavior with your husband in front of your mother-in-law, she will think that a woman like you is too frivolous to bear the stability and responsibility that a wife should have. A friend of mine once made such a stupid mistake. It took her nearly two weeks to ease the embarrassing atmosphere with her mother-in-law. This made her have a lingering fear when she recalled this incident.
Of course, each family has its own situation, but the reason is the same. Can be independent, put yourself in others' shoes. Even if there are contradictions, they will be solved quickly. Mother-in-law is not the enemy. Both of them live under the same roof, correct their mentality and gain different mother-in-law relationships.
How to make the whole mother-in-law the most ruthless and discouraged 3 1? You can't take it out on your husband when you quarrel with your mother-in-law.
Remember, don't scold your husband when quarreling with your mother-in-law, such as "You won't help me!" Angry words like "I really married you blind" will only make your husband feel that it's your fault, so in normal times, you have to grab a man's heart and let him stand on your side, and you're half the battle.
Don't take it out on the children when quarreling.
After all, the child is innocent and may even be scolded to find her mother-in-law. You should have a good talk with him and let the children stand on the same line with you.
Don't be angry with her husband when you quarrel with her.
Then you really lost. If she sees that you are angry with her, she will laugh in the dark, so you must not show your anger after the quarrel, but stand in front of your mother-in-law more happily and do something meaningless to make her angry, so you will succeed.
4. Intelligent evidence collection
For the mother-in-law who denies what she said and says she didn't scold you, you should find an opportunity to secretly record it as evidence when she scolded you, and then broadcast it when she made it out of nothing in front of her relatives, so that anyone with a bad mouth can know it at once.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is essentially a problem of interpersonal communication. As long as there is such interpersonal relationship, contradictions are inevitable, but more or less, or hidden or present.
The research of German evolutionary psychologist Euler and the investigation report of Purdue University in the United States show that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most disharmonious among the four relationships: mother-in-law, father-in-law and son-in-law, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law.
But like China, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become a mainstream topic, which is really rare. Whether it is the eternal theme in urban TV series, the scandal of married women or personal experience, it shows that the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the most important social topics in China.
What caused this phenomenal trouble? Generally speaking, psychologists and sociologists explain it this way: traditional China families attach importance to the parent-child relationship and ignore the relationship between husband and wife.
The younger generation (especially young women), receiving modern education, regards loving marriage as the core of the family. These two concepts are bound to conflict.
There must be a conflict of ideas. The problem is that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is formed by the accumulation of trivial matters, and it is based on the "infringement" of parents on the married life of married children.