The method of cultivating children to face problems independently from childhood
1. Cultivate children's spirit of facing problems bravely. Many parents are strict with their children because of their safety. In this way, the child loses the ability to judge and solve problems independently, and gradually makes him feel too dependent on his parents.
For example, my sister's way of disciplining children is to keep them away from home and keep away from others. Although I am already in junior high school, there will be someone to pick me up and drop me off. I don't know that this constraint often stifles children's spirit of exploration and adventure.
For another example, when my sister saw the child fall, she immediately ran over and held the child nervously and asked, "Does it hurt?" Where did you knock? " The child didn't feel pain at first, but after feeling his mother's nervousness, he began to cry with a "wow".
Therefore, parents' excessive concern and nervousness have become a major obstacle for children to face problems independently. In the future, children may be taken away by their parents for fear of falling and become more and more timid.
Therefore, when the child is young, parents may wish to encourage him to play "adventure games", such as jumping down the low steps and swinging. Although it is a trivial matter, it is still helpful to cultivate children's brave spirit.
2. Be sure to give children the opportunity to solve problems independently. Parents can hand over the small things that need to be dealt with in daily life to their children so that they can get exercise in the process of dealing with things at ordinary times.
In addition, parents can set some difficulties and challenges for their children to exercise more and experience more.
For example, in life, I will let my child do something he has never done before, and let him go to the supermarket to buy food alone to see if he can spend money reasonably and buy fresh vegetables. Although he may not be as successful as he first thought, the food he bought is not fresh, and he will forget what I asked him to buy. After all, this is something he has never done alone, mainly depending on his performance. You can also give him the task of delivering express at home, and so on. By dealing with these trivial matters, children can learn to communicate with others and get opportunities for exercise.
3. Help children have the ability to think independently.
Parents can ask their children some problems in life and encourage them to think independently about ways to solve them.
For example, "Xiao Ming doesn't like teachers. What should he do? " "Lele is often bullied by other children in kindergarten. What if I am afraid of going to kindergarten? "
As a parent, you should encourage your child to speak all his thoughts, even if they are unreasonable, absurd and ridiculous ... At this time, you should keep your own thoughts no matter what you listen to, and don't make any comments on your child's views. When children can't think of more ways, parents can ask their children, "What kind of results will these methods bring?" Let the children think for themselves what the result of each method will be.
4. Enhance children's ability to cope with emergencies. Parents should cultivate their children's ability to deal with emergencies.
For example, you can ask him, "If mom doesn't pick you up after school, and a stranger tells you that he is mom's good friend, will you go with him?" "The charger plug suddenly caught fire. What should you do? " "When you and grandma were at home, someone told you that he was a courier of a courier company. Will you open the door for him? " Do more such parent-child questions and answers, and in the event of an accident in the future, the child will be able to cope smoothly.
5. Teach children to solve problems they don't understand. When a child encounters some problems, parents can ask him if he has tried to solve them without telling him the solutions. Have you tried everything? Give the child some hints to see if he can solve it.
If the child tries hard, but fails to solve it, parents should encourage the child to ask for advice from people around him.
Conclusion: Parents should pay attention to actively helping their children to broaden their knowledge, because if children don't have enough knowledge reserves and don't know how to play their wisdom, even if the problem is simple, they can't find a solution.
Therefore, parents should encourage their children to read more books, correctly use the knowledge and truth in the books and solve their own problems.