1, love for children is a kind of selfish selflessness, a kind of self-sacrifice for the public. If this kind of kinship is blind, it can really make you sacrifice everything for your children, including yourself and the world.
If short-term separation promotes love and long-term separation stifles love, then marriage occupies a more favorable position than not getting married, because it itself excludes long-term separation, and we only need to arrange some short-term separation for it.
3. A good relationship between men and women is flexible, neither rigid possession nor weak attachment to each other. The best gift lovers can give each other is freedom. The love between two free people has the necessary tension, firm but not stiff, lingering but not sticky. Love without gaps is terrible. Love loses its breathing space in it, and sooner or later it will suffocate.
4. Under any autocratic system, the harsh moral court must prevail, and its duty is to judge the evil of human nature in the name of virtue. In fact, by this measure, everyone is guilty, at least a potential sinner. However, perhaps because of this, moral judgment can arouse crazy enthusiasm more.
We might as well look at our earthly experience from God's standpoint, but we will always be mortal, not God. Therefore, everyone's earthly experience is particularly important to themselves.
6. People who have no place to stand are everywhere and think they are free. Aren't there still too many people like this today? Without their own beliefs, they call it freedom of thought. Without their own position, they call it freedom of action. Women who don't have their own are called freedom of love. However, true freedom is always based on choice and restriction. To love this flower is to reject other flowers. Even if a person loves everything, he still has to find a clear goal for his love, and then his love for human nature can be satisfied.
7. We are holding a book. If we are restless, even the best book can't be read, let alone understand its beauty. The same is true of reading the book of life. In fact, only when people are quiet can their hearts and senses be truly open, thus becoming keen and in the best relationship with their objects. However, peace of mind cannot be forced, it is a realm and the result of world outlook. A person who doesn't know what he really wants must always be in a state of mind.
8. In the name of friendship, there is no unbreakable friendship. Finally, they accused each other of not being friends enough and expressed their indignation at the fragility of friendship. What does friendship have to do with it? The so-called friendship is false from the beginning, but it is a mask and tool of interest. Today, people give it an appropriate name, called emotional investment, which is more realistic. I hope people will be more honest when investing and tell the investors their profit targets.
9. It's easy to love only your relatives and friends, and it's easy to hate your enemies, because it's all out of a limited person's instinct. How difficult is it to be a father who loves children, a man who loves young and beautiful women, and a person who loves those who are kind to himself? As a member of a certain ethnic group, you hate enemies, as a subject of a certain country, as an authentic believer, you hate pagans, and as a passionate person, you hate people who hurt your feelings and interests. What's the difficulty? It is difficult to transcend all these limitations and not be dominated by narrow instincts and customs. As a son of the universe, he has the mind of the father of the universe and loves everything in the universe.
10, love is not the freezing point in life, but a flowing river. This river may have spectacular rapids, but there must be gentle currents, and there may be obvious main channels, but there may also be tributaries and undercurrents. In addition, the clouds in the sky and the scenery on both sides of the river will be reflected on the river, and the later wind and rain will make ripples and waves on the river. Let's admit that all this is an inseparable part of this river, and together they have created a beautiful love scene in our lives.
1 1, people look for love with conditions, but even the most perfect combination of various conditions does not exist. Love is not an object, love is a relationship, and it is the time and energy you spend on the object. The garden you cultivated is not as beautiful as the royal garden, but you love your garden instead of the royal garden. The woman you care about is not as beautiful as a female star, but you love your woman instead of a female star. Maybe you are willing to trade your garden for the royal garden and your woman for the actress, but at that time it was not love but desire that dominated you.
12. This dream can't be realized, and it doesn't need to be realized. Its value lies in itself. Having this dream itself is enjoyment, and the Peach Blossom Garden, good stories and divine comedy that record this dream have become the spiritual wealth of mankind.
13. But from another angle, I think this feature is also the advantage of people, which shows that people are born as a romantic animal. For people, all enjoyment will not be real enjoyment without the participation of imagination. People's imagination always adds some other value to simple things, and the added part is actually spiritual value. If you don't have passion to pursue in advance, you will interpret nostalgic melancholy afterwards, and direct possession will be boring. In fact, nostalgia and pursuit constitute the basic content of our spiritual life.
14, what is happiness? Jumping around all day is nothing. If meeting the requirements of nature is a waste, let them be wasted.
15, Dewey compared the teacher to the spokesman of God and the guide of heaven. Teachers not only impart knowledge, but also have an impact on the spirit, so he must have a lofty spiritual realm. Now people are discussing university reform. In my opinion, the core issue of university education is to have a group of scholars with noble minds and active thoughts, and the standard of the system is whether they can attract such scholars. With such a group of scholars, it is natural to cultivate outstanding talents. What is a good school? Quite simply, it is a school with a group of good teachers.
16, the question now is, if you are a dignified person and the other person is not, do you still talk about honesty with him? My answer is that I still want to talk about it. In this case, your honesty is manifested in telling him clearly: you are a person without dignity, and I will not deal with you! Never use fraud to deal with fraud, but to form an atmosphere in which people who don't speak good faith are despised and isolated. Perhaps this is the first step towards honesty.
17, living sincerely, living uniquely and living smartly is of course beautiful. But first, you have to be comfortable before you can talk about it. If you pay too much attention to your lifestyle and always show it to others or even yourself, then the more sincere, unique and chic you are, the more artificial, mediocre and formal your life will actually be.
18, can't tell the truth and the truth, silly. It is foolish to lie without telling.
19. Of course, spiritual creation is inseparable from the external environment, but what is more important is the internal environment. The sky is full of catkins, sunny and full of water, but if your heart is barren, your heart will still not be covered by green willows. Only when a seed falls on the right soil can it really exist as a seed.
20. The struggle in the world often focuses on the pursuit of material wealth. More material things are naturally good, and less is nothing, as long as they can ensure basic survival. In the pursuit of spiritual wealth, there is no conflict between people, and the wealth of one person will never lead to the poverty of another.
2 1, external circumstances are subject to external factors and beyond their own control, so they should not be the main goal of life. The only thing that can really dominate is the attitude towards all external environments. People who have a full inner life seem to have another higher self, who can keep a distance from the outside world, take an appropriate attitude towards changes and setbacks, and their mood is not disturbed by the ups and downs of the world.
22. The influence of things on people is inversely proportional to distance. The closer you get, the more you can control your mood. So the way to reduce and get rid of its influence is to find a foothold, which can distance us from things. If that foothold is still in the world and the distance from things is limited, we will gain a wise attitude. If we put that foothold outside the world and keep an infinite distance from things, we will get a detached attitude.
If we compare life to a reverse journey, we will find that the delay on the road is really an ordinary experience of life. We are moving towards an ideal life, and sooner or later we will stop at some point on the way because of various inevitable restrictions and accidental changes. We believe this is temporary, always waiting to get back on the road, hoping to live the life we really want one day, but never stop there. Some people gradually become practical and arrange their lives at this point with peace of mind. Some people are still waiting and waiting, and the years are ruthless. Finally, they lamented that they had been delayed for a lifetime.
24. Why are you alive? Since life itself has no purpose, this question will inevitably turn into another question quietly: how to live? The goals we set for life include God, art, career, love and so on. In fact, they are just the means we use to lead a aimless life, and life itself has become an end.
25. Perhaps, in the search for the meaning of life, people who value it don't care about the meaning itself, but in the search, and the meaning lies in the process of seeking. When we read the story of the hero's treasure hunt, what attracts us is not the treasure finally found, but the thrilling adventure situation on the way to treasure hunt. Finding meaning is a spiritual treasure hunt.
26. The meaning of life is the general topic and subtext of all life thinking. Because it is all-encompassing and ubiquitous, we are always answering and can't give a final answer.
27. However, in spite of this, you still want to jump, even though you know that another deeper trap is waiting for you. The most unbearable thing is to stay in the same trap forever. Perhaps freedom lies in the process of jumping.
28. Sometimes, I feel that all human concepts have disappeared in my mind and become meaningless sounds and symbols. So, I feel a kind of relief and a kind of fear.
29. There is sympathy, kindness and love between people. Therefore, there are compassion and heroes who sacrifice themselves to save others. However, after all, everyone is a biological and psychological individual, and only oneself can truly feel the most painful pain. In this sense, for everyone, he cares most about himself and the world cares most about him. It is against the individual's biological and psychological characteristics to ask others to care more about him than themselves and others to care more about him. The conclusion is that everyone should stand on their own feet.
30. There are many people in the world. You can say that he is anything, such as occupation, status, role, but not himself. If a person always lives according to other people's opinions, has no independent thinking, is always busy with external affairs and has no inner life, then it is not wrong to say that he is not himself. Because it really goes from his head to his heart, you can't find anything that really belongs to him. He is just the shadow of others, the machine of affairs.
3 1, they crowded on that road, competing with each other, pushing, blocking and stepping. What's ahead? I don't know, since everyone is rushing forward, it can't be wrong.
I once talked to a five-year-old boy and told him that I could do magic and turn a person into a fly. He was very surprised and asked me if I could turn him into a fly. I said yes. He was lost in thought, and then asked me if I could change back into a fly. I said no, and he decided not to let me change it. Me too, I want to be any kind of person and experience any kind of life, including kings, chaebol, saints, monks, robbers, prostitutes and so on. I even want to be a fly, but only if I can be myself again. So, in the final analysis, I prefer to be myself.
Although there have been countless leaves in the world, there will be countless leaves. Although all the leaves will wither eventually, I will still pull out my own green shoots.
Our sympathy for the suffering of others may be quite positive at first, but once the suffering lasts, our sympathy will fade away. Our patience in this respect is far less than others' sins. The evil of others that we have to endure seems to be fate, but the pain of others that we have to endure is almost evil.
35. A modern ecologist said that human beings live on the earth as guests of green plants. If we extend this statement, we can say that people are guests of the earth. As guests, we don't have to feel ashamed when enjoying the hospitality of our host, but at the same time we should know how to respect and thank our host. Being an educated guest is probably the most appropriate attitude towards nature.
36. Looking at the sea, you must be alone. With others, you can't see the truth of the sea. People who paddle on the beach and close companions around them will become shelters, where your eyes and heart hide to escape the threat of the sea. You must have nowhere to run, and let inexplicable forces swallow you up. Time has disappeared, space has disappeared, human beings have disappeared, cities and civilizations have disappeared, and you have disappeared, or you have merged with the sea and merged into eternal desolation.
37. Wisdom and cleverness are two different things. Cleverness refers to a person's ability, such as good memory, strong understanding, rich imagination, quick response and so on. With these qualities, combined with subjective efforts and objective opportunities, you can succeed in society and become a capable politician, knowledgeable scholar, shrewd businessman and so on. However, no matter how clever a person is, if he does not have enough wisdom, he will not achieve much after all. Perhaps it is for this reason that there have been more wise men than great men since ancient times.
38. People can't sit still, even if they can, they are not desirable, such as a pool of stagnant water. Your body can run around the world and your mood can fluctuate in the world of mortals. The key is that you must have a quiet core in your mind. With this core, you can become the master of your surging body and ups and downs.
39. No matter how much you love your job, no matter what your job is, you should keep an open spiritual space, an inner peace and leisure for yourself. Only in this spiritual space can you taste that career is the fruit of your life. If you don't have this space, you will always be busy, and your mind will always be filled with various firms related to your career. Then, no matter what external success you have achieved in your career, you will only waste your life without tasting its fruits.
40. There is one thing in the world that is more loyal to you than anything else, and that is your experience, your feelings and thoughts in the experience. They only belong to you and cannot be transferred to anyone else, but as long as you cherish them, they will be your most reliable wealth and no one can take them away. However, if you don't cherish it, it will be lost with the years and can't be found anywhere in the world.
4 1, the meaning of life lies in two aspects: the embodiment of life and soul. Exercise and maintain a healthy pace of life, although not particular, but not sloppy, is the value of life; Read more books, think more, be kind to others, not be artificial, not cater to someone or something, and keep the first beauty of life, which is also where the soul belongs.
42. The quality of all communication depends on the quality of the communicator. Only between two people with rich souls can there be truly touching love and friendship.
43. If I want to sum up my outlook on life in one sentence, it is true temperament. The so-called true temperament, on the one hand, attaches importance to personality and internal spiritual value, on the other hand, despises external utility. When a person measures anything, what he values is their significance in his own life, not how many practical benefits they can bring to himself. This attitude towards life is the true nature.
44. In a colorful city, finding a willow bud and a flower, a moment of silence will make people sincerely happy. In the desolate wilderness, people will be sincerely happy to find a lamp, a wisp of kitchen smoke and a trace. Everyone needs nature and civilization, and both are indispensable.
45. When one loneliness seeks another loneliness, there is a desire for love. However, can two lonely people get rid of loneliness together? Ruthless loneliness makes love an endless pursuit. Those who run on this endless road will eventually see through the limitations of small love and seek great love, or-transcend all love and reach no love.
46, strive for a good education, proficient in a professional knowledge or skills, master enough to survive the housekeeping skills. Try to choose a career according to your own interests. If you can't do it, treat your work with a professional attitude and develop your interest in your spare time.
47. Death likes to crawl. When we heard its footsteps, we met it before even stopping the song of life.
48. Spirituality is the understanding of the mind. A woman with spirituality is naturally smart and has an understanding and knowledge of things. She is extremely simple, but there is an amazing depth in simplicity.
49. All noble feelings are ashamed to express, and all profound experiences are inarticulate. People who are deeply sad will abuse their fate with laughter and cover up their sadness with a smile. A clown may know more about the sadness of life than a hero.
50. Life dies peacefully, without sound, waves or even ripples. How I hate this flat river bed, it absorbs any feeling. Suddenly, when I met an obstacle, the rock rose, and the wind was strong, splashing waves. Am I still alive? Yes, that's when I feel alive.
5 1. Loneliness is human destiny. It is based on the fact that each of us is an accidental existence in this world, from scratch and back to nothing. Nothing can change our destiny.
Almost all people call the unattainable realm they yearn for "happiness".
53. But what does the birth of all great spiritual men have to do with their hometown? They are great precisely because they never belong to their hometown, and they take the whole nation or mankind as the stage. Therefore, if we want to talk about glory, this glory only belongs to the nation or mankind. This should be self-evident to civilized people. For example, if a Frankfurter dazzles himself with Goethe's hometown, he will be laughed at by all Germans.
I have no chance of success, because I will never believe in myself or others.
55. In the pursuit of spiritual field, it goes without saying that secular success, social and historical recognition success, and even the success of spiritual pursuit itself are not the main goals. Here, the goal lies in the process, and the pursuit of spiritual value itself has become a way of life. The more persistent this pursuit is, the more it transcends the so-called success or failure. The unknown Tessa may be Tessa, and the ruined saint may be a saint.
56. I like being surrounded by irrelevant people, and no one pays attention to me.
57. Naturally healthy people are easy to understand each other; People born sick are often separated from each other.
58. Being understood is lucky, but not being understood is not necessarily unfortunate.
59. Using our exhausted imagination, we are frustrated and hovering in this land that we are also tired of, looking around at a loss and having nowhere to live.
60. Being sick will make people more human, lighter and more human. Love and friendship taste more delicate.
6 1, lovers are not bound to each other, this is their confidence in love. No one restricts anyone, and in the end, no one can live without anyone. This is true love.
62. Confession is the death certificate of understanding.
63. People give people the greatest happiness, and people give people the greatest pain.
64. No matter how busy the world is, it will always occupy only a small part of the world. The world outside it is boundless, and there is my place, a quiet place.
65. In love, if both are true, you will never forget to love one. If both of them are false, it doesn't hurt to take part in accidental amusement. The most terrible thing is that a truth and a lie will sow resentment and even disaster. Take the initiative to fake, play with feelings, culpable of punishment. Negative hypocrisy is never wise. For truth, you can't joke or perfunctory.
66. All the highest rewards and punishments are not extra, but the energy results caused by the actors themselves.
If someone has done something bad to you secretly, you'd better pretend not to know. Otherwise it will only increase his hostility to you. He hates you more and more because he speculates that you will hate him.
68. The whole value of health is to make us enjoy life happily. The most important way to enjoy is to do what we really like to do.
69. We are absent-minded and careless. We feel that everything we do is boring, not very tired, because we have energy, but no future. It's boring, because we have a wish, but nothing.
70. There are two tragedies in life. One is not getting your love, and the other is getting your love. There are two great pleasures in life. One is that you can't get what you love, so you can pursue and create. One is to get what you love so that you can taste and experience it.
7 1, to get into the habit of keeping a diary, I started writing at the age of five, saying that I started writing a diary at the age of five, which left a lot of good taste. The article was published at the age of [xx]. Diary is talking to yourself and forming the habit of being alone. People who keep a diary are more acute in life and will make you more seriously involved in life. The soul is the higher self.
72. I don't know that in the history of mankind, the world conquerors who claimed to be saviors caused far more suffering than ordinary gangsters.
73. I don't know love without lovelorn; You don't know life without setbacks.
74. Too noisy career and all too ostentatious feelings are doubtful. They are full of too many voices and fanaticism. Can they remain quiet and rich?
75. What we know best is often what we know least.
76. A lie becomes a truth if it is repeated ten times, and a lie if it is repeated ten times.
77. The distance between heart and heart is the nearest and farthest. Lonely people are out of place. However, everything can be fashionable, including loneliness.