1. Old people often spoil and pamper their children. Many old people often have a kind of psychological compensation, transferring and projecting all the life care they could not give their children when they were young to their grandchildren. And this kind of drowning love can easily become unprincipled indulgence and doting, which can easily lead to the baby being too "self-centered", affect the development of self-awareness and form a selfish and willful bad character.
2. Old people tend to arrange things for their babies and don't let them do it themselves. For example, they take pains to help their babies clean up toys scattered all over the floor. When they are gone, they hold their babies up and down the stairs, feed them bite by bite, and sometimes they chase after them ... This is not easy to cultivate their independent ability, so that they will lose confidence when they encounter difficulties, and they will only cry and wait for others to help, instead of trying and exercising, and they will only cry and lose their temper.
3. In addition, the elderly are easily bound by traditional ideas, and their education and parenting concepts are relatively backward. They want their children to be smart and obedient and not good at guiding them in a scientific and creative way. We are always eager to stop children's adventurous and innovative inquiry behaviors such as "disturbing" and "destroying" because of curiosity, which can easily destroy children's natural curiosity, adventurous spirit and innovative spirit, and it is difficult for children to form friendly exchanges and good qualities (such as humility and love of labor).
Generally speaking, the elderly take care of their children because they share their busy work and reduce the work of their parents, but long-term separation not only affects family life, but also affects the development of children from an early age.