Yesterday's post had a lot of questions from readers, and asked so many that I could only stand to answer as a whole.
I actually opened the door to the premise, just many people see the back and forget.
What did I say earlier? There's no need to read it if your family has a background, or if you have true love yourself.
What do you mean by true love?
jack to rose is true love, although at first it seems as if just want to cheat that what hit, but in the end he gave the right to life to rose, he froze to death, he does not regret.
As long as you don't regret it, you didn't make the wrong choice, and that's the highest moment of your life.
This is not an ability gap, this is an industry gap. He has no problem with ability, but he stays in a falling elevator. So he's running as hard as he can, doing pull-ups, but he's still descending.
I said yesterday that I gave him five times his original salary, and he was very happy, but if he hadn't studied liberal arts that year, or if he had exchanged the scores he piled up for the school for some of the better majors in the liberal arts, he would be looking down on that small amount of money today.
You think I said that? It came from him, he told me, I'm telling you.
His point was simply, please use him as a lesson. But that's not my point.
He chose wrong because he admitted it to himself, in other words, if he didn't admit it, then he never lost.
If, after ten years of work, I tempted him with five times his salary, he flatly refused and said back to me, "Can a great man bend over for five times his salary?
Then he didn't pick the wrong one, he picked the right one, and it was his true love.
If he had told me frankly that he was prepared to **** with the paper business, I would have looked at him with admiration.
But he did not, he abandoned his youthful choice, abandoned the chaff, in my place three days a small feast, five days a big feast. I asked him if he still remembered his past volunteering.
He replied, "I am happy here, and I do not think of the past.
Since he joined, not only with five times the salary, but also with the work brought by the network of resources, pick up the leakage of low price to buy a second suite, and rose well. Indirectly equal to ten times salary now.
That's why he would tell me all day long, boss, when I chose the wrong profession, into the wrong industry. Why didn't I get the hang of it back then?
You ruthlessly hit me with money, let me ruthlessly regret, I like this feeling of regret too much ......
See what I mean? This dude was never true love in the first place.
True love is not regret, regret is not true love, true love is not possible to choose the wrong, choose the wrong means not true love.
Of course, to make fun of him did not look down on the meaning, he is only a few years younger than me, the same as the middle-aged, I can completely understand how he thinks.
A middle-aged man with an old man, a young man, and a wife in the middle.
Ideal is a good thing, but your wife will tell you how whoever's husband is; your children will tell you how whoever's father is; your mother-in-law will tell you how whoever is who.
He's a good man, and just because he didn't say it doesn't mean I can't see it.
He just feels that his family's happiness is more important than whether he himself has achieved his ambitions through his work.
The article was written out, the first reader is the assistant, he did wind control well. This sentence he was very touched, think I understand him.
If you want to learn to be a boss, look at this paragraph. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I think I'm going to be able to do it.
I used to have a subordinate, often scolded him in public, a little face not to stay. But he never left.
I scolded him, because he is a second degree, sandwiched between a group of 985 colleagues, people have opinions about him. Just like a group of homeowners are 50,000 to buy a house, bias you 20,000, people look at you upset is the norm.
He did the most, but the most scolded, I just let the other colleagues psychological balance, so that they feel that their 50,000 did not buy a loss, 20,000 20,000 problem.
But I privately give him the most money, no other, this person's family has no money, rely on their own a person in the big city based.
He did more, should have taken more, more labor.
The scolding of you is to help you solve the problem, so that you do not face jealousy from colleagues, to give money is also to help you solve the problem, so that you can get on the car, to be able to settle.
In fact, it is very simple to be a boss, you know people can be, you know what others need, but also know that others can actually see how you treat people.
Of course, this is only part of the more important thing is that you have to win, you can not win, people with you is not interesting.
But what to rely on to win, think about it, not by understanding people?
Not only do we need to understand our own army, but we also need to understand the enemy's army, our allies, and all the people in the ecosystem.
Yesterday, we were talking about professional, city, and school. Do you really think that professional, city, and school can work on their own?
No, that's just playing mahjong, you ate a card.
The role of the card you ate in, and what role it plays, depends on what card you are holding in your hand at the moment.
You have 60,000 and 70,000 to eat a 80,000, you have a tube two tube you touch a 80,000 also have to play out.
For example, in finance, many people understand the financial institutions, is the god of the stock market, where to play, buy what what up, is that so?
You enter the financial institutions, there are many job classifications.
The first kind of analyst, that is, all day long to take the certificate, to a pile of data to write analysis reports, in order to trade reference.
The second kind of customer pulling, sub-high-end low-end, high-end is to go to your Uncle Zhang and Uncle Li, so that they buy a few hundred million, low-end is to go to the square dance inside the dance with the aunt to carry the oil, suggesting that the aunt to buy a couple hundred thousand.
What about traders? Sitting in front of the big market, decided to pull this up to stop, that hit to stop, this job who do ah?
This kind of manipulation of large funds of the work of the turn of the freshmen to do.
Just like you asked me what I majored in to be a CEO, I don't know. The successor to Jack Ma, Zhang Yong, is an accountant. so tama what?
Does it matter to you, is this something you should think about in the first five years after graduation?
If you're going to be an analyst, the specialty definitely requires a counterpart.
You a read the philosophy department of Peking University, not to mention, even if you let you on the job, to do analysts of the pile of certificates, you can not get out of ah.
Then there is only the second, pulling customers.
The main source of income for the financial industry is to pull customers, not really by investment, the essence of the financial industry is a service industry, earning money by commission rather than investment skills.
In other words, who pulls in more money from customers, who is in the company's status is high, the salary is more.
What do you rely on to get clients? The reason for this is that you have to buy a couple of small targets because they are your uncle, and he has to buy them to save your father's face.
So you find that this group of people pulling high-end customers are often the cold majors of famous schools, not rare.
Because there is no need to read the popular majors ah, my future is to pull customers ah.
I know a lot of A big head of the children of the children are read in the famous schools cold professional, after graduation, all go to the world's top investment institutions.
Because there is no point in reading popular specialties, you have to pile up all the scores on the school, unless the school can't pile up, pile up to the head of the rich to consider the specialty again.
Your selling point is not what you know, it doesn't matter what you know, it's where you come from that matters.
Who is your father, this is your first origin, you read the Harvard, this is your second origin.
As for whether you studied philosophy or zoology at Harvard, does it matter?
Big brother you are pulling big clients, you are mixing circles, you are hobnobbing to talk about your past journey when you studied at Harvard.
Who wants you to work?
You don't need to do it, those poor analysts with no background will organize the data for you, and even write the PPT for you, all you have to do is read it.
Figure out the logic?
You and he were classmates at Peking University's Department of Philosophy, and he had the background to graduate as a major client, and you had the backing to do nothing but push.
It is carrying oil and dancing with the square dance mom said: buy the base to send oil, the package sent upstairs ......
Then why do you want to read a philosophy department? Why don't you take a dance course? Back to specialize in the square free of charge to teach the big mom dancing square dance. As a teacher to sell financial products is not better than sending oil upstairs?
Back to the company issued a free gift are end of your home to go, the home can also open a grocery store, dancing square dance at the same time can also be shaking voice .....
Financial experts, grocery store owners, shaking the sound of square dance prince, body across the three worlds, this is not spell father inspirational model.
Note that I'm not being funny, I'm serious, the real world is like this.
The biggest difference between before and after the college entrance examination is here, before the college entrance examination, all the status of the jianghu is divided according to the ranking, your thinking is rigid, you think that the high people a, high people.
But the reality is to spell father, you and your father add up to the complete you.
He used up all his points for a Peking University Philosophy Department, just like he saved up for three years and took it all to renovation.
You said you also saved three years of money and took it all to renovate, what did you renovate? I'm not going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it. His father gave him 10 million dollars to buy the house, where is your down payment?
So you put all your points into the school, it's not right. I made it very clear that you + your dad combined are you.
If your dad doesn't buy you a house, you won't be able to renovate it with all that money, you'll have to save up and make a down payment.
Two days ago on Father's Day many readers asked me to write, I do not want to write, because I think the role of the father itself is the root cause of many inequities.
The reality is that in society, your father can directly transfer power to you, allowing you to cross the third order, cross the fifth order of combat, even if you do not do so, just by the old man old man pointing out the steps, you can make you cross the order of combat.
That's why you'll find many people who are not schoolmasters, but who are unusually smooth, like hanging on.
You look at the back of people, there must be a high person.
The biggest unfairness in the world is the asymmetry of information, which has been said twenty times.
This kind of topic is not finished writing, 360 lines, this kind of bending can write 36000 issues, today just casually give a small example of finance and philosophy accounted for so many pages.
So I can only tell you a generalized way of thinking, that is, first think about the interests of others, and then think about the data.
Rankings between schools are essentially a form of data, and that data can only be dealt with if it's in someone else's interest.
You take the test to rank, but what are you ultimately doing it for? Aren't you still trying to cash in on that ranking?