Article:故兮
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Qin Wenjun said:
"Human life is a splendid process,
everyone is a passerby,
to be what kind of a passerby,
that's everyone's choice! "
That is the choice of each individual.
This statement Ten Mile very much agrees with, because how our future is, is the result of our own choice.
"You really don't compete, married what daughter-in-law ah, are 30 years old, still can't give birth to a child, let me simply have no face to see people, really angry with me."
The other day, the neighborhood's Auntie Zhang cursed at her son, who topped a couple of sentences, let her move out, and put her so angry that she was admitted to the hospital.
It was also because of the ambulance that the story spread through the neighborhood, making her the butt of everyone's jokes.
Later, I asked Auntie Zhang why she was angry about this.
Auntie Zhang: "They have a square dance team sisters, often in front of her to show off their own grandchildren have all how good, always poking her no grandchildren pain, she felt lost face, so only to go home to reprimand the son is not good."
Ten Mile: do you regret it?
Auntie Zhang: "I regret it, I used to have no grandchildren, but now I don't even have a son, I really have no face."
You see, the end of Auntie Zhang, is not the result of their own choice?
If Auntie Zhang is not good at face-saving, not to blindly involved in the children's family affairs, then it will not become a laughing stock in everyone's eyes.
Recently, I like this sentence: Life is not easy for each individual, different personal requirements, each position is not the same. Don't practice yourself in other people's hearts, don't force others in your own heart.
If a person cannot live for himself, then he has no ego, and that is no way to be happy and happy.
In reality, there are a lot of people like "Auntie Zhang".
They are obviously halfway through their lives, but they still don't get it, and they make a mess of their lives.
Seeing this, someone might ask: "How do you live half your life?
People over half a lifetime, all look down
Matter look down, health is a blessing
The only thing to look down on the material, in order to really enjoy the life, or it will only be the efforts of the money, was driven by the desire, and then fell into the abyss, can not be extricated.
Material or money, not their own things, absolutely can not touch, the sky will not fall pies, the ground will only have traps, the more easily you can get valuable things, the greater the risk and trouble.
Half of life, to know how to be content, money and material can not accompany you for life, as long as the health of the line.
Phoenix TV's "The Pilot" program interviewed Wang Jian, chairman of the board of directors of UW Genetics, and broke out this set of data: in China, 60% of the people will be 60% of the life savings used in the last 28 days of life.
When a person has lived half a lifetime, the most important thing to say is that it is not a rich material life, but a healthy body, because a healthy body is the prerequisite for everything else.
Half of life, face down
According to survey statistics, the most likely cause of middle-aged and old people's emotions, is the face of the problem, because for them, face is even heavier than everything.
Some people say: "The older you are, the better face, because these faces, are earned by their own life-long efforts."
But in fact, dead face, living suffer. The better the face, the unhappier the person.
In the end, it is to cater to the evaluation of others and ignore their own inner feelings.
They care too much about how others treat them, so they live as others see them, and naturally they are not happy.
To live for the eyes of others, such a life is empty, is a burden, is day after day of mediocrity. This is the first time I've ever seen a person with a high level of skill, and I've never seen a person with a high level of skill, and I've never seen a person with a high level of skill.
People over half a lifetime, more need to understand this truth, as long as the light face, in order to live into the real self.
Half of life, family matters look down
In reality, you will find a very interesting law:
In the children after marriage, the more parents worry about their children's family matters, the more difficult for the children to be happy.
The parents are for the sake of their children, to do those things, but why the result is counterproductive?
In fact, the reason is very simple, because there is a generation gap between the two generations, there are different ways of thinking and behaving, parents intervene, usually only good intentions to do bad things, and then destroyed a family's peace of mind.
It is also true that half of life, family matters must be looked down on, children have become a family, they have their own life and way of solving the problem, do the best parents to look on, otherwise it will only be added to the snake, eat the effort is not good.
Half of the life, think more for yourself, how to feel too idle, to find their favorite things to do.
Half of life, life and death look down
Some people ask: "Why do people come to this world?"
Mr. Kazuo Inamori's answer: it is to die with a soul a little purer than when it was born, or to meet death with a better, nobler soul.
Halfway through life, life and death look at the talk, before it is too late to do what you like.
Early on, I saw a movie called The Bucket List.
The movie is about a rich man who is worth millions of dollars and an ordinary car mechanic who both have cancer and then choose how to spend their last days.
On their deathbeds, they reminisce about how happy they've been. The rich man had worked hard all his life, divorced several times, had no shortage of money or women, but despite this, he had no real family or friends.
The poor man has been poor all his life, raising three children, giving up many of his favorite things to raise his children, and saving money all his life.
Everyone is equal in the face of death, so the two decide to make a bucket list in the last six months of their lives, to live for themselves once, to do the things they feel sorry for in this life.
They went skydiving, went car racing, went to the Great Wall of China, went to the pyramids of Egypt, went to Ethiopia to see the wildlife, went to the Himalayas to witness the miracles, went to help strangers out of kindness, went to kiss the world's most beautiful girl, a period of travel to see the world after they left the last time to the family.
After their deaths, their ashes were packed in their favorite coffee cans and buried in the Himalayas.
Although the movie is fictional, the meaning it conveys is real and powerful.
Although human life is limited, we can try to enrich ourselves as much as possible in a limited life, we have no way to decide the length of life, but at least we can decide the thickness of life
Half of the life, the rest of the daily life to learn to please themselves.
The first half of our lives we are to please others, the second half of life to learn to please themselves.
Half of life, do not need everyone to understand, just do your duty, no shame; do not need everyone like, just do your best, peace of mind.
"Zhuangzi" on a passage: people on the life of a hundred years old, in the life of eighty, under the life of sixty, in addition to the disease, thin death and funeral worries, which open and laugh, in January, but only four or five days only carry.
The general meaning is: life is short, how to be happy how to do!
People in this life, really not easy, and finally for their own life.
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