The world's best parents, the world's best children
The parents of the kindness, when the spring, this is the essence of filial piety, the crows still know the back to feed the lambs also understand the kneeling milk, not to mention the people?
When we were young, we did not have the ability to repay our parents for their support, but when we grew up, especially after the middle age of the "successful career", we have a certain economic basis, and how to filial piety to parents, to fulfill the filial piety?
Some people say that our parents have worked hard to bring us up, and now it's hard to have the space and time to belong to the "self", we should go with the flow, and leave them at home, and "give" them the "freedom". "The first thing that we have to do is to buy some clothes for them from time to time, send them some nutritional supplements, and visit them on New Year's Day.
However, the vast majority of people insist that: parents are getting older, more and more difficult to move, they will be left in the old home, become an empty nester, every day, old eyes sitting in the yard to count the stars, in the heart of how to bear?
Therefore, it is best to bring your parents to your side, so that you can really fulfill the filial piety.
It's a good idea to have a good time, but it's not a bad idea to have a good time.
Is it really a good idea to take your parents with you?
Zhao Benshan and Song Dandan's sketch "clockwork", we must have seen it, the sketch of the old Zhao head (Zhao Benshan) is a son received by the side of the old father to do filial piety, the result is how:
The rucksack can not be twisted, the big city is not like the countryside, the people are playing a more advanced square dance, it is simply not in a channel with you; the erhu can not be pulled, pulling the bar at home, easily affecting the grandchildren's learning, the son of the son, the son of the son, the son of the son, the son of the son, the son of the son, the son of the son, the son of the son. Easy to affect the grandson's learning, son and daughter-in-law rest, can go outside to pull it, passers-by directly to you as a beggar, we can not afford to lose that person, so they can only stay at home to watch TV, watch TV, in addition to still watching TV ......
Usually not even a person to talk to, "forced" under the old Zhao head, can only dial a brand-name company's housekeeping service phone.
To say that this big company is a big company, the efficiency is fast, this is not, the old Zhao head of the phone just put down a short time later, responsible for chatting with the bellman will be on the door.
Dingdong ...... The first time I've seen this, I've seen it in my life.
Zhang Huimei -
The next stage is the old Zhao head and the bellhop (played by Song Dan Dan) a witty conversation, due to the content is too much, not detailed here, interested friends can go to the review, it is very funny.
Since "The Bellboy" was brought to the Spring Festival stage as a comedy piece, in the end, perhaps we remembered only some of the witty lines, and the funny performances of Zhao and Song, and laughed it off, and didn't think too much about some of the inner stuff.
But if you dig a little deeper, it's easy to see that "The Bellboy" is not just for laughs, it's a humorous way of reacting to a common family problem:
When you're in your middle age, does it mean that you're filial to your parents?
The son of the old Zhao head in the big city established feet, stood firmly, in order to do a filial piety, they have the intention of the father to receive their own side, want to let the old father to follow their own enjoyment.
But it is not the case that the son's filial piety, but not in exchange for his father's happiness, on the contrary, has long been accustomed to the rural life of the old Zhao head of the son here everywhere, everything is subject to the "limitations", as he said frankly:
"Indeed, in the Here eat well, wear good, but, freedom is gone, like a bird in a cage, fluttering, fluttering, and ultimately is the palm of a piece of land, with the 'jail' as ...... This is not 'miserable', the most 'miserable' is that they can only mumble blindly to the pet dog every day, not even a person to talk to ......."
The son to provide his father with a quality life, but in the end, instead of the old Zhao head held in the heart of the heavy burden, a kind of unspeakable burden.
In fact, this is not just an individual phenomenon of the old Zhao family, to open up, is a social ****, many people, especially in the countryside as a child suffered from poverty, those who have suffered, through their own efforts and eventually landed in the big city, the realization of the freedom of wealth, the first thing that comes to mind is inevitably: the parents who brought me up with great difficulty, but also in the old family face to the soil back to the sky suffering, now it is time for them to enjoy their own life, but also to enjoy their own life. Now, it's time to let them enjoy themselves and spend their old age in peace. ......
So, under the double "pressure" of conscience and social responsibility, some middle-aged people who think they are doing well, will be able to get their elderly parents to their side to do their filial piety.
But is this practice really filial piety?
As the clockwork is performed in ...... The parents are at best a wishful thinking on the part of the children ......
The idea of family, native feelings have long been rooted in the soul of every Chinese, they are concerned about the return of Qiu Shou, talking about the roots of the leaves, living in a place for decades, or even a lifetime of people, have long been accustomed to the hometown of the soil, hometown of the clouds, hometown of the grass and trees, if it is not a sea of change, the sky turned over, and how they would easily leave their homes, easily! Leave the birth of my hometown ......
Just like Qu Yuan in the "Ode to Orange" as written: after the emperor Jia Shu, orange Lei service Ruoxi ......
You, the orange tree nurtured by heaven and earth, were born to adapt to this area of water and soil, endowed with the mission of not migrating, and then rooted forever in Southern Chu .......
Yes, the orange is born in Huainan, and the orange is born in Huaibei, which is Hovenia ...... The first thing you need to do is to get out of the way of the place where you have been living all your life, and you will be able to get out of it.
In fact, not only the hometown love, courtyard dream, but also living habits, not accustomed to the water and the social circle ...... In short, there are too many issues involved in coming from a familiar homeland to an unfamiliar environment, and it's too complicated. ....... I'd like to ask if those who take their parents as their filial piety have ever thought about it, or to be more blunt: Have you ever asked your parents for their opinion and consulted them before taking them to your side to fulfill your filial piety?
I believe that many parents are forced to do so, or even if they want to, they are reluctant to do so. ......
Finally, some people may ask: What is the best way to fulfill your filial piety, since it's not a good idea to bring your parents to your side?
In fact, it is very simple, I think that to do these five, that is, to fulfill the filial piety:
First, to fulfill the filial piety is not to go along with the nature of the "no matter what", by the same token, the fulfillment of the filial piety, is not necessarily to be the parents to the side, close to their parents, and the parents to the side of the "no matter what", and the parents to the side of the "no matter what". The same is true for the parents, not necessarily to be received by the side, tight with their own "tied" together, in fact, as long as the heart, even if the distance between the thousands of miles, but also as close at hand, on the contrary, if the heart, close at hand, but also far away from the end of the world.
Two, more respect for the wishes of parents, listen to their hearts, do not subjective judgment, arbitrary action.
Three, more concerned about the heart of the parents' activities, more understanding of what they really need to know, to approach their hearts, rather than walking around like a perfunctory filial piety.
Four, more face-to-face communication with parents to talk to them, more talk with them, rather than just audio-visual, no flesh and blood of the phone video chat.
Fifth, filial piety, not on the surface of the "end", and rooted in the good start and good end of the "Road", the parents of the Road is not finished, not enough children's filial piety ...... To do anything to have a beginning and an end, the noble perseverance, filial piety is also so ......
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