Introduction:
Couples are better off living together, regardless of age, long-term separation will easily cause problems. Some people think that young couples who live apart will have problems, and older couples won't have as much to do.
But the truth is that older couples can have problems too, and some of these problems don't lie in age, but in character and perseverance. A person who is loyal to their relationship and strict with themselves will not have problems even if they live apart for the rest of their lives.
And those who are weak-willed and have an incorrect outlook will easily have problems. When some bad problems occur in the family, they must be stifled immediately, so that the stability and unity of the family can be maintained and the family can be happy.
My mother-in-law talked about Auntie Li who danced with her
My mother-in-law especially loves to dance, and every day after dinner, as soon as she put down the dishes, she went out, and the task of washing the dishes was given to me. My husband and father-in-law always tease her that going to the plaza is like going to work, especially active.
The other day, when my mother-in-law was having dinner, she mentioned Auntie Li, who had been dancing with her children. She said that Auntie Li had come to her son's house again and stayed there for a week before going back to her hometown, and that she was a bit reluctant to let Auntie Li go. I'm wondering why Auntie Lee's daughter-in-law didn't want Auntie Lee to help her with the kids.
Mother-in-law sighed and told the story of Auntie Li. Three years ago, Auntie Li's son and daughter-in-law got married, bought a wedding house in our neighborhood, Auntie Li and her partner live in Henan home.
A year after her son and daughter-in-law's marriage, her daughter-in-law gave birth to a big fat boy, and Auntie Li immediately rushed to take care of the child. Auntie Li's partner stayed in their hometown, and he also worked in a private unit, earning more than 3,000 yuan a month.
Daughter-in-law went back to her hometown on a business trip
Auntie Li got to know my mother-in-law after she came to take care of the kids. She helped her son and daughter-in-law with the children during the day and went square dancing with my mother-in-law at night. Auntie Li told my mother-in-law that her son and daughter-in-law had asked their old man to come over, but the old man didn't want to, so the old couple had to live apart.
Two years after Auntie Li came to her son's home, she suddenly had to go back to her hometown one day, and my mother-in-law was very reluctant to let Auntie Li go. She complained to my mother-in-law that she had helped with the children and household chores at her son's home, and that her daughter-in-law suddenly wanted to kick her out, and that she couldn't bear to see her grandchildren go.
Before that, her daughter-in-law went on a business trip and happened to pass by her hometown, so she went back to see her father-in-law and brought him some things. After returning from that trip, the daughter-in-law didn't want Auntie Li to help her with the kids. The son listened to his wife and also insisted that Auntie Li go back to her hometown, and Auntie Li was quite upset.
A year after Auntie Li went back to her hometown, she now comes to see her grandchildren, and my mother-in-law realizes why her daughter-in-law didn't want her to take care of the children. When Auntie Li told this reason, she was full of gratitude to her daughter-in-law.
The reason why her daughter-in-law didn't want Auntie Li to take care of her children
The original Auntie Li's daughter-in-law returned home from a business trip, and she inadvertently learned that her father-in-law had an unusual relationship with a woman from the next village. After returning from the trip, the daughter-in-law discussed with her son and decided to let her mother-in-law go back to her hometown, but she didn't want her mother-in-law to know about her father-in-law's relationship with the woman, so she excused herself and said she didn't want her mother-in-law to take care of the child.
Mother-in-law returned to her hometown, and at first she didn't realize that the old man was not normal, but then one day she went to the market to buy something, and accidentally saw the old man and a woman together. A woman's sixth sense made the mother-in-law feel that something was wrong, and she rushed over on the spot before her father-in-law and the woman broke it off.
Afterward, the mother-in-law recalled that her daughter-in-law suddenly didn't want her to bring up the child. Later, once her son called her back, she quietly asked him for confirmation, and he told her to keep a close eye on the old man.
After Auntie Lee came to her son's house this time, her son's daughter-in-law told her to come with her father the next time she was here, and that the old man should not be separated.
After listening to my mother-in-law, I thought Aunt Li's daughter-in-law was really good! My mother-in-law also said that this daughter-in-law is concerned about the big picture, for the sake of the big picture is willing to be misunderstood by Auntie Li, Auntie Li can have such a daughter-in-law, it is really a blessing!
Conclusion:
Couples living apart, always do more harm than good, so not as a last resort, or try not to live apart.
Nowadays, many people are helped by the elderly to bring up their children. If the young couple lives in the city and the old man lives in the countryside, it will be very easy for the old couple to be separated.
If they are temporarily separated for a period of time, it's not a big problem; but if they are separated for several years, it's better to let the old couple come to their son's house together as much as possible! If they want to continue to work, they can find jobs near their son's home. An old man living alone in the countryside with no one to take care of him could easily get into trouble.
Parents think of their children and come to help them bring up their children, easing their burden. Children should also be for the sake of their parents, old companions, old companions, not because of the grandchildren and let the old couple separated, this is not good for the old couple.