Editor's note: Vivian Xu and Youtuber "that girl KIKI" and "Skimmy your online girlfriends" shared on the Internet that they had met a cheating scum and even staged an 8 o'clock episode of "catching a mistress". Vivian recalled that at that time, her boyfriend's message came from her cell phone saying that she was going to go have dinner with her friends, but Vivian had a feeling that her boyfriend was lying, so she and her friends went to her boyfriend's house and saw that not only were the lights on, but there was also the sound of a television. Someone was in there, and I was shaking all over, and I still had the courage to walk in, because I wanted to see what that person looked like...she was beautiful...that image, I'll never forget it, and then I slowly walked out of that door, there's nothing to forgive, and we're definitely going to have a future together. strong> , we will definitely have problems in the future and I will be paranoid about the relationship."
Vivian encourages everyone to be brave enough to let go, but also to be brave enough to love, "There's nothing that can't be done, there's absolutely nothing that I can't live without you, do your own master, all the heartache and low tide will fade with time, don't ever give up on a bright future and life because of a broken heart, don't think you're brave enough to listen to my new single, 'Goodbye to the wrong person', right? Should cheating be forgiven? Is a man cheating because the woman is not good enough? Even if he comes back to apologize for begging for forgiveness to get back together, just tell him: I know, received your apology, but I will not forgive you.
Watching the hit show "Just Thirty", I was so angry that I vomited blood. The perfect wife Gu Jia was actually cheated on? Smart, beautiful, high IQ, talented. As a full-time wife, talk about business, with a cute baby, tear the green tea, but also single-handedly to the giant baby husband into a fireworks company boss ...... reasonably, married to such a treasure virtuous wife, dreaming have to wake up laughing. However, look at what her husband is doing. When the little girl face "innocence" in his ice cream on the big lick, he showed a cheap smile, happy to eat up, do not avoid suspicion.
When the phone pops up on the little girl's message, he looked at his wife who was on the phone, wrapped the phone in a book, and changed to a hidden place to sneak a look. See the little girl "hand shaking" sent ***, bitchy back a "you are too bad". Chatting with the little girl addicted, go home to see their wives are not good, all kinds of quarrels. Smacking his wife vulgar to flatter the rich wife, no matter what the children, but also smacked his wife does not listen to his words. Subconsciously, but in their own cheating to find a reason - I cheated, but I am a good man, are forced by her. The disguise is good, eventually was found out, East Window ......
A tawdry operation, see the netizens righteous indignation, hate itchy teeth. Wife so good you still cheating, blind? We always think that as long as the woman is good enough, you can tether the man. But in fact, even the best woman, can not stop a man who wants to cheat. A man cheating has nothing to do with whether the woman is good or not. They are not blind, they are just cheap.
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Once a colleague, people look particularly beautiful, temperament and good, will dance, will make cakes, will also design their own clothes. The company's first three months were spent chasing several male colleagues. But her ex-husband, cheated on a 40-year-old woman with a child. That woman can not be said to be ugly, but really special ordinary, general body, do not pay attention to dress up, there is nothing special. Divorced for three years, the colleague still can not get over it: "I just can not understand, why would he cheat? And is with that a woman?" In fact, there is nothing why, scum derailment does not need reasons, only need the opportunity.
Look at Zhang Yuqi, not sexy? Wang Quanan is not still out whoring; and then look at Zhou Yangqing, beautiful, independent and thoughtful, Luo Zhixiang is not still go to play "multi-sport"; and the Japanese national goddess Sasaki, beautiful to let the heart trembles, and her husband Watanabe Jian it? In the underground parking lot of the function of the toilet with someone cheating! In fact, most men cheat, not because of the junior how good or wife how bad, is to feel fresh, outside the incense.
A netizen said he asked his son: "Dad bought you a thousand dollars of Transformers, why do you still rob children dozens of dollars of toys?" The son said: "Because this I have not played." Not having played with it is all the reason for a scummy man to cheat on his wife. Cheating men, very few really want to divorce, just love to play. For them, even if the wife 100 points, the junior only 10 points, they also got 110 points of good.
So, do not condone scum, do not forgive, let them pay the price, let him lose you this 100 points, keep the junior that 10 points past it. Derailment is derailment, do not ask why, once unfaithful, a hundred times not used!
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Derailment, probably the most fatal problem in the marriage, but also the most difficult to withstand the test. There was once a reality test program in the U.S. that specialized in testing a partner's fidelity. The results were shocking, no man passed the test, and everyone was hooked.
However, the boyfriend and a girl just met on the flirting, but also about the room. And then there's this girl whose boyfriend is a chubby, reliable-looking IT guy. The program team hired a woman who lied that her computer was broken and asked him to fix it. In less than 5 minutes, the two of them were rolling in bed. What defeats love is never human nature.
People who can withstand the temptation, the woman at home, even if it is a shrew lazy woman will not be derailed; and can not withstand the temptation, even if the heavenly fairy married home will be outside the fish. Cheating is wrong, there is no doubt about it. However, there are still people who are busy whitewashing the scum, and even put the blame on the woman. Just like Xu Huanshan's cheating, some people say that it's because Gu Jia gave him a lot of pressure in an invisible way that he cheated.
Some even say that perfection itself is a fatal problem, how many people can be in the same frequency as the perfect person? It is strange that a woman like Gu Jia is not cheated on. This is the logic of the scum, cheating is me, but the fault is you Women should not fall for this, do not because others made a mistake and desperately looking for reasons in themselves.
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A friend of mine, with her husband from school uniforms to wedding dresses. The man has a successful career, but also gentle and considerate, spoiled my friend like a child. Do a good job of cooking, but also with children, milk, changing diapers, with the child to study, all do. This is such a model husband, every day in the company and female colleagues to eat alone, talk about the world, talk about the hotel friend of the sky has collapsed, so how can a perfect man cheating? To say that the wrong, surely she is wrong, is she not good enough. Friends into a deep self-doubt, doubt themselves not enough beauty, body is not good enough, not enough gentle and virtuous, bed is not enough *** ......
Good a big beauty, inferiority complex to walk on the road, feel that the square dance of the aunt are more than their own charisma. She more desperately skin care fitness development hobbies to enrich themselves, but also more desperately good to her husband, as a result, people go out of town on a trip, and with the airplane met college students hooked up. This time, my friend finally realized that it is not her problem, but the man is too disgusting. The school flower, not to mention the school flower, is to give him the Earth ball flower, he will still cheat.
Her only fault was that she was not confident and took the scum's fault on herself. When a woman cheated, everyone will condemn the woman's moral turpitude, shameless, sympathy for the man; but when a man cheated, people in the scolding of the man at the same time, more will be "analyzing" the woman's problem - too strong, or too not independent, and then is not beautiful! The woman's problem is that she is too strong, or not independent, or not pretty, or not sexy, so she can't hold on to a man. The worst thing is that the women themselves are also reflecting on this.