I never believe that there will be empathy in this world, the needle does not stick to their own body, never know how much pain, in your in my, only warm and cold to know.
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Best friend Qiqi once encountered such a thing. One day she took a sleeper to return home from Beijing to the south, the day uncomfortable some fever, Qiqi find their own seats and then lie down to sleep, midnight train stop, a woman about 40 years old with a child up, directly to the sleeping Qiqi pushed awake:
"Little girl, my child's seat is the seat number is the upper berth, but the upper berth is too high too dangerous, in case the child falls down, it's not good. children fall down will not be good, you change it for me, you go to sleep in the upper bunk. This way I take her all in the lower bunk, it's more convenient."
Instantly Qiqi was a bit confused, thinking that this woman was also too unreasonable, but still said politely:
"Sorry I have a bit of fever, I don't really want to move, ask someone else."
The woman was still unforgiving:
"What does a fever have to do with changing positions? Why are you so young? Can't you see I'm carrying a baby? I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get me out of here, but I'm sure you'll be able to get me out of here. .
However, Kiki never acceded to her request, and later the woman approached the stewardess to solve the problem, who said that if the passenger was not willing to change, she could only sit strictly in her seat. Then the woman kept nagging her all night, and Kiki, who had a fever, could only cover her body and ears with a blanket but still didn't sleep much.
Such a picture is not déjà vu, is not you and I have experienced:
Night, you want to sleep on the plane, high-speed rail, the back row of the parents holding the child has been in the noise, you politely a sentence: Buddy, can not let the child do not make so much noise, we all are resting. But in exchange for the father's fist and the mother's blank stare: a big man and a 4-year-old doll over, is still not a man? When you have a child you will know. You are not convinced to come out to the theory, will be surrounded by people say: you also have the day of the old, how do not know how to respect the elderly? The big meal. They think it is your hands, and you are in the way of a promise, but then I do not know: Borrow money can not return, borrow a car scratched body can not repair, live in your house can do whatever you want, slaughter you to eat a meal can be no end, this is all because you are a rich man. This time, you again lost to the "poor people without money".
"It's a big deal that you can't do anything about it," he said, "but you can't do anything about it," he said. I've read on the internet that kindness is not about what you ask others to do, it's about what you should do.
But unfortunately, this society, persuade others to bottomless tolerance, generosity, kindness of the hypocritical people too much, in my opinion, this kind of self-righteous kindness, more terrible than the evil. This category of people, most of them measure others by the standards of saints and demand themselves by the standards of bitches.
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There are two stories I read on Knowledge:
On one occasion I met a few girls on the road, they said they had their money stolen and didn't have any money to go home, and out of the kindness of my heart I lent it to them, and they asked for my phone number and said they would return it afterward. Later, I learned that they are students have little money, parents to the living expenses were stolen and do not dare to say to their families, so they had to ask their cousins to borrow money back to me. However, I said this on the Internet, there are actually a few people commented that I have no conscience and no love, ask me this money you dare to ask ah. I tm just don't understand, I lend money to people, they return money to me, I collect money back, on how this is immoral and heartless, on that gang of human head pig brain saint mother priest where your logic?Excuse me
"Still angry also, I am joking, you how so can't afford to joke ... ... ..." is the most moral abduction I've ever encountered and couldn't agree more! Another one is that back when I won a scholarship in college, I was actually told by a classmate that I wasn't generous enough to give it up to another student who needed it more? I want to say: I was a scholarship, not a bursary, I worked hard for it, why should I let it go? Besides, my family's financial condition was not good at that time, my father was sick and discharged from the hospital, and I still owed a lot of external debts, I also needed the money. I'm not angry, I just think it's funny, why should I let others
Don't take other people's favor as your blessing. Don't take other people's politeness, as your luck. Don't take others' kindness to you for granted.
Guo Degang said a sentence, simply can not agree with more:
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8-year-old child with a knife to cut the safety rope of the construction workers; the plane was late child scolded the stewardess animal. Adults say "just kids".
The young man in the subway did not give up his seat to an older woman, who spoke ill of the young man and spat on him;
Square dance and young men's basketball court conflict, a group of grandparents beat up the boys; around the bystanders said: they are older, don't bother with them.
Husband cheating, domestic violence, steal the woman's necklace out when off, and even sexually assaulted his wife's sister, the bystanders will say: are married for so many years, it is not easy to put up with it, he will change. You want to divorce with a child where to find objects to go ah.
Don't use "still a child" "older" as the reason for their own lack of morality, and don't use the same reason but bottom line tolerance of a person, age is not the reason for not educated. Age is not a reason to be uneducated. You have to realize that behind every repeated offense is this kind of unprincipled tolerance. You don't have to pay for this shamelessness!
That, to me, is hypocrisy. The main purpose of hypocrisy is to push oneself to a moral supremacy and fulfill one's own selfish desires, not to improve the outcome of things. If reason does not exist, then any goodness is meaningless.
Screenshot from the movie "Donkey's Water"
Teachers taught us to be moral when we were students, but some people live most of their lives and still don't understand what evil is morality. Morality is used to restrain people who are at fault, more to discipline themselves than to imprison the innocent. It's a twisted value to set up self-righteous guidelines, double standard on things, and kidnap other people's morality.
A classic quote from the internet: forcing people to follow morality is inherently immoral. Only obeying the law is right.
True kindness, which is warm and fuzzy, is doing your part without pointing fingers at someone else's life you don't know. We haven't been through what others have been through and don't know their tripe or past. All we can do is respect and understand, and that is the greatest kindness.
I hope that your tolerance, your kindness, will always come with a sharp edge.