Scolding children and making them lose trust in their parents will also greatly damage the parent-child relationship. Scolding teachers can not only help children, but also push them to a more embarrassing situation, which will affect their future study and life.
At the same time, the above two ways can't let children learn the correct way to face and solve problems.
Parents will never underestimate the influence of teachers on their children. Due to the lack of age and anti-interference ability, children are easily influenced by the external environment. If the relationship between children and teachers is harmonious, children will like learning and develop in that direction.
Once the relationship between the child and the teacher, she begins to dislike the teacher's heart, or because my parents don't respect the teacher, the teacher loses his position in the child's heart, then the teacher's education will soon make the failed child fail.
The previous article is mainly about the lifelong influence of teachers and students' children. So what should parents do if there is a conflict between children and teachers? Can it really help children?
0 1 Stay calm and let the children and teachers talk.
Parents should patiently communicate with their children, let them have the opportunity to talk, let them express their dissatisfaction with the teacher, help them to fade their emotions, and let them gain a balance in memory.
Then, analyzing things with children is another way.
Be guided forward and let the children learn to forgive.
Parents should guide their children to deal with problems. If it is really a teacher, parents can tell their children:
"Everyone is imperfect, everyone may make mistakes, lose his temper and do something wrong, and so do teachers. When we make mistakes, we are particularly eager to get others? We also understand that it is good for teachers to give them a chance to change. "
It can also guide children to see the care of teachers in teaching tasks.
For children, it not only comforts them and eliminates their resentment, but also improves their quality and cultivates good quality, so that children can gradually learn to accept imperfect people and things.
Respect teachers and communicate with them.
Parents should communicate with teachers in a calm and gentle manner, not in humility. First, express respect and understanding for teachers and views on events. Then ask the teacher's opinion, discuss the solution to the problem, and finally reach an agreement.
This not only won the respect of teachers for themselves and their children, but also left a good impression on teachers, which is conducive to the further harmony between teachers and students.
The late American novelist David Foster Wallace gave a speech at the graduation ceremony of Kenyon University in 2005. Wallace said in his speech:
"The purpose of education is not to learn knowledge, but to learn a kind of thinking-on the complicated road of life, I always keep my self-awareness when I wake up, instead of" I "procrastinating in disorder and unconsciousness, but my life is under control."
Parents' calm attitude can not only help children get rid of contradictions, but more importantly, let children learn how to face problems, deal with problems and communicate with them. This is the purpose of family education and the best gift parents should give their children.