Mid-pregnancy, I have thought about checking the boy and girl, but I think that since I want, why waste the money? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new one.
Late in the pregnancy, I have all the signs of a boy, I am also a little happy, my mother-in-law is also happy.
When I gave birth to the child, I asked the doctor what child, the doctor said the girl, my heart thumped, a little surprised, I think, it does not matter, the girl has a girl's blessings.
My husband is fine with me, and my mother-in-law is fine with me, but they still want me to have 3 babies, and my mother-in-law now says she wants a boy, and then she says to my daughter that she wants a little brother, and I'm sick of it.
My family is not good, my father-in-law is sick, married these years, what work can not do, can only sleep, eat, my mother-in-law is more industrious, but that is the kind of special honest people, in addition to planting, what will not be able to clock food, planting a little food is not good, I think the conditions are not good, and even more can not be to the son, to the son to add to the burden of the daughter-in-law in the future is not good to say that the daughter-in-law is not the same, I don't want to, and I've been on my mother-in-law talk quite annoying. The mother-in-law spoke quite annoying, previously told me that boys and girls are the same, as long as my daughter has a companion on the line, and now I want a boy.
The first child daughter, mother-in-law mouth is to say that the first daughter son can be, not two years on a strong urge to find someone to take medicine to adjust the boy, the results were I refused, and even the first day of the year in front of a large number of relatives let me go to take medicine to adjust the latter months are also a variety of urging me to refuse, I discussed directly with my husband do not want to have a second child, want to have this daughter, her husband felt quite good, said with her mother-in-law, the back of the attitude towards me, and I think it is a good thing that the mother-in-law said, the mother-in-law said, and the mother-in-law said, and then the mother-in-law said, I want to have a boy. The attitude has changed, as if the family did not have me as a person. Later, I got pregnant by accident, and discussed with my husband to stay with my daughter as a companion. Then 5 months pregnant, mother-in-law called three times, each time is to ask the boy or girl, also said the father-in-law at home to forget, and a daughter, anyway, is not happy but did not say anything else. 24 weeks four-dimensional examination found that the placenta covers the placenta implantation, lying down to keep the fetus, so that the mother-in-law to pick up the daughter after school, cooking, doing chores, in fact, I want to let my husband pick up and drop off the daughter, I cook at home, my husband does not rest assured, let the mother-in-law to watch, this is the first time that the mother-in-law to pick up and drop off the daughter, and the daughter is not a good idea, so I want to let the mother-in-law to watch, and I do not know what to say. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones.
Really, married for so many years never think my mother-in-law is quite good, the main also do not live together, a year to go home three or two trips, there is no contradiction, gave birth to a daughter is also the case, I look at their own, no use of the mother-in-law, there is not much contradiction, the result is that now live together, the mother-in-law came to the next day said to stay for a week on the way home, but also have to go to work to do work, I told him about my situation, she said, people are all I told her about my situation, and she said, "People have cesarean sections, so it's okay to have two out of three. I just want to go back to go back, I'll be careful, but my sister told my mother about my situation, my mother called my mother-in-law and said: the child's situation is too dangerous, can help here to help, she to my brother's family to see the child can not get away, otherwise she would have come. Then my mother-in-law was not happy, but still came.
After coming, first of all, the daughter with the grandmother is not close, that is, let the grandmother sent downstairs to kindergarten can not, the grandmother to see her granddaughter everywhere, not as good as other people's obedience, pick up after school in the afternoon to train the granddaughter for eight times do not take the day black. After training the daughter daughter in tears looking for me, said the grandmother bullied her, and then the grandmother and then look for me, said the child how how disobedient, every day so.
Because lying can not go out, are online to buy things, buy what say what is expensive, waste, even buy children's clothing is also too do not want to use the daughter of a child, buy diapers is too daughter of a child's diapers do not stay good, and now you have to buy, 5 years ago, 5 years after the diapers and then the oldest two, this kind of thing is also want to come out. Three days ago, the egg fried rice had to give my daughter to eat, because I stopped, said my daughter a few days old screaming stomach ache, don't give to eat, the result of wrestling not to say also cried. I'm suffocating
came more than a month, did not see a smile, what is good to her a, never eat, are saying I'm not hungry you eat it, the problem is snacks fruit who said hungry to eat? Cold, the night kindly give him to open her bedroom air conditioning, the results said, what day you open the air conditioning, have to use how much electricity to spend how much money. Even said several times, angry I do not give open, I now every day can not talk to not talk, depressed, not depressed are admiring themselves.
I told my husband to let my mother-in-law go home, he stayed here hard, every day ouch ouch, like a prison, my husband is not willing to say that my situation is too dangerous, someone around to rest assured that I try to convince myself every day, my mother-in-law in this good, to pick up the child to cook, save my business, to be thankful, but to see my mother-in-law every day drooped, I am also difficult to see, I'm just now every day in the boiling, every day looking forward to days, I know that the day of the week, I'm just a little bit too much, I'm just a little bit too much.
I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get the best out of your life, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get the best out of your life, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get the best out of your life, and I'm going to be able to get the best out of your life.
First of all, on the matter of having children, although we all say we want equality between men and women, but there will certainly be a bias, especially for many families and even the existence of the situation of son preference. Of course, this kind of thing is also very easy to understand, after all, after the marriage is no longer two people is the thing, but two families, so more often than not, parents, the old man's feudal ideas will really become a contradiction in the cause. However, at least from our generation, we should understand that the so-called gender and education is not related, we have seen too many cases, whether it is real estate disputes, or finally raise the old age, more is the emergence of the small time education did not form caused by, rather than caused by gender. So even if you give birth to a daughter and so on, you can still give you old age, you can also have a good job, a good home, in the end the family has a certain right to speak and so on.
Secondly, the expectation of future children, we should not be more hope that the other side can bring what they are, but look forward to him to become a kind of independent individual. The result is important, but the process of accompanying is more precious. And most cases show that the more you care about the process of accompanying your child, instead, he will become a better person and will be especially filial and precious to you. Take the distance of a friend beside me, she has two daughters, but still comes back 1-2 times a week after marriage, and my friend also has her own life, square dancing, attending some sister's party and so on. On the contrary, the neighbor's son, not come back once a month, may be really because of work, or what things are involved, etc. ...
In short, the future is not determined by the child's gender, but formed by your education of them today. So, as expected focus on the gender of the child, rather think about how to educate them put.
I gave birth to four daughters, what experience: disappointment, heartache, hard, want to cry, can only blame their own bad luck.
When I gave birth to two daughters, I didn't intend to have any more. But my mother-in-law and my husband are always talking about having another one. The first time I saw this, I had to go to the hospital to see if I could find a way to get to the hospital, and then I had to go to the hospital to get to the hospital. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level. It was hard to stand and hard to sit. I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night, so I got up and sat for half an hour. The foot is also very swollen, walking like a penguin, bulky.
These are the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in the world for a long time, and I've never seen her in the world. The doctor said that the placenta was prematurely detached, and if it was a little later, the child and the adult would be in danger. The child choked on the amniotic fluid and took some oxygen. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that.
Then I thought, "What do I care if it's a boy or a girl?
My mother-in-law is still always asking me to have another baby. I'd like to hear that, but I don't think it's a good idea. I don't want to go through that again," she said.
If I had an accident, wouldn't the three children have no mother? I want to live well, there are a few of them enough.
The whole process of bringing them together is all by myself, and I can't say enough about the pain of bringing them together.
My first baby will be eight years old soon, and my second baby is now seven months old, both girls. I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm not a good person! It was less than four months when I went to see the doctor, honestly when I was pregnant with my second child I was more curious about the sex of the baby, especially want to know whether it was a boy or a girl, one to satisfy their curiosity, and the other is to let the old people do not expect too much is a boy! I think the old people still hope that it is a boy, so I didn't feel so bad to know in advance! As a matter of fact, once I checked, it was indeed a girl, because I got pregnant by accident, and I didn't want a second baby particularly strongly, so I didn't want it at that time, and I think it's good to have a daughter. I was willing to have a second child because I thought that my eldest child's character was particularly soft, and in the future, when we were gone, she would have a younger brother to back her up! I am also afraid that she will be aggrieved in the future. And the boy should be more generous, bullied by the sister ah, sister is a girl let a little sister ah, so more balanced. The second baby is a girl is not the same, and then hesitate to take, a shake are seven months, good behavior and lovely, the main thing is that the big baby especially especially like the second baby, cry a little bit can not, do not let the sister suffered a little bit of aggravation!
To have a second baby is to let the big baby have a companion, parents can not accompany her for life, but siblings can, and now it seems that the two young lady is more good, I hope that they will have something in the future have to discuss, each other have to rely on!
The birth of a child is the arrangement of fate, can not be forced, each baby is a little angel, we do not deprive them of the right to come, let nature take its course! Male and female babies are our babies
Life is not as good as eight or nine, the emperor, the Queen Mother can not want to give birth to what comes to what.
I have also seen the first one is a girl, the second is a girl, the third is a double, do surgery out of a look is two girls it. (*^ω^*)
I've also seen the first child is a twin boy, originally do not intend to have a child, but then accidentally pregnant, the result is again a twin child. I don't want to get rid of it, but I've got two more kids (=^ ^=)
Although it's no longer an agrarian era, some people still have patriarchal thinking
Especially some ethnic minorities, the most common "Hui" for example, patriarchal views are still prevalent.
I've seen a lot of Hui women who have given birth to 6 babies in a row and finally got a boy. After the birth of the boy, the mother held the child crying, the family outside the maternity ward heard that it was a boy that a "cheering". This is not a bad thing, at least after the "hard work" into the heart.
Can a woman who is unhappy with the outcome of her labor increase her bleeding?
You bet it does!
It's not a rigorous comparison, but I've seen it happen a lot from experience.
Especially some of the menstruating women, as soon as they heard that it was a girl, immediately silent, originally good contractions, suddenly began to soften, and then began to bleed, increase the amount of drugs to promote the contraction, massage the uterus only after slowly improved.
After the full opening of the second child, the birth rate of boys surprisingly declined.
We obstetricians on the gender imbalance is the deepest feeling, I just worked in 2005, when the male-female ratio of 110:100, the normal is 106:100
Although a little more, but not too much, until the full liberalization of the two children before the 2015, the year the male-female ratio of 123:100, can be said to be a male-female ratio of
The male-female ratio is very low. Serious imbalance
But interestingly, after the liberalization of two children, the proportion of boys born declined rapidly, 2017 is 111:100, and this year's temporary statistics are surprisingly 108:100, the ratio of men and women basically reached the natural ratio.
From this point of view, does it mean that the important factor causing the imbalance in the ratio of men to women is "family planning" ( へ )=3
I had two daughters, and the third one is a boy, and I want to ask what the feeling is, sweet and sour, bitter, spicy and salty, all of the five flavors.
Those years, the implementation of family planning policy, a couple is only allowed to have a child, a girl, also only allowed to have another one. The second child, from the beginning of the pregnancy, was apprehensive, afraid or girl, I'm not patriarchal, but the in-laws, they will be angry, and the husband will be counted.
The third month of pregnancy, the family began to trust people everywhere counting, everywhere to check, I was taken to let the gynecologist to see, the doctor said probably a boy, in fact, I know that people that is in the perfunctory, but in-laws are very happy.
The fourth and a half months of pregnancy, the mother-in-law and trust people to take me to a faraway place to do ultrasound, as if to do a 300 yuan, the results came out, and is a girl.
The mother-in-law was not happy, my heart sank to the bottom of the sea, sad, miserable, no meaning of living, I know, I have to get rid of this child, otherwise, there will be no peace at home.
Hubby does not speak, he does not say do not want, also do not say to, I want to cry, ruthless to go to the hospital, but the heart is in despair in secret prayers, I hope to do down to be a boy, so that, let the family regret it, I can also leave that cold home.
I also hoped that I had better die of hemorrhage, so that it would be a hundred, no worries.
But I didn't die, the baby was made, it was a girl, and I had to continue to pass on to them. I couldn't escape that circle no matter what.
Later, I got pregnant again, repeated checks, or girl, their family still insisted on doing away with it, I did not agree, I said I gave birth to my own support, we divorced!
They had to be silent, my in-laws from now on no longer care about me, until we went around to avoid family planning, finally gave birth to a son. In those years, we lived a really inhuman life.
In the countryside, the feudal dregs of inheritance are y rooted, and if the daughter-in-law of any family gives birth to a girl one after another, she will be in tears all day long, and there is no peace in the family, especially in our era, because the second child is a girl divorce, suicide, and fights are especially many, and there is a woman in our village, probably the same age as me, because of the second child is pregnant with a girl again, and committed suicide by taking medication, and when she died, the strange pregnancy was seven months old.
That's the sadness of that era, and the sadness of rural women!
Now that the policy has been liberalized, as long as there are conditions, you can just give birth, but also relieved a lot of women of the sad situation, born in the countryside, at any time, can not completely jump out of the circle of patriarchy.
They say that men and women are equal, but in the countryside, they never will be, and girls are also heirs, that's a slogan, no one will really think so!
My first daughter, the second child cesarean section, I asked the doctor is a man or a woman, the doctor said congratulations, you will be blessed, two daughters oh! She was afraid I was in a bad mood and talked to me repeatedly! I said I wasn't upset, I genuinely liked girls, and I didn't have my second child in pursuit of a son! I have a hunch it's a daughter, because the day before yesterday I had a dream that a white fox followed me, I got on the bus and she chased after me, I got off and she jumped into my arms and turned into a doll! I was genuinely happy when I told this. The doctor said, it looks like you really like the girl [teeth bared] [teeth bared] [teeth bared] [teeth bared] girl or boy, are their own baby, are genuinely loved!
I belong to the 70, the first born a daughter, when family planning is still relatively tight, to the child four years old to give birth to a second child, during the period because of a number of things delayed, has not been a child, to the child 7 weeks of age, with the husband to discuss the second child, the time just pregnant, I remember to take the 6000 yuan to the brigade secretary, more than a month of pregnancy, the pregnancy reaction, feeling the same as when pregnant with the daughter, the same as when pregnant with the daughter.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in the same situation as my husband, but I've never seen her in the same situation before.
By the time the third month, one day with the little niece to play in town, buy things feel stomach pain, find a toilet to see see red. Rush to call my husband, that time also riding a motorcycle, my husband took me to the hospital, when the hospital was off duty, my husband and angry and anxious, and on duty are arguing, and then do than ultrasound, the doctor said that there is just a gestational sac, there is no development, and unwilling to go to other hospitals to check, or the same answer ...
Toodle around for more than ten years, see a lot of
I've been going around for more than a decade, seeing a lot of places, herbal medicines, western medicines, all the things I've suffered from, all the medicines I've taken, and I haven't been able to get pregnant...
I was 40 years old when my daughter was in her second year of high school and I was finally able to conceive a child in my 40th year, and my son, who is one year old now, is already a toddler.
I want to say that every baby is the parents of the little angel, boys and girls are the same, the family has a daughter want a son son more than want a daughter, what the only thing, is to go with the flow. It is money can not be bought, but also blessed every mother can come together a "good" word!
Over the past few thousand years, Chinese people in the pregnancy and childbearing is male or female on this matter, is really too much, but also because of cultural traditions, because of the child, how many people in-laws and daughters-in-law of this matter, how many people in the relationship between the conflict, and the husband's relationship with the drastic change, as if the role of women's life as a reproductive machine, in addition to giving birth to a child, raising children, as if there is no greater life and spiritual world. The company's website has been updated with the latest information on the latest developments in the industry.
Guangdong people are very capable of giving birth, in the Chaoshan region, I met a mother who had 10 children, God seems to be full of tests for her, the first nine children are girls, and the family, vowed to give birth to a boy to carry on the family line.
The concept of family is very strong in Chaoshan, and men are very good at business, so having a boy can take over the family business, and even make the family business bigger. The mother, after giving birth to 10 children, did not enjoy the so-called heavenly happiness, but rather look exhausted, in addition to the child or the child, but also to teach the eldest child to take the younger sister, to help grow up.
Her eyes are only on the children, and it seems that the outside world has nothing to do with her. I don't know if this life is a rare and ordinary happiness, or naive and romantic life is too unglamorous.
I do not judge.
Of course, this is a more extreme example, but in real life, because the second child gave birth to a girl and the family relationship stalemate, and even the name of the marriage, there are too many. Now, with the opening of the two-child policy, many families want to get a "good" word, a boy and a girl, it seems that life is a lot more successful.
But we often forget that every life is our hope, every life is an independent individual. If we give birth to him, just let him become a tool for our happiness, or even give us the value of interest, then how monotonous life .
In any case, the world rolls forward, he will meet his future world, may be artificial intelligence is particularly powerful, may be technology developed to the point that we can live to more than 130 years old, we now want to nurture a life, just want to make their own life is complete, complete experience and accompanied by the growth of an independent life joy, to share his pain, in his frustration, we can give him hope, to tell him that life is full of hardship and suffering, and to give him hope, to tell him that life is full of hardship and suffering. I'd like to tell him that although life is full of difficulties, it's still worth trying to live it again in a glorious way.
He will have his own independent life and face the world independently. Perhaps if we give up the traditional values of being too big for our children, we, as parents, will gain another kind of unexpected life in our twilight years.