This morning I read an article titled "Addiction to Love: Love is like Cocaine", which tells us from a scientific point of view: love, definitely, is a big thing, a particularly big thing.
The article talks about how neuroscientists Andreas Bartels and Semir Zech compared the brains of happy lovers to the brains of drug addicts who had just taken cocaine or opioids for pleasure. The results showed that many of the same areas of their brain's reward system appeared to be euphoric. Additionally, when the data obtained from the 17 passionate couples was analyzed again, it was found that the nucleus ambiguus (nucleus accumbens) became active. The nucleus accumbens is a subdivision of the brain whose active state is associated with the desire for all addictions, including: heroin, cocaine, nicotine, alcohol and even gambling, sexual behavior and food.
When the authors collected data from 437 Americans and 402 Japanese, they found that these feelings can occur at any age. In 82% of the surveys, there was no significant difference between those over 45 and those under 25.
Also, while hot lovers are eager to have sex with their sweethearts. However, their sexual desires were overshadowed by their deepest longings. In contrast, they long for the other person to call them, write them love letters, and ask them out. The most important thing is to be able to return their passion. For men and women in passionate love, emotional attunement trumps sexual desire. In fact, 95% of women and 91% of men surveyed were opposed to the idea that "sex is the best thing that can happen to love.
Cocaine, alcohol ...... and other addictions afflict only a minority of the population, and it is highly likely that almost everyone will experience some form of love addiction over the course of their lives. In that case, isn't love a big deal?
From this, I thought of a relative's "love addiction" story. 50 years old after retirement, she met a man in the square dance, the two people good as paint like glue, the man's son's wedding are she organized, so that all outsiders thought they were two people. In fact, she had her own husband, for which there is no less outside talk and white eyes. Later, this relative had leukemia for 5 years, and for the first 3 years, the man had been very devoted to taking care of her and paying her medical bills. But in the fourth year, the man had a new girlfriend. The relative reacted like a child who had not yet reached puberty. She disregarded the doctor's advice of "going out less and contacting fewer people", dressed up in disguise with a mask, followed the man to "catch adultery" and cried; the most shocking thing was to puncture the man's tire for a month in a row. That is, in our eyes is not reliable, but she is incredibly committed to love, and ultimately killed her. She passed away soon after.
Such a love, I do not know whether to praise her defiance, or to lament her naivety. But in the face of love, if we still retain a great deal of sanity, it is still love?
If you have not felt the romance and defiance of love, it means you are sick. It's not me who said that, it's the scientists. According to scientific research, people who don't experience love addiction have a rare form of hypopituitarism; a malfunction of the pituitary gland that causes hormonal problems and a "love deficit". Although they live normal lives, and some marry for companionship, they never experience the ecstasy and grief of love.
Go and experience the great thing called love, no matter how old or what background you are, unless you are sick.