At least as far as my experience is concerned, at least at the moment you fell in love with them, at that moment, you have imagined a perfect image of them in your mind and a perfect state of perfect interaction with you. You are convinced that its existence, in other words, is an absolute possibility, which gives you the motivation to like them.
Without this imagination, this huge and almost absolute confidence in "success", there is nothing to like at all. So for the above feelings, the facts are not important. Or belief is based on facts.
Any attempt to put the facts on faith, make these people realize or realize the reality, and then make efforts, like poison, will completely destroy this love.
This is like the relationship between the wheels of a carriage and the drivers and horses in front. If there are no wheels, the carriage may stop, but it will not lose its direction. If there were no drivers and horses, the carriage would become a headless fly, let alone reach its destination. Hard work is important, but direction and belief are more important.
You shouldn't talk about hard work until you find your faith. Your feelings for anyone, any creature, any object, any place and everything else have always been the credit of confidence. Not by weighing the pros and cons, we can improve our self-confidence, but by "self-deception" from somewhere in our hearts for no reason.
Love is an illusion. Loving someone is actually falling in love with yourself. You have a fictional shadow in your heart. If there is the opposite sex, it is more than 70% consistent with this shadow, that is, toad versus mung bean. In addition, when you have a secret love, beauty comes from distance. When you see the opposite sex, the beautiful picture of Xiu Xiu will be built into your brain, beautifying his image layer by layer, and producing a halo effect, but that is not the shadow itself.
In fact, there is no permanent standard for "like", and I don't believe that it can be found by the methods of so-called emotional experts and psychologists, but it is self-evident more often. In other words, if you believe that the other person likes you, then he likes you. And to some extent, it is this kind of love that you believe he likes you and makes you insist on loving him.