Love is the color of life for a woman, love can make a woman become gentle, spiritual and tranquil, so in their twenties, women will aspire to love, believe in love, and willing to chase in love.
What about marriage? Marriage is like a thirty-something woman's nest, a person tired tired, need a dependence, the love in this marriage and the love of the twenties is very much like and a lot of different, both romantic and look forward to stability, both hope for eternity and always hope that some of the different, but no matter how to say, the significance of the marriage for a woman is very heavy,
Marriage is a married woman rooted in their own lives a A married woman is willing to give all she has to make that seed take root, sprout, and grow strong.
When a woman has experienced love, but also has a marriage, slowly from the green age through the elegant thirty years old, into the supposed to be mature and full of forty years old, for her, love and marriage will be a very valuable asset in her life,
But when a woman is forty years old, the most important thing to be missing is not love and marriage, but the three kinds of "Strengths" that can make her love and marriage, or happiness, last forever in her life.
Strength one: the ability to keep a woman clothed and fed on her own
Mrs. Xue is one of my readers, 42 years old, married for 15 years, all the way to middle age with her lover through thick and thin, with tiredness, bitterness, sweetness, happiness and tears.
Mrs. Xue said the "tears" began to flow only in the past few years, because she found out at some inadvertent time that the man she loved with all her heart actually had no feelings for her since a long time ago.
Married for 15 years, Ms. Xue has always taken her husband as the whole of her life, and many women as she is busy with work and busy at home, and many women are not the same is that she is so hard but never complained in front of her husband.
She's like the flower in the dust that Eileen Chang wrote about, loving her husband, herself very low, very low, as if she felt that as long as her husband is happy, love themselves, she is the most satisfied.
Married for 15 years, Ms. Xue went out to socialize very little time, she put all her heart to irrigate their marriage and family, but in middle age, she actually found that her husband has been behind his back to love another woman for a long time.
Women who never thought this day would come will always be more likely to be at their wits' end because of it,
Married for many years, Ms. Xue has been earning a meager salary, and at the time, it was just that she thought a simple job would make it easier to take care of the family, but now she realizes that if she wants a divorce, her salary may barely be enough to live on alone without the ability to bring up a child, and that as youth passes away little by little, she may not know how she should make a living in the future.
For a forty-year-old woman, love is a dream, marriage is a bed, and the one who can give herself a home is no one else but herself.
Women to the age of forty, can not lack and throw away is a can guarantee their own life normal, the ability to feed and clothe themselves, feelings of the road there are too many variables, their own to raise their own, is more able to live a good next life.
Strength two: let the woman herself open to see everything, see far away from the eye
What will a woman be like in her forties, perhaps you begin to like to wear flat shoes, perhaps you are more willing to drink plain water, but also more should know how to put far away from their own eyes.
Mrs. Xue is an example of the opposite, discovering her husband's extramarital affair at the age of 42, she was nonchalant, and began to look back and scout those days they had lived together, then suddenly she was able to match her husband's expressions and excuses at the time with today's sit-down betrayal, acting like a detective on one side, and a disillusioned housewife on the other.
Mrs. Xue is so trapped in the pain of her husband's betrayal that she doesn't know how to deal with it, how to get herself out of it, or whether to end or continue her own marriage, which is so full of holes.
Women in the man betrayed their own, do the most stupid thing is to keep repeatedly to prove that the man still love their own, he loved not love themselves?
Being bound by the love of a woman's eyes, destined to taste more pain in the body of this scum, the man is a woman's dependence, but can never be a woman's life all.
When a woman reaches forty, she should let herself mature, to know that marriage will have gathering and dispersal, feelings will have thick and thin, if a person does not love you, let go do not have to entangle.
Women to forty years old, really can not let their eyes only stay in front of a little bit, to know to look away from everything, to know to look farther, so that they have a can make their own life easy and free of vision, do not in order to love, and a person period of time to ruin the rest of their own half of life.
Strength three: know how to live, love their own consciousness
A woman wants to live well, first of all, to their own abundance from the inside out, life will gradually on track.
In the process of chatting with Ms. Xue, I saw her lack of self-confidence, blindness, and her inability to live a normal life for a man, I was anxious, a woman who does not even love herself, then how to win the respect and love of others, how to live a good life?
If the twenty-something is too young, thirty-something is not yet realized, then to forty-something, the woman must not know how to love themselves again.
Rather than dwell on whether a person still loves himself, it is better to go to re-learn a bit of knowledge, to enhance their independence, rather than being hurt by their loved ones before regretting that they are tightly clothed in so many years of hard times, it is better to remember to properly pamper yourself at ordinary times, to wear quality clothing, to read a book of substance, and if there is still time to go to learn to dance or go out for a run.
Women in their forties, physical health and mental health is the most important thing to women to more attentive management of things, do not make the mistake of twenty-something years old in the forties: because of the love of a person, love to forget about their own.
When a woman reaches the age of forty, she really can't afford not to know how to love herself well, and can't afford to lack the awareness to know how to live well and love herself.
Married for 15 years in the face of the impending change of marriage, Ms. Xue heart in addition to confusion and pain, but can not find half a point of awareness. Ms. Xue's experience tells a lot of women that at the age of forty, what women are most afraid of is that they will not have the ability to know how to fight for happiness, vision and awareness.
From the economic, ideological, and visionary three dimensions to run their own, so that they are full of happy strength, there are more to approach the opportunity of happiness.
A person who loves and does not love is not so important, forty-year-old woman, to have the strength to be independent in the marriage, but also have the strength to live well outside the marriage alone.