Because in life, we are always tortured by busyness, blindness and loss. Trap your heart in a dark cage, dominated by fear and repression. Then hysterically ask God why happiness is so far away from me.
In fact, learn to take a step back from being busy, blind and at a loss, let your heart return to calm, and look at people and things around you in a quiet state. We will find that when we put it down at the right time, the dust of the soul will be swept away and the scenery of life will be clearer.
As written in the book "Calm down, everything will be fine": Calm down when you are in pain, you can explore the root of pain and cultivate a happy mood; Calm down when you are upset, you can get rid of distortion and misunderstanding and experience freedom from bondage; Calm down when you are confused, you can abandon your persistent expectations and share the happiness of the moment.
Calm down, everything will be fine was written by a woman writer Tao and published on 20 14. Although I checked her information, there was little introduction, only that she was an inspirational writer, literary translator, film and television screenwriter and some novels and literary works.
There isn't even a photo of her art on the website, but that doesn't prevent me from sharing this book. Because I think good books can help people and have nothing to do with the author's reputation. I hope this book can bring you a moment of peace and new enlightenment to your understanding of life.
Next, I will elaborate the contents of the book from three points: life, love and work.
There is a story about an angel who looks for people in need and brings them happiness. One day, it saw a family eating. This man is a great man. His wife is serving him soup, and his daughter cleverly hands him a pair of chopsticks.
The next day, the angel came to the man and asked him if he was happy. The man said that his life is not happy at all, and every day is a constant life, which is very boring. He wants to be the happiest person in the world. So the angel enchanted and took away everything he had.
On the third day, the angel asked the man again, do you still want to be the happiest person in the world? The man immediately replied, I just want to go back to my old life.
This story reflects many people in real life, because we always focus on the immediate things and ignore the beautiful scenery around us, so we can't feel the warmth of happiness.
In fact, what kind of life we want to live has always been our own decision. The book says: People who often complain about life will feel that life is a mess and all are tangled knots. People who enjoy life will regard life as a blank sheet of paper, and they can paint their favorite colors at will.
Now, let's ask ourselves whether the following experiences have ever been encountered;
We have been chasing the life we want all our lives, and we are tired of running around for it. However, human desire is endless. People who have no money want to be rich, and rich people want to make more money. Those who rent want to buy a house, and those who have a house want to change to a better house; New employees want to be promoted, and later they want to be their own bosses.
All this is understandable, because no one wants to live a mediocre life. However, have we forgotten that in this chasing battlefield, there is always a great distance between the ideal in an alternating state and the unrealistic reality?
The backwardness of the sense of distance will make us panic. So the hole in our hearts keeps enlarging, so we just want to run forward and catch up, so we ignore the scenery around us. Such a hasty pace makes us farther and farther away from our happiness.
Just like Charlotte, the protagonist in the comedy film Goodbye Mr. Loser, because of an unexpected crossing, she had the opportunity to reshape her life. He pursued his dream class flower, became a singer who attracted thousands of people's attention and gained countless wealth.
But he found himself getting farther and farther away from happiness. It was not until he saw Xia Dongmei again and ate the bowl of fennel noodles with gravy that he once disliked that he realized that the taste of happiness was so simple. I just blindly pursued the ideal road before, ignoring the people who have always given me warmth and happiness around me.
The chaos of life is actually not the chaotic change of the world, nor the dream bubble that constantly appears in life, but the flat waves in our hearts. Therefore, depression and anxiety are always around, which makes our life overwhelmed.
Therefore, learn to calm your mind, so that you can live a noisy life without being affected by the environment, so that you can do nothing and be calm; If you have something to do, you can settle your mind.
You will find that life is like four seasons from another angle: after experiencing the warmth of spring, you have to wait for the fire test of summer, and reap the fruits of autumn, you have to endure the cold of winter.
There is a kind of love called "once", which makes people trapped in past memories, just like a falling meteor at night. Although it is bright and beautiful, the final outcome can only be missed. Then, there is the silent sky that people often think of.
I have read such a story. Every day, a bee sucks the sweetness on the same rose, but one day, the rose has withered, so honey sucks the bitterness instead of the sweetness. So it angrily complained to God why the taste changed.
Finally, one day, bees no longer cling to roses, but fly with their wings. At this time, it suddenly found that the withered rose was surrounded by beautiful flowers.
Roses are once sworn love, and that kind of feeling, such as sweetness, makes people want to stay. Therefore, after withering, it will become a souvenir that is hard to give up. Because people always think that what is lost is the best, they will ignore the happiness around them.
In real life, we always like to compare our past emotional experiences with our present ones. Taking emotional happiness as a comparison level, compared with previous love, the happiness in front of us is always unremarkable, and the beauty in that memory is always unforgettable.
In fact, the book also mentioned that people who like to recall are often a reflection of his current emotional life. Because if a person's feelings are not smooth and his marriage is not happy, then he will often think of those good times.
For example, in the classic work Dancer of Izu by Duan Kangcheng, a famous Japanese writer, the old professor met his beloved girl, the dancer Xunzi, when he was young. However, due to the restriction of social class at that time, their identities were very different, and he had no choice but to leave, which became the knot of his life.
Lonely old professor, because of his loneliness and misfortune now, always makes him melancholy in his past memory. Just like Venus with a broken arm, it is because of her imperfection that people are left with infinite reverie.
Please remember that all the memories will eventually face today and tomorrow's life. If we always indulge in past thoughts, then such thoughts have laid a roadblock for our happiness.
Because persistence is tiring, infatuation hurts, and memories are grinding. The most precious thing in the world is not "unattainable" and "lost", but happiness that can be grasped now.
As the saying goes, do one thing and love one thing. But the true portrayal of today's society is that you are tired of doing one line. It is mentioned in the book that a "happiness index survey at work" shows that only one in ten people is happy at work at present. It is conceivable that how many people regard work as a kind of torture.
In fact, when I saw this data, I was not too surprised. Because my friends around me are basically dissatisfied with their current jobs. If life didn't force me, I believe many people would tell their bosses that the world is big and I want to go out and have a look.
But, you know what? One third of a person's life is spent at work. If we regard it as a burden and pain, it means that one third of our life is doomed to be a tragic experience.
Therefore, how to have fun at work has become an urgent problem to be solved. Psychologists found in their research that the motivation of happiness comes from the satisfaction of the bottom of my heart, not from the temptation of the outside world.
If we go to work every day, just carrying the mission of doing it for money, then the work is the same as mechanization for us, with neither breakthrough nor promotion. Cycle after cycle, endless cycle, and finally fall into helpless sorrow.
This reminds me of an American inspirational movie, Face the Giants. Taylor is a college football coach. In his six-year coaching career, he never won the season. Complaining and stress became companions in his daily work.
When the team's best player was ready to transfer to another school and the school's top management was ready to expel Taylor, he chose to emancipate his mind, treat every player wholeheartedly and be grateful for what he has now.
Slowly, when he found himself looking at the problem from another angle, the previous difficulties were not so bad. In the end, Taylor not only regained his confidence, but also gave the team cohesion and won the championship of the season.
Just because your job is not easy doesn't mean you are a failure. More importantly, don't get bored or run away from the workplace. In the movie, although Taylor experienced six years of failure, he didn't give up, but devoted himself to his work, which rekindled his love for his work. Because of this love, he stopped complaining and being empty, and gained great happiness and achievements from it.
This book shares two ways to teach us how to feel happy at work;
Maybe now you are lamenting all kinds of disappointments at work. Although the purpose of work is to make money, when we focus on having fun, we will work harder and more efficiently.
So, be quiet, go to work with a good mood, let work enrich our lives and get real happiness.
The pace of today's world is very fast, and the hectic pace always makes us fall into endless anxiety. It seems to be an epidemic, which is gradually eroding everyone.
This kind of anxiety makes us focus on striding forward in the noisy city, but ignores the happiness that beckons to us around us. Just like the world-famous tourist resort Alps, there is a slogan hanging on a scenic avenue, which says, Go slow, please pay attention to enjoy it.
This sentence tells the true meaning of life. If we just come and go in a hurry during the journey of life, not only the pressure of work, but also the burden of life will add a heavy burden to our hearts, so that happiness and happiness will be fettered by impetuous hearts.
Therefore, a peaceful mind can bring peace to people and enrich the feelings of life. Remember, the destination is only prizes, and wealth is along the way.
Quiet yourself properly, let flower of life bloom in time, and drive away the tension and confusion in life with its fragrance until one day you climb the cloud of happiness.