If you don't do something, you will never get the life you want.
Text/Ice Yan Fei
S, a 22-year-old girl, has a good job in a small city, but she is worried about her marriage. Outstanding appearance and slightly masculine personality make her peach blossom delay. She plans to go abroad or jump ship to a big city, but she can't make up her mind. On the one hand, her current job is a high-paying state-owned enterprise, on the other hand, she is afraid of the complicated process of going abroad and the fierce competition in big cities, so she has been entangled for six years. By the age of 28, due to the narrow social circle, she was still the ordinary-looking and broad-minded woman, but she became a leftover woman. Because of the limitation of gender and the nature of the company, I am still an ordinary employee, although I have worked hard. High education and single status made her stand out in small cities, so she made up her mind and moved to Shanghai.
The new company gave her a position and a dormitory with a yard, and her salary was several thousand higher than before. If you scrimp and save, plus the previous investment income, you can pay a down payment. This job is not difficult for her. Years of accumulated experience made her feel like a duck to water, and she began to reap the recognition that she rarely got before. Just changing jobs and working overtime, she didn't have much time to meet new people, but the ubiquitous bookstores, gyms next to the company and various activities made her pay attention to fashion, new things and herself. There are several older girls in the company, and she no longer feels lonely and different.
Once, she negotiated business on behalf of the company. The guy in the other company saw that she was serious and sincere, asked for her phone number, and later began to invite her to dinner. Her depressed mood gradually improved, and she began to feel that she wished she had come here six years ago. In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will know that her conditions are more suitable for places where ability is valued, and she also likes a rich spiritual life. There are many single men who are much better than her, and she even decided to go abroad, but the wasted six years will never come back. She may not be able to get married yet, but she must have got a good position and started to grow rapidly. If you don't do some things, you won't get the life you want.
Twenty-five-year-old K female, running on the road of blind date. One of her recent blind dates thinks she is good except that she is a little fat. In fact, she is not fat, 125 Jin, but slightly plump, but she has become the target of public criticism in this thin age. Even if she looks like a peach blossom, she can't offset the extra 25 Jin.
K has never lost weight, so she never thinks it is a matter of weight. She blames the world for paying too much attention to appearance, boys for being snobbish, going to such a bad restaurant when dating, and blaming herself for her bad life, but she still can't escape the coldness of the other party when dating and the disappearance of the other party after dating. The world has not changed for her, but she began to lose confidence in repeated disappointments. She became fat, not as lively and cheerful as before, and even a little autistic.
She doesn't understand why she is twenty-five years old and hasn't experienced a decent love. She was an invisible girlfriend, in a long-distance relationship, and even almost became a mistress once. Until this time, the blind date bluntly said that you are a little fat. She looked at the strange man who was crooked and outspoken across the street and suddenly shed tears. Then she began to lose weight, very intense but very effective, just hungry. Three months later, she was a beautiful girl with long legs of 95 kg.
Tall, she walked down the street in high heels and shorts. Coupled with her beautiful facial features, most boys should look twice. All kinds of friends began to take the initiative to find her for dinner and chat, and everyone found out that she was such a beautiful girl. Her optimism, her yard full of flowers and plants and good cooking skills, and her kind, gentle and beautiful writing all shine under her thin and bumpy figure.
Looking at a big bunch of expensive roses on her desk, she felt that the old days were like a lifetime ago, and I don't know why it took so long to live such a terrible life.
You won't have first love if you don't lose weight at seventeen, and you won't have first love if you don't lose weight at twenty-five. Love and work are all about conditions, but the conditions are different. If you don't do some things, you won't get the life you want.
Q, a 30-year-old girl, runs around in a dusty life and a serious emotional blackmail from her parents and younger brother. She lives in the corner of the basement, wearing clothes from five years ago, her hair is dry and yellow, her face is heavy and bitter, and she often cries in the middle of the night, not knowing where the future lies. If the phone rings, it must be my mother calling to complain and asking her for money. All her savings went to buy a house for my brother. Now that my little nephew is born, she is still responsible for all kinds of expenses. Occasionally, I don't agree. I feel sad when I think of my mother's old appearance and sick body.
She is a girl who is not timid but works hard, so she often encounters unpleasant things at work and has no time to fall in love. She doesn't know how to respond to good boys. These life and emotional pressures often make her breathless. Coupled with the burden of family expectations, she feels that life is worse than death, but she is still trying to persist. It was not until one day that my brother called for money again that she sat in a hard seat for two days and one night in order to save money for sleeping in a berth. She suddenly felt sad and angry because my brother refused to install 2M broadband, but insisted on 4M broadband.
She decided to end it all. She called her mother and told her that she had worked hard for so many years and that she might have to think about herself in the future. Surprised and angry, her mother accused her of being a baiwenhang and hung up the phone. My brother called again and asked her why she did it, which made her very angry and criticized her. She thought about it and flew back to see her family and take good care of her mother, but she insisted on her idea firmly and gently. A few days later, my mother said in tears that thanks to her these years, it's time to think for herself. She hugged her mother tenderly and said that she didn't blame them.
After coming back, she relaxed a lot, took out the provident fund she had saved for many years, paid a down payment, bought a house with a commercial loan, and even overdrawn her credit card at will, bought herself a high-end mobile phone, several beautiful coats and made a new hairstyle. She also bought a wool coat for her mother and told her brother to trust his ability to live by himself when he grew up. To my surprise, my brother actually supported her and said that he would take good care of his mother. The relationship between her mother and her brother is even better than before, because she has learned to communicate. She found that her mother and her brother also want to be happy, but there are problems in their concepts and expressions.
In this way, she began to recover a little. Because of paying attention to her health, she began to eat well every day, and her face even felt white and red. For the first time, she felt that it was so beautiful to be alive, not just facing the fear of exams and the pressure of expectation. If you don't do something, even at the age of 30, you still can't get the life you want.
Lucky for these girls, they finally found what they really wanted and got the life they wanted. Living in their early days, although they took a long detour, they were like walking in the dark, harvesting the shining stars all over the sky and tempering their hearts. They still have some regrets. Why didn't they know such a simple truth before? It takes time and lessons to get it. In hesitation and ignorance, many beautiful things passed them by. If you have a daughter in the future, you must tell them early.
If you don't do some things, you will never get the life you want.
I still want that job that looks very good, I can travel around the world and get a high salary easily, but your education seems to be insufficient. Why not improve it? Only three or four years. Otherwise, in ten years' time, you will still hold the job that encroaches on all your time and gives you living expenses.
I still have a crush on the boy who looks like Shuai Shuai and does things properly. Look at yourself, dusty, clumsy and rude, but I can't love a boy who is similar to you and is unkempt. Why is it just an exquisite life? A beautiful figure can be obtained through diet and diligent exercise, temperament can be obtained through a wise and compassionate heart and elegant manners, and a proper hairstyle and smooth skin can decorate a face. Even if you still can't get the boy's favor, why not give it a try? Otherwise, after eating snacks and watching Korean dramas for ten years, you still live in illusory fantasy and bleak reality, or marry a boy who looks down on you and live a life of resentment.
Still envious of the girl who can speak four languages and always make friends easily?
Still unwilling for those little talents who have been deeply buried?
Life is not just a constant repetition. We have come to such an era, as long as your wishes are reasonable and you work hard, the world will find ways to help you realize them. We have come to such an era that everyone is pursuing the quality of life, and we look forward to being with all the things we like, not just living. Marrying the person you like, doing what you like, having the intimate relationship you want and moving in the direction you like are all as important to us as breathing.
Every day you don't do anything, you will live in an environment you don't want. An unwanted today will lead to an even more unwanted tomorrow, and an even more unwanted tomorrow will lead to a very unwanted day after tomorrow. Since the times have given us the right to choose, taught us knowledge and pointed out the way we want to live, why not embark on the road of pursuit as soon as possible?
Life is long, and it's not too late to hit the road again. The important thing is that you are extremely light because you are eager to run.
You see, Gao Yuanyuan, Zhou Xun, Rene Liu and Big S, who are getting brighter and brighter every day, all put on white wedding dresses and married people who really want to marry.
You know, Oprah has her own TV program, and Jiang, Annie and Baby get a lot of attention and money by writing constantly. If you have read their biographies, you will know that it takes courage to persist.
You see, Caroline and Max in Bankrupt Sisters opened their own colorful cupcakes, which set off a cake craze all over the world. You see, Victoria has kept size 0 for many years, and has given birth to a lot of children for handsome Beckham. Living in the spotlight for 20 years is like every little girl's dream, but she was once a fat girl. You see, your mother started dancing in the square dance, went out for a trip, bought a pair of expensive shoes, and still stopped forcing you to get married. Shouldn't you be braver?