I have a real example around me. A colleague of mine, her mother-in-law and husband both went to work after pregnancy, and her reaction during pregnancy was particularly severe, so she resigned and took care of the baby at home. Mom buys fresh fruit, cooks good food, refuses to do any housework, and mom washes clothes. Everyone has infinite expectations for this little life. But when I went to the hospital for routine examination, I found that there was no fetal heart. I called my husband and told him that he didn't say anything My mother-in-law casually said whether she was tired from work. After she finished, she might feel inappropriate. But the more she said it without thinking, the more she said it. I called my colleague and felt wronged for her mother. She is not pregnant, and her mother is not allowed to do housework, let alone get pregnant.
I want to eat and drink well at my parents' house, which is my parents' obligation to my daughter. If anything happens, it will be her fault.
My friend looked at the mobile phone for a while, and his mother began to say, Oh, don't look at the mobile phone, it's bad for your eyes. When you look back, your eyes will cry. Put it down! Put it down!
A friend wants to eat a fruit, otherwise her mother will say that this fruit is out of season and won't let her eat it; Otherwise, it is said that the fruit skin is afraid of pesticide residues, and it will take a while to eat. Sometimes, when the fruit is ready, my friends don't want to eat it. ...
Of course, she understands that her mother must be good for herself and her children, but because of the strict supervision, she makes herself uncomfortable, and then she is inevitably nervous.
Caring too much can also make people uncomfortable. Is that so?
During pregnancy, compared with diet, I think the most important thing is really the mood of pregnant women.
If you are cheerful, nothing is stressed in your heart and your nerves are relaxed, it is especially beneficial not only to adults but also to the fetus.
Especially in the early pregnancy, many people have severe morning sickness, and eating is basically equal to suffering. Many people can be said to have held on in one breath. At this time, being in a good mood is simply too important!
So, stay where you are comfortable, whether it's your mother's house, your husband's house or your own house.
Being in a good mood and smiling often will make you spend your pregnancy easily. Let these sharing help you, and wish you a smooth pregnancy!
When my wife is pregnant, she will go back to her parents' home for a few days almost every month, ranging from three to five days to half a month. The distance between the two houses is not particularly far, but it takes two and a half hours by car.
My wife always said that my mother's cooking was not as delicious as my own, so I followed her and sent her home. This is good. My mother and I are very relieved and happy every day.
Later, the baby was also born in the hospital where his wife was born. The hospital took care of the baby, and his wife's mother, aunt and aunt helped the baby stay up all night.
On the day of giving birth, my mother rushed to the hospital by car to take care of it for two days and then went home.
Because it was a natural birth, the confinement on the third day was also done at my wife's house. In addition to washing stool and urine (cleaning), I ate and slept all day, and gained more than ten kilograms during confinement.
I'm better off locked up. The baby is hungry in the middle of the night, so I can drink breast milk. Two months later, my wife ran out of milk. Get up four or five times every night to feed the baby and (Huo) milk powder. All these jobs were done by my wife's mother or grandmother, and I went to be the shopkeeper of cutting.
I didn't take my wife and children home until the baby was five months later. From pregnancy to home, my wife lived in her family for almost a year.
Although the wife's pregnancy, childbirth and confinement are all at her mother's home, it does not affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It's just that she feels more comfortable and willful at home, shouting whatever she wants to eat and not saying hello to her mother-in-law. But she is a little stiff in front of her mother-in-law, and can't order her mother-in-law to do this and that at will.
Therefore, whether it is better to live at the mother-in-law's house or at her mother's house after pregnancy depends on where her wife is willing and whether her husband supports her. Of course, the premise is to maintain a good mother-in-law relationship!
After pregnancy, is it better to live in your mother's house or in your husband's house?
This varies from person to person. If you get married nearby, I think it is the most convenient. If you are bored at your husband's house, you can go back to your mother's house by yourself, stay there enough, and then go back to your husband's house. This is also the person I envy. If you get married far away, it depends on how your life is and how your husband's family treats you. My husband's family has a good attitude, and the family living in his family is also good, if you want to go back. If my mother's family also has a daughter-in-law, it will be a little inconvenient to stay for a long time, and I will be a little unhappy.
My husband and I don't live together, and it's a little far from my mother's house. My mother's house is also very busy, so I got pregnant twice in her husband's house. I think it's good to be in her husband's house. Fortunately, I have a capable and talkative mother-in-law, who took me to set up a file and make a check-up when I was pregnant. Sometimes my husband doesn't have time to accompany me, but she does. There are many people in the hospital, and it is always my mother-in-law who queues to pay, although sometimes she can't eat with me. Sometimes I give yoga to pregnant women, and she will say no. Ignore her. She goes in one ear and out the other. Old people always do this. I want young people to do everything according to her wishes. It is good for young people to relax. Pregnancy is so boring. Sometimes when I feel bored at home, I will go out with my mother-in-law to do some work, such as growing vegetables and corn. I can do all these things then. In the evening, I will also go with her to watch other people dance square dance. It's nice to live in my husband's house. When my husband comes back at night, I can help him to rub his back, talk and take a walk. Others say it is also important to talk to the fetus during pregnancy. I wonder if it's true. I was pregnant twice. Husband talks to the fetus when he is free. Both my children like my father very much. They always call him first when they speak. They are proud of their father's happiness. They also have good personalities. His father said it was all his credit.
Where to live when pregnant, be happy, have a very important mentality and an optimistic attitude, so that the fetus can grow up healthily, have a good personality, and get angry when in a bad mood, which has a great influence on the fetus.
My husband's family and my mother's family are only ten minutes' drive away, but I spent most of my pregnancy in my husband's family. At first, my pregnancy reaction was strong, because I was not used to her mother-in-law's cooking soon after I got married, so they ate lightly. At that time, I asked for half a month's leave and went back to my parents' house for a short time, but my parents-in-law sent me a lot of food every two or three days. My parents-in-law are selling pork. In their view, where there is meat, they cut it.
Later, after going to work normally, I went home to live. My mother-in-law is a very cautious person. She will cook many kinds of vegetables and then observe which one I eat more. I will cook that dish again and again in the next two or three days. I discovered this rule not long after I was born. So in the next few years, eat more when you meet favorite dishes, and eat less when you don't like them. Don't complain, don't be picky. After all, we have never lived together since childhood, and many habits and hobbies are different.
Also, my mother often tells me that if you are pregnant, don't be squeamish. What you can do, don't bother others, do what you can. But my mother-in-law won't let me do anything. When I was not pregnant, my mother-in-law took all my clothes except underwear. As a result, every time I get pregnant, I'm afraid it's inconvenient for me to wash myself. When I take a shower, wait outside the bathroom to see me come out, and quickly take all the clothes inside.
After ten years of marriage, I have never blushed with my mother-in-law. Every time I have an argument with my husband, I always stand on my side and think about it first. When we calm down, we will blame each other and say who is wrong.
Therefore, my mother-in-law is also a mother. Although she is not a real mother, we are all trying very hard to adapt to the role of mother-in-law. I remember my father-in-law said at the wedding that I have another daughter from today. In the past ten years, it's really the same for me.
First of all, I think you are pregnant, so you can choose to go to your mother's house and live in her husband's house.
When I was pregnant, my parents lived in a poor place, which was not suitable for me to live in the past, so I couldn't go. My mother-in-law remarried a long time ago, so I can only stay at my own home, cook and eat by myself during pregnancy, and take care of myself.
If I really want to choose, I think I can go to my mother's house for a while after I am pregnant and stable. I believe I will be more comfortable living in my mother's house and get used to eating. In the later period, the baby will be born soon, so it is recommended to stay at the mother-in-law's house, because if the mother-in-law visits your mother-in-law's house in the second month, it will increase the burden on your parents. If there is no such problem, just stay at home and discuss it with your husband.
But from my own perspective as a daughter, I will choose to go back to my husband's house a few months before giving birth, because although the hospital technology is very good now, accidents are inevitable. A relative of my family, menstruation, had an accident at her mother's hospital when she went back to give birth because of family planning. Relatives have never been very cold about her aunt's family, and there are still complaints in it, but when her family paid and contributed, it was not good. So from the perspective of parents, I will choose to go back to my husband's family or my own family in six or seven months. If I really need my parents to take care of me, I will let my parents take care of me.
For girls, perhaps from the time when we are sensible, what parents often say is: "We must find a good husband's family in the future!" At that time, we may not understand the meaning behind this sentence, but when we really entered the marriage hall or became mothers, we began to understand the implied meaning of this sentence-the husband's family is really important to a woman!
"In-laws' home" and "maiden's home" are two important family environments that a woman has in her life. They may be completely different and inseparable, because she won't be happy without either of them.
That year, when I shyly called "Mom" to her, there was another relative in the world who loved me.
Soon after I got married, I was pregnant, and my mother and mother-in-law were very happy when they learned. At that time, my mother could not take care of me because of physical discomfort, and her physical strength and energy did not allow her to take care of me. So my pregnancy and confinement are at my husband's house, and my mother-in-law takes care of me and my baby.
Most pregnant mothers will have early pregnancy reaction after pregnancy, and generally have severe morning sickness symptoms, but I don't. I want to eat, drink and sleep, and the whole process is relatively easy. Even so, she didn't let her mother-in-law stop busy. "What do you want to eat today? I go to the vegetable market to buy; Eat more fruits, and children will have good skin in the future; I have a cramp in my leg. Does it still hurt? Did you drink milk? What color wool should I choose to knit a sweater? It's too hot to sleep well? Drink some chicken soup before going to bed at night ... "My mother-in-law who usually scrimps and saves is not stingy with me at all. In the hot summer, my mother-in-law won't let me. When I was young, I was so stupid that I thought my mother-in-law was exaggerating. "Air conditioners and electric fans can't be turned on, otherwise you will have a headache in the future; Wear a hat, or you will have a headache in the future; Don't talk loudly, and don't answer the phone for a long time, otherwise you will feel chest tightness in the future; You can't watch TV, or your eyes will be sore in the future; Don't touch cold water, cold will enter the body; Don't sit too long, I'll take care of the children, you go to sleep first ... "In short, my mother-in-law takes good care of my children. I can't describe her kindness in words, but I am infinitely grateful and glad that I have a good mother-in-law.
So is it better to stay at her husband's house or go back to her mother's house during pregnancy and confinement? In fact, as far as individuals are concerned, confinement can be done anywhere, mainly to keep healthy and take good care of the baby.
Just say me! I want to live in my mother's house when I am pregnant, but my sister-in-law is pregnant and she wants to live in her mother's house, too. I have the same idea. What do you want to eat at your mother's house? what would you like to drink? Mother knows that she is more considerate than her mother-in-law. What's wrong with my health, or anything else, I'm a little embarrassed for my mother-in-law. If I lose my temper with my mother, she will treat me like a child and give me no general knowledge. But her sister-in-law's children are still young, and she is afraid that going to her parents' house will affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. She also has a disabled grandmother who doesn't want to cause trouble to her parents' home, so she can only go to her parents' home less. Haven't waited for me to talk! Mother gave me the order, "Xiaoling, you and Xiao Fang are pregnant. At this time, we should not only pay attention to our health, but also pay attention to our psychology. We should attach importance to it. So don't stay at your mother's house all the time, in case Xiao Fang is unhappy and has fetal distress. What do you say? " "You said, too, not afraid to make her sister-in-law unhappy? Besides, you are in poor health, so I will stay at my parents' house less in the future. "
Later, during my pregnancy, I mostly lived in my mother-in-law's house, and my mother-in-law took good care of me. She often cooks good food for me in different ways. I pay great attention to what to eat and what not to eat. She also warned her son, my husband, "Xiaoling is in an emergency, don't make her angry." You have to coax her and follow her. " He also told me: "If Xiaohui bullies you, tell your mother when you are angry, and I will teach him a lesson for you." So I am very happy and comfortable like a princess during pregnancy.
Wherever you are, it depends on your cooperation.
I think it's okay to live where you like. Now there are not many children at home, and I don't want to eat as before, worrying that my guests can't afford to eat! Besides, if you are pregnant, your mother-in-law and your mother must be treasures!
When pregnant, morning sickness is very severe. I have been living in my parents' house. In the first four months, I couldn't get in whatever I ate and vomited, but I still endured eating and vomited. I lost weight in the fourth month of pregnancy 18 kg, and began to show my stomach in the fifth month. At that time, I began to feel better and didn't throw up much. At that time, my parents began to do farm work, and I would help wash clothes and cook every day!
When I was almost eight months pregnant, my parents began to urge me to go back to my husband's house. I'm afraid I'll be home alone when they are busy. In case no one looks after the baby, my husband has been working in other places and will come back to accompany me one month in advance!
During pregnancy, I like to stay at my mother's house, although the conditions are not as good as my husband's. Pregnant in the second year after marriage, my husband is not at home, which is even more boring. On the contrary, my mother's house is where I grew up, I am familiar with the taste and can spend more time with my parents, so I think so!
When I was pregnant with my son, I lived in my mother-in-law's house. My mother-in-law is very kind to me. She taught me what to eat and what not to eat. Everyday, she cooks for me in different ways. Sometimes she even thinks she treats me as a guest. Because I am pregnant with my first child, I don't know if I should have regular checkups. On the day of every physical examination, my mother-in-law will get up at six in the morning to make breakfast. After breakfast, she will tell my husband and doctor to read the test report. I remember the day before giving birth, my mother-in-law asked me to go to the hospital for labor, because it took her three or four hours to go to the hospital. She is worried that if she is going to have a baby, she will not be able to go to the hospital in time. I remember that day, my father-in-law, mother-in-law, husband and two sisters-in-law accompanied me to the hospital. After the baby was born, she stayed in the hospital for six days, and several of them accompanied me for six days. The nurse also told me that your home is really nice. Yes, we have a good family relationship. Mother-in-law has something to say to me. We are like mother and daughter.