1. Start with his usual behavior.
People are very complex individuals, and it is not a very simple thing to really understand a person. If you want to make real friends, only by knowing him can you have more choices in the process of making friends.
To understand other people's character is to understand his quality, cultivation and morality. People are divided into groups. Only people with similar temperament and congenial temper can get together and become friends. If the other person's friends are neither fish nor fowl, his quality will not be too high; He associates with people who have no moral cultivation, so his own cultivation will not be good. Some people win people's hearts with their personality and temper when making friends. People with the same pursuit become good friends; There are also people who come together because they like the same. But in any case, as long as two people have the same cultivation and quality, they can become permanent friends. Therefore, to understand a person, you can start by understanding his friends.
To really understand a person, you can also start by observing how he treats others.
When a person is proud, he especially likes to talk about his interaction with others. Therefore, the speaker has no intention, and the listener has a heart. So, these things are more real.
But if he tells you to your face how he used others, how he cheated others and so on. Then you should be especially careful of him in the future, because he will probably do the same to you.
There is a kind of person who is very smooth and feels very secular. However, he often does things to his face and behind his back. He will say to your face how good you are and how bad others are. So learn to be smart and pay attention to this kind of person, because if he talks about other people's shortcomings in front of you, he is likely to talk about your shortcomings behind others' backs.
But there is such a person who will criticize you face to face, point out your shortcomings, but praise the advantages of others in front of you. Maybe you can't accept his honesty, but such a person is very trustworthy.
In addition, from the way a person treats his wife, children and parents, we can see whether this person is responsible and selfish.
You can also know his attitude towards his family by whether he comes home on time, whether he informs his family first in case of emergency, and whether he feels very kind when talking about his family. A person who can't take care of his family will never take care of his friends. Such people often only think about themselves, only care about their own gains and losses and safety, and can't think of friends at all. So be careful when making friends, and try not to associate with people without family values.
2. Considering from his available aspects.
If you want to see if the friends you make will be useful to you in the future, then the first thing you have to do is to see through other people's hearts. Only in this way can you better distinguish who can use it and where it can be used, and then you can decide what method to use.
It is not easy to see through a person's heart, especially the heart of a stranger who meets for the first time. However, no matter how smart a person is, he will unconsciously expose his inner world, but the degree and way of exposure are different. Therefore, we must learn to use our eyes and brains, and learn to observe and analyze various superficial phenomena in order to grasp the essence of the problem.
Here are several ways to help you see through other people's hearts;
1. Look at his heart from the way he usually greets.
Don't underestimate a simple greeting, but it can give you a chance to know each other's heart. You can see if the external manifestations listed below are consistent with the analyzed inner world.
When a person looks at each other and salutes at the same time, this person is wary of each other, but also has some desires to take advantage.
People who dare not look up at each other when communicating show that they have a certain sense of inferiority.
Look at his mind from his eyes.
Eyes are the windows to the soul, from which we can see what he wants to say. Eyes can help us perceive the inner world of others. If a person is thinking something, his eyes will immediately reflect it.
Eyes are a very important tool for spiritual communication. Through our eyes, we can exchange views with each other. As I said just now, no matter how beautiful the other person's mouth is, his eyes will reflect his inner intentions.
Next, let's take a look at how to see each other's real intentions from their eyes and lines of sight when talking.
(1) He talks to you without looking at you.
Sometimes no matter what you say to him, his eyes always look into the distance.
When you get to the point, the other person looks away from time to time, so he doesn't care what you are saying. He may be calculating something else. Especially the woman you decide to marry. When you talk to her about serious topics, she tends to look away or look around. If so, we can conclude that various plans are under way in her heart.
(2) staring at you.
When the other person says, "Ah! Now, we can only resign ourselves to fate! " His attitude means that his lies or sins will be exposed, so he will deliberately show such a posturing calm attitude.
(3) when the other person's eyes are flashing.
A person's heart is worried about something, but there is no way to really say it frankly, and he will have such an expression. It can be said that he has an inferiority complex towards you, or he is thinking about how to cheat you.
When you meet a friend and see the other person's gloomy eyes, you must have thought of something unpleasant or unexpected. However, if his eyes suddenly light up when you are talking to him, it means that your words have just touched his heart and aroused his interest.
In the process of communication, we will find that after careful observation; The eyes really convey the inner thoughts. Below, we can see through each other from each other's line of sight.
Some people will glance left and right when they meet for the first time. In this case, it means that they have occupied a certain advantage.
Some people will suddenly look away once they are watched by others. These people generally have a sense of inferiority, or a feeling of being dwarfed.
When you find his eyes calm, you can know that he has thought through your most urgent things. You just need to ask him for advice and express your anxiety. If he refuses to make it clear, it is because it is confidential, so don't ask more questions, just wait for him quietly.
If you find that the other person's eyes are very scattered, at this time, you have to rely on yourself to protect yourself, because he is indifferent to you.
Raise your eyelids and look up at each other to show respect or trust.
When his eyes are quiet or smiling, you should know that he is satisfied with you. To please him, you just need to say a few more compliments at this time; If you ask him for help, this is also a good opportunity. As long as you can put it forward in an appropriate way, the effect will be very good.
If you look down at each other, it shows that he intends to maintain his dignity towards each other.
If you find the other person's eyes shining and absent-minded, then you can understand that he is tired of you, and it is useless for you to continue talking.
People who have to broaden their horizons, or whose horizons have changed dramatically, are generally more anxious and alert.
If there is no way to focus on the other person, but also quickly withdraw their line of sight, indicating that this person belongs to that introverted personality.
If a person's eyes move around, it means that he is thinking frequently.
Although I miss each other very much, I always pretend to look around. This not only shows that the other party has strong concerns, but also shows that he doesn't want the other party to know what he means.