It can be used for biological parents, who have to be in good health and at least able to withstand psychological blows of a vindictive nature, but not for partners and partners' parents.
Three:
One and two have been said,
Three, throw them at each other. (Use caution!!! Preferably the working and living independently kind.)
Hint: It's a more exciting move, but has more fallout for remediating family members.
Operate well, you can reach a compromise; operate badly, I'm not responsible.
Premise, you have to have the determination to sacrifice all the items, to be honest, a lot of items are really a pity to throw away, tasteless.
Many years later when you grow up, you will realize that those things are indeed not that valuable, and may just be playthings at some point in your growth process. But this you feel slowly.
That's how I went from collector to minimalist.
But sometimes family members do seem to be double standards, overbearing and disrespectful of privacy, and that's because they're used to controlling their children.
I don't recommend crying because it's useless against strong parents. It is better to act.
Make a pact, what items fit what situation will have to be cleaned up, let them say it themselves, write it out even better.
Mainly the reasons they used to throw your stuff away, like haphazardly displaying it, or thinking you can't use it, or playing with it, etc.
You have to promise that you'll be adamant about it and never give them trouble again.
Then you take all the things they conform to and throw them all away while they're not home.
Be willing to part with it, don't hold on to it. Don't part with it because you think it's expensive, or you'll always feel like they're hurting you later and there's nothing you can do about it.
Keep throwing it away until they can't take it anymore.
Often at this time, you will find that the family is actually very double standard very double standard, throw your toys when, cheeky and threw, but you threw their poker, mahjong, or square dance fan, etc., or delete empty his computer games and log out of the account when, they will also howl.
Or when you throw their socks right out the window because they're lying around, they rage.
Remember you have to counter with the same reasoning, and with a smile that says, Oh? I thought it was my own socks lying around?
Or I think this stuff is unhealthy and a waste of time.
Or, That whoever wants it, I'll give it to him, you don't really use it anyway.
The point is to pick the right target item, try to be something they care about but isn't worth much, or something they can sell for money, don't destroy documents, don't destroy bills, depending on the situation.
For example, I've never smoked, don't like alcohol, utilitarian, anti-religious.
But my dad likes to smoke and drink.
My mom likes to worship Christ.
I can organize my stuff however I want, but to actually come over and randomly dispose of items in my house or even the basement or throw them away after I bought the house just makes me angry. And the facts tell me that this is a problem they can't change.
So when my dad threw out my stash, I turned around and sold his sous vide and all of his wine collection (which I actually still gave him back in the day) and then I kept it to myself so that he would find out for himself, and then said that he saw it the other day and felt like it was going to expire, so he threw it out. "What? Haha? I have to discuss this with you? It's not necessary, I'm doing you a favor, you can buy fresh ones." Pay attention to control emotions, this level of operation varies from person to person, anyway, I can basically grasp the balance, there are times when I can not control each other.
As for my mom, I threw away her statue of Christ and cross. The reason is feudal superstition, affecting others, not in line with socialist values, so firmly opposed (the degree of opposition depending on whether she still throws things from my past without permission)
People always have privacy, for example, when I was in junior high school wrote so many love letters, I always don't want to be seen, and I don't want to be found out that when I went to school, actually fell in love with early love -- but it really didn't affect my ability to go to school, so I don't want to be found out. -but it really didn't affect my ability to get into school.
After my family threw away my junior high school notes, I burned a few of their youthful photos and love letters (in fact, my conscience is not dead, human nature is still alive, so I took photos in advance, the photos are scanned and collected in a personal album, confidential). For the same reason: this stuff is so many years old, do you still read it?
And a very double standard thing. They thought my mattress was too soft and said that would be a bad way to sleep, then actually took the liberty of buying a hard mattress over and giving the old one to my eldest! I came back to bed at night before I felt something was wrong, and then rage ah! You can't win an argument because they definitely have more reasons for health care than you do. I just took direct action and returned to my old house and cleaned out all the supplements and items, like food compatibility charts and whatnot. The reasoning was pseudoscience, and I did it thoroughly anyway, so it didn't matter if I won the argument or not.
Many times, I pass by these differences in habits with a completely open mind, and don't really mind at all. But what comes around has to come around, and when I forcefully insert myself into my life, I forcefully insert myself back.
This is my personality now.
Too much playing with each other since then, and they finally stopped throwing my stuff around (it only lasted a couple years), but the process was exhausting.
PS: Only applies to overbearing, uncommunicative parents. Try to communicate when you can, but be decisive when you have to act, don't hesitate or hold back.
If there are too many paper-based collections, it is recommended that you try to take pictures and then upload them to the Internet, do not leave them.
I suggest more networked, around then try to streamline, a box to put things, the rest of the foreign objects as a stay in the hotel, which is the premise to sacrifice all items. Better to change style.
I too changed my style before realizing that one, I really didn't know how to organize my housekeeping back then, and two, they were completely double standard, or strong controlling parents. Everything big or small was taken by them without taking care of my personal space, and it's amazing that this is still the case after I came out to live alone as an adult.
Although it's tragic and not particularly generous, especially this juvenile approach to fixing family members, I shouldn't really tell you about it, but since I too was once in deep pain, I feel the same way.
But if your parents are people with consistent standards, like throwing away clothes, if they say the clothes are old and should be thrown away if they wear them for 3/4 years and they do do it themselves, then you can't catch a break;
But if they are disgusted with your aesthetics and think you dress like a Pinoy's closet, then go ahead and donate the clothes that you think are inappropriate for them, too. Don't give it away, there's a cost to a trade war, let alone a civil war.
And maybe you learn to organize your house instead in the process of throwing things away.
So I'd say, one, you need to grow up, two, learn to organize your house (which is fundamental), and three, you can fight back as a last resort, but cautiously, because the consequences are unpredictable and it doesn't always work.
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Throw your tape or whatever and ask why you did it. The more detailed the reason, the better. Write it down and get the logic right. Then attack yourself with your own. I'm guessing you collect tapes because they're the ones with the stars you chased and the songs you liked when you were young, similar to youthful memories, although there are very few people who listen to tapes nowadays. I think you should figure out why you want to keep them, if you like the songs, you can buy digital versions of the music and store them online; if they are from an ex-girlfriend or something, you can consider putting the whole box with a lock in the basement (putting them in a friend's house doesn't work unless your friend has two acres of land at home, or your friend's mom will clean it up); or maybe you're a collector, just like me. Some parents won't understand and always think that their children's stuff, as long as I don't understand it then it's worthless and meaningless. But the best advice is to self-abandonment, only bare feet are not afraid to wear shoes, they throw you against.
Believe it or not? I was actually an excellent student and a good kid until I graduated from college. But my naughtiness wasn't an end in itself, it was a means to an end, just a means of fighting back against the specter of control that I couldn't get rid of after graduation. They were amazed at the time, wondering why I had suddenly changed, and I said that it was indeed time to change.