When I met my sister, I was in the second grade. At that time, my parents brought us seven sisters back from the Northeast, the family is poor, struggling, is relying on a few daughters and sons-in-law of the big mother's family to help, only to go through that period of hard times.
In my impression, Sis elegant, dignified, is a very delicate person, every time I see Sis, will see her stay short hair, dressed decently and generously, occasionally embellished with a small scarf of different colors. Sis speaks softly, but can sing and dance well, at that time was working in the township office of the Board of Education.
Every year, on the second day of the Lunar New Year, it was the day when the daughters returned to their mother's home, and also the day of the reunion of Big Mother's family. Several cousins and brothers-in-law would come back with their children, and at noon they ate at Big Mother's home, and in the evening they all gathered at my house. Father and mother would prepare a large table of food, chatting and drinking with these sisters and brothers-in-law who were so kind to our family, talking about the family's harvest and the children's progress, and the sisters and brothers-in-law would never forget to praise mother's cooking skills and encourage and instruct our younger siblings who were studying. This day every year has also become the biggest anticipation of the Spring Festival in my memory. That day was an event for my family. I loved seeing my sisters' new clothes and listening to them talk about things outside the village. Sister Hua Duo was especially partial to me, and would tell me every time, "Ming Song ah, study hard haha, you'll definitely be able to eat state food in the future."
The days passed in this way, year after year of expectation, I gradually grew up, but also really answered my sister's words - to eat the national food. I read the secondary school, have a city account, and was assigned to my sister's school, is also my alma mater - sun word middle school work, from now on and sister became a colleague. From then on, I became a regular visitor to my sister's home. Sister often asked me to go to her home for dinner, do what good food do not forget to give me to bring, sister always said: "your brother often go out to eat, Zhao Kai and not at home, I can not eat, you help to eat ha, or it will be bad." I can feel my sister is heartbroken I eat bad, but also in the careful maintenance of my self-esteem of the poor family. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this.
Two years later, Sis transferred to Xiaoguan Town with her brother-in-law, because the teacher's salary is issued by the township government, her brother-in-law helped me to transfer to the better benefits of Zetou Township - Zetou Middle School teaching. This is still very close to my sister. My parents were used to me following my sister, and no matter what problems they encountered, they would always say, "You and your sister Huaduo and brother Chengze will discuss it. Later on, I found a man, whose family was from Xiaoguan. Often after work he drove me on his motorcycle to my sister's house, and then he came back to pick me up the next day. At night, my sister and I slept on a big bed, and my sister asked me about the girl I was looking for, and said to my brother-in-law, "Go and ask Ming Song about her, she's the daughter of my old Bi family." Brother-in-law then said: "" I know the director of his family, the youth is quite good, in addition to short, no other problems, will also use the computer." My sister then smiled reassuringly and said, "A good person is better than anything else." Every time I talk, I don't realize that it's midnight. Every time you go, sister will make dumplings, while working and sister to share the love of the bits and pieces, sister every time to listen very carefully, but also from time to time to give me some advice. I'm not sure if I've ever had a good time, but I'm sure I've had a good time, and I'm sure I've never had a good time.
Sister lived in the family home, the yard has a yard of fresh vegetables. Once went, just in time to have a professional photographer and brother-in-law at home to talk about things, sis said: "Rarely met professional masters, to Ming Song also take a picture of it." Sister very seriously taught me how to pose well, how to put my hands, where to look, and also gave me a small umbrella. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
The years are quiet, so after many years, I watched me grow up step by step, and I gradually stepped into the middle age.
Later, my sister went to the city with her husband, and I got married and had children. But I've never been absent from every important moment of my life. I'm still collecting the red leather belt that my sister gave to my husband and me when we got married.
I later also went to the city, due to busy work and life, and sister instead of getting together less often. After the death of my mother, the old family back home is also less. Many years, my sister and I meet generally in sister's birthday, sister many consecutive years birthday will call on me and Cui sister and Xiaodu to participate in her birthday party, each time will be brother to her to buy a bouquet of flowers unwrapped divided into a few roses and lilies to take home; and my birthday every year, sister is almost the only one who remember, do not need to remind, will always be on time to receive the blessing of the sister. Once and sister said: "Sister, you are the only person who will not forget my birthday." Sis replied, "For the person I like, I am loyal oh." Then sent a hug and naughty emoji. Instant warming.
Sister is a very ritualistic person. Not only birthdays, sister will also be in the Teacher's Day, March 8, New Year's Day, Spring Festival, and even Valentine's Day to send me a message of blessing, one year's Valentine's Day, sister about the four of us in the Liang Ji congee store party, met the ha-ha laugh, sister said: "The four of us out of the romantic one. Valentine's Day is the festival of people with feelings together, can not be limited to men and women."
Every year when the cherries are ripe, Sis will also call us together to eat cherries once, and I often cool; the four of us will occasionally go together to buy clothes, shopping all over the Jindu, Liqun and Galaxy shopping plaza, go to the restaurant together for a small get-together, and sit together in the car of the big brother of the Jinlong to go to Shouguang vegetable greenhouses. At that time did not feel how difficult to meet, although the number of times is not much, but always feel that sister is around, never far away, never left.
Sister and I both like words, over the years, more communication between the two of us is through QQ and WeChat, through the circle of friends and QQ space changes to understand each other's lives and current state. We pay attention to each other's every dynamic update, will respond to each other's every change, in each other's qq log under the message.
Sister told me that she gave herself a net name "Shuyue", the meaning of comfort and joy. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at it, and I was able to get a good look at it, and I was able to get a good look at it. Every time I write an article will send me to see, or mood, or the indignation of the bad phenomenon, or sympathy for the weak, every time I will sigh sister's fine writing and sincere, more through these words to see sister's justice and kindness. I will also put their own or joy or emotion or excitement or excitement, no matter the length of the article, sis will patiently read, and then very serious comments. In the comment section, sis still does not change the year to encourage me. Every time the competition won a prize, sister will seriously read my experience of the competition, heartbroken and I said it is really not easy, and even tears. Sister once and I said she listened to the FanDeng book club, think it is quite good, hope to become a member, and then we became a member; Sister once recommended that I read Zhang Defen's "life will meet loneliness", and later, I bought all of Zhang Defen's books, her words can cause us to **** Ming, will be in a certain moment to find themselves. My sister and I belong to the kind of spiritual communication more, each other understand the feeling that other people can not experience, no matter what topic we talk about, we can see our own shadow from each other. This kind of exchange, will let us release the troubles of life, cherish the friendship along the way, but also cherish the current happy life.
In addition to both like words, sis and I exchange more health. Sister often instructed me to say: "Women must not be angry, pay attention to warmth, wear pants can not show the knee, also can not show the neck of the foot." Later, Sis told me: talking too much will consume gas. Every time I talk to my sister on the phone, after less than ten minutes, she will say: "Ming Song ah, I do not say ha, really tired." I then busy put down the phone, but Sis will still WeChat and I continue to chat for ten minutes. Sister live very carefully and carefully, never messy food, but still weak, weak heartbreaking. Maybe it is a long time to become a doctor, sis know a lot of Chinese medicine prescriptions, sis often take me to take a bath to steam, introduce a good tui na store to me, and I do moxibustion, but also send me a few moxibustion box, sis said moxibustion has too many benefits, can get rid of cold and dampness ...... sis think all the good things in her life are unreservedly shared with me, as when I was a child Favoritism towards me. Sis is a warm presence for me ......
The last time I saw Sis was at Dakai's wedding, when the happy mother-in-law Sis dressed beautifully, although very thin, but the face is still glowing; the last time I WeChat is Sis and I said: due to inconvenient reasons, the circle of friends can not be commented on and liked, please understand! I'm not sure what I'm talking about. I don't know, but I know that sis must have her reasons, and I didn't ask too many questions; the last time I talked on the phone was on August 15, 2018, 80 minutes long, sis's voice was loud, her tone was calm with joy, and I talked about a lot of people and a lot of things, talking about the past and the future, talking about life and work, and sis also said that she liked to sing, and sang a lot of songs in the national K song. I also said happily, "Sis, you know what? I haven't heard you talk so loudly and so much in a long time. Isn't it time for us to think about partying." Sis said to wait a little longer, wait for her to contact me, and this wait, but the eternal goodbye, more unexpected is that from this chat just ten days apart.
People may automatically block out some of the impermanence that happens to the people they love, thinking that they will always be around and never leave. I never thought Sis would leave, much less so suddenly. The promising Dakai, understanding daughter-in-law, lovely little granddaughter, and the soon-to-be-retired brother-in-law, really enjoy life, the days of old age have just begun, how can Sis bear to leave behind.
I looked over and over again at the WeChat chat records with my sister, listening to my sister's voice, looking at my sister's comments under the log, holding my sister's calendar with my photo, looking at our photo, countless times, tears fell like rain. I can not believe, do not want to believe more dare not face such bad news. From the age of nine to my forties, my sister has been in my life not only as a relative, but also as a confidant, the most loyal and caring friend, and a bosom friend without words. Sis had melted y into my life. However, I can no longer enjoy my sister's favoritism towards me. Sister's WeChat name is "Autumn Leaf Lightly Floating", Sister really like an autumn leaf like floating away, silent. I don't want to involve others, I don't even know the news of my sister's hospitalization, I didn't serve her a cup of water, I didn't stay with her for the last minute, I'm on my sister, only to ask for it, not to return it, it's the deepest regret and guilt in my life.
The day I left was the day before the first anniversary of my father's death. When the loved ones left one after another, no matter any external force can not be blocked can not be undone when, more feel the world is unpredictable, sad from the heart. Over the years, due to the death of my parents and the departure of my sister, my heart has been soaked in tears for too long. I often wondered: what is the other world like? Will they meet there? If they meet they will definitely take good care of each other, and there must be no sickness in that world, there must be none!
Every year at the Ching Ming Festival, I will squat in front of my sister's grave and say a lot of words to her, as we once chatted, although my sister did not respond, I know she can sense. I believe that my sister just changed a time and space existence, although I can not see her, but she must still be there. It is said that the real death of a person is not leaving, but forgetting. Not being forgotten, one will live in our hearts forever. Sister's kindness, thrift, attentiveness, love for her loved ones, and sincerity for her friends will live on in my life. I believe that my sister can sense the happiness and joy of her loved ones, as well as the sadness and grief of her loved ones, so my sister loves us dearly, ah, we all have to work hard, live well, cherish the loved ones around us, and live well as she would like us to live. Because, one day, everyone we live, will also eventually grow old.
May the world of sister, all is well! May the next life, still be a sister!
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