Accept and let go, or time will dilute everything.
Many answers were not to my liking until I saw Su Dongpo's words: "Looking back at the bleak place, rain or shine."
There is a dawn in the long night, and there is a way home in life. There was no rain or shine in the past.
Letting go is actually a kind of forward, not indulging in the past, not entangled in letting go. If you meet the right person, you will cherish it; if you miss it, you will try to let it go.
The rest of your life is too fast, so don't let the past haunt you to see the scenery next.
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Learning to let go means knowing not to compare with others.
When I was young, I was always tired of my parents comparing myself with other people's children. Later, when I was old, I found that as long as people lived in groups, they could not avoid comparing with others.
Benign competition is desirable, blind comparison will lose your life and even give birth to dark ideas. No one in this world really wants you to live better than him, and no one can tolerate you being inferior to others.
Therefore, life is not only to make yourself live better, but also to take a breath, which often leads to anxiety and entanglement.
Heard the story of the tweeter:
Once upon a time, there lived a bird in the virgin forest of South America. This bird has a green, gray-textured circle, just like a wavy circle, so it is named Cui Bo Bird.
Although this kind of bird is beautiful, it is busy building nests every day, so it looks listless and tired.
The only feature of the tribal bird's nest is that it is huge, one by one in the tree, and the scene is spectacular. This kind of bird is a kind of bird, but their nests are very big.
The researchers did an experiment and caught a trilling bird to observe its nesting process. As a result, the bird was made to hold only its own size and stopped. The researchers caught another bird and the situation suddenly changed. Both birds frantically expanded their nests until one of them died.
A comparative heart has caused the fatigue of life. Without enjoying a comfortable life, I lost my heart in comparison. The nest is used to shelter from the wind and rain, to live with family members, not to grow bigger and look better.
How many people can realize this?
The world is your own, and everyone else is a supporting role. Look at yourself instead of staring at others. Learning to let go is the real life.
"Don't listen to the leaves in the forest, why don't you sing slowly. Bamboo poles and sandals are more dexterous than riding horses. What's to be afraid of? A misty rain is a lifetime. "
You have to learn to move forward, but also learn to let go of the wind and rain behind you, and slowly walk and sing and focus on your heart.
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When you stop complaining, you will know how to let go.
No regrets in life is the Tao, and no regrets in life is the virtue. Cherish what you get; Give up what you lost. Too much care will halve the fun of life, and everything will be relieved if you look down.
Persistence is actually a burden, even a pain. Caring too much will become a fetter, and being lost for too long will become a kind of pain. Giving up is not giving up the pursuit, but facing life with an open mind.
Aunt Chen's divorce was very bumpy, and she was derailed by domestic violence and did not take the initiative to divorce. The point is that she can't open it. She looks for someone to complain every day, complaining that men have no conscience and saying where a woman in her thirties can go.
Later, because of my daughter's persuasion, I chose to divorce, no longer entangled with love rat, and resolutely returned to my life. Now I am very happy to sing and dance in the square.
Neighbors said the divorce was good, and Aunt Chen improved a lot. Later, she lived a carefree life and had her own skills. There are many men around her who pursue her, and she can get along well with her daughter. Aunt Chen stopped complaining and ushered in a real life.
At the same time, I heard about the life of another rich wife, who refused to divorce after cheating, kept a fortune and went shopping every day. Now that I hear about Aunt Chen's life, I can think about myself. It was always the same when my husband cheated.
In fact, we all know that it is impossible. Let go of the past, let go of the predecessor, and we can meet the beauty of tomorrow. A woman who has wronged herself can only get deeper and deeper.
For couples, letting go is a kind of letting go. You and I both deserve a better life. For couples, letting go means letting go of yourself. You can live a better life, which has nothing to do with me.
Many first loves are fruitless. Many men have a Bai Yueguang in their hearts, and many women have a Zhu Shazhi in their hearts. The past will pass, and the nostalgia for the present is more of an unwillingness. Letting go is the best commemoration of the past.
It is futile to complain that men change their minds and women are too poor to love rich people. People who leave can't turn back, and you won't want to leave again. Forget it, forget it, and finally become an ordinary original.
The so-called real letting go is not the deterioration, weakening or lack of love of feelings. But just love in another way, that kind of love will not hurt each other, nor will it make you live in pain. A release, each other silently happy.
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The best way to let go is to learn to let go.
An old monk, surrounded by a group of devout disciples. On this day, he told his disciples to go to Nanshan to get a load of firewood. The disciples hurried to the river on the hillside, and everyone was dumbfounded.
I saw the flood rushing down from the mountain, and I couldn't cross the river to collect firewood in any case. Without success, the disciples were a little depressed. There is only one young monk and master who are calm and stand opposite each other.
When the master asked him why, the young monk took an apple out of his arms and handed it to the master, saying that he could not cross the river to collect firewood. When he saw an apple tree by the river, I picked the only apple on it. Later, the young monk became a descendant of the master.
There are endless roads and rivers in the world. If you can't cross the river, turn around, and you can't let go of the immovable firewood. What's the use of being depressed? You always think about it. The real letting go is not to let go, but to move forward and enjoy the scenery around you.
The best way to let go is to learn to let go. In an instant, the world is wide and everything looks different.
Su Dongpo, as a prime minister, was brilliant, but he was repeatedly suppressed in the gap between the old and new party struggles, and was banished from the foot of the son of heaven to a wild land.
As soon as he was demoted to Huangzhou, he smiled: "The Yangtze River knows the beauty of fish everywhere, and bamboo shoots are fragrant in the mountains."
Second, when I was demoted to Huizhou, I didn't change my smile: "300 lychees a day, and when I grow up to be a Lingnan person, I have no hesitation."
After being demoted to Danzhou for three times, he became more and more leisurely: "Who wrote his geography that year, Wan Li, Hainan, Zhenwu Township."
Su Dongpo has long let go of the pain of others. It is a pity that the most beautiful taste in the world is plain joy, which completely puts down those political desires for fame and fortune.
In the past, all kinds of fame and fortune were floating clouds, but now life is the real scenery. Let go, not just tell yourself to let go, but try to walk well.
"Later, many people asked me what it was like to wander alone at night. What I remember is not the loneliness and long road, but the magnificent ocean and the shining stars in the sky. "
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Sophie's World is about everything at a certain moment, from scratch.
Love is, hate is, care is, and so is letting go.
Even if you can't get over it, you'd better not stay where you are and grieve. The world is so big that you don't want to see it?