The first half of the sentence is complete: "The poor do not leave their relatives, and the rich do not string neighbors." The original words are "the poor don't go far from the rich and don't string neighbors", because "the poor string relatives and are easily looked down upon; Rich neighbors are prone to false crimes. " If you are poor, even your relatives will not move around (that is, alienate). When you are down and out, don't think about going to relatives' homes to get any benefits, which is easy to be looked down upon! Even the neighbors are afraid to visit if they have money, for fear of being dragged down (that is, indifference)! From "Augmented Xianwen": "The poor don't ask in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains; You can tell the truth if you have money, but you can't believe it if you have no money. Look at the glass on the table and persuade the rich first. If you are poor, you won't leave your relatives. If you are rich, you won't visit your neighbors. Put a begging stick in front of your door to keep your relatives and friends away. It takes gold to make friends in the world, not too much or too deep. Even if you make a promise temporarily, you will always be a pedestrian. Money and wine make more friends, so you can't meet people in urgent need. The winner is king, and the loser is a shackle. Only clothes are not important. " These are the true portrayal of interpersonal relationships in the money society. Describe the world as cold. Many people think that the poor love the rich!
The original words of the second half of the sentence that the rich don't return home are actually "riches and honour don't return home", which comes from Xiang Yu. After Xiang Yu, the overlord of the Western Chu Dynasty, captured Xianyang, some people advised him to build the capital, but because he missed his hometown, Xiang Yu was eager to return to the east, saying, "Wealth does not return to his hometown, like a night trip, who knows!" It means that if you go back to your hometown without wealth, it's like walking in the dark in gorgeous clothes! In fact, Xiang Yu is eager for the feeling of success, eager to return home with clothes and eager to show off in his hometown. It can also be said that he was carried away by victory.
The first half of the sentence is linked together, and then extended, meaning that poor people don't go to their relatives, they will be looked down upon and looked down upon. Relatives think they just come to borrow money to climb their relatives to find trouble; Don't go back to your hometown if you have money, lest those poor relatives borrow money to make trouble.
There is no gap between the poor and the rich, but there are differences in habits, mentality, behavior, goals, courage and ways of doing things between the poor and the rich, which leads to the gap between the rich and the poor. Poor people are reluctant to visit relatives for the following reasons:
1. The poor man is poor because he has no broad mind and always thinks I am poor. That's the way it is. It can't be changed. Narrow-minded, not open, thinking, not creative. The rich think differently. I want to be rich, try to make money and be admired. I am extremely cheerful, unrestrained, unrestrained and feasible in thinking.
The poor and the rich have different behavior habits. Poor people usually watch TV, play games and kill time in their spare time. Rich people can play with contracts and plans.
3, the poor are always afraid of things, bound, and push when they see things. Rich people always dare to take things, dare to take things, and have the responsibility and responsibility.
The poor are always afraid of being with people who are better than themselves. They think they are inferior. The rich always look for people who are better than themselves to learn and communicate, and explore greater business opportunities and development paths.
In fact, to put it another way: when you are poor, you should work hard and manage yourself well, which is not suitable for walking. Moreover, going to relatives' homes will unconsciously bring pressure to themselves, even if some relatives try their best to help, they will also bring pressure to themselves. So it's better to be quiet. It's the same when you have money. When you are rich, your relatives will inevitably want you to share or help some difficulties, or some relatives will feel inferior and uncomfortable when they see you. So in order to avoid distinction, let's walk around on an equal footing, or don't show poverty and show wealth.
In short, the poor fundamentally change their views, it is good to visit relatives, and the rich can help them!
Inadvertently saw this problem, alas, my head is going to attack!
The poor never leave their relatives, and the rich never go home. How to understand this sentence?
Literally: that is to say, don't go to visit relatives if you are poor, and don't go home if you have money. This seems strange!
Since I am poor, I should visit my relatives more. How can I live without money and relatives? When I get rich, my first thought is to go back to my hometown to show off. Otherwise, what's the difference with a night tour in Jinyi?
I thought so, too, but I soon found that I was wrong. Why? Please look down!
This sentence actually comes from the Ming Dynasty children's enlightenment book "Zengguang Xianwen". "The poor live in the downtown area and no one asks, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains."
I feel that this book is a bit too cruel and realistic for children to read. The core idea it mainly expresses is the concept of money first, which accords with the psychology of many people now. When people grow up and have experienced these cold, they need to read it.
He not only attacked this kind of affection and neighborhood affection, but also friendship was just a lie. "There are many brothers with wine and meat, and I have never seen anyone in an emergency"; Moreover, social status is determined by money. "Don't believe it, but look at the wine on the banquet, and the cup respects the rich first"; Law and justice are manipulated by money, "the yamen is open, and no money can enter"; Human nature is distorted by interests, "there are straight trees in the mountains, but there are no straight people in the world"; Sophistication leads people to guess. "It's hard to paint a tiger's skin but a bone, and people know its face but not its heart"; Good and evil are inseparable. "Going into the mountains is not afraid of hurting the tiger, but I am afraid that human feelings are a double-edged sword." Of course, there are many other famous sayings, such as "clear water means no fish", "don't hit your face" and so on.
Now it seems very reasonable, even many people think it is wisdom, but I think if people in society learn everything written in this book, do it according to what is written in the book and publicize it, it will make this phenomenon that should have been hit even more serious! Although we are all doing this ourselves. ...
Far from the point, let's talk about "being poor and not leaving your relatives, but not returning home when you are rich". It may mean that your family is poor and unpopular. When you visit relatives, your relatives love to ignore them and even resent them. In order to save face, I still don't visit relatives, so as not to hurt my self-esteem.
However, if you have money, it reminds me of a few things that happened when I was a child. At that time, the village was poor, and my family contracted a fish pond. After two years, I did make some money. Usually drinking and eating may also show a little superiority! As a result, I didn't expect that all the fish died when I went to the fish pond one day. After inspection, they were poisoned and still highly toxic dichlorvos.
Sometimes rich people go back to their hometown, and many people come to borrow money and return bricks to your yard at night! Think about the case of Brother Tai. Just because he became famous, many people came to borrow money. In the end, not only did they not get back the money they lent, but their reputation in the village also stinks! So, if you have money, don't go back to your hometown, unless you are very good and send money from door to door like Liu, maybe someone will be angry with him because of the size of the population!
This is a bad phenomenon in society, and because once bitten, twice shy, I saw others being treated like this, and I was worried that I would do the same, so I adopted the strategy written in the book.
But I still want to attack Yang. Although what I said is reasonable, I still believe that people's hearts are good.
Poor family needs affection more. Even if you give me a dirty look, I will still leave unless you close the door and don't let me in! I am rich, but I still want to go back to my hometown. Even if many villagers borrow money from me, and even some friends are jealous and go bad, it is understandable. After all, if you can help me, just do it yourself, regardless of how others scold me.
This is just a great blessing. What about Fu Xiao?
This question made Yang, who had answered hundreds of questions, lost in thought for the first time. ...
My name is Yang, so if you like it, please pay attention!
If people are poor and go to visit relatives, they will definitely be rejected; People will be alienated if they return to their hometown when they are rich. I can't stand the indifference of my family. Puji has a deep understanding.
Let's talk about "poverty is inseparable from relatives" first. When people are poor, it is difficult to support themselves, let alone help others. This is a stalk that relatives don't like. The reasons are as follows: ① Kinship depends not only on the origin of family ties, but also on the balance of economic exchanges. On holidays, there are important events at home. You come and go, you respect me one foot, I respect you one foot. Once this balance is broken, that is to say, you leave your relatives empty-handed, or it is obvious that you may ask for help, make trouble and not be left out in the cold. When people are poor, the correct way is to save themselves. Try to get out of the predicament by your own efforts, and don't consider the help of others at all. Therefore, the more difficult it is, the more calm you should be, rely on yourself and walk as little as possible so that your relatives don't think you are a problem. Even if relatives want to help, they should politely refuse; During the period of poverty alleviation, you should not let your relatives be absent for a necessary walk, but you should tell your current situation and attitude appropriately so that they can understand and appreciate it.
Besides, rich people can't go back to China. Zhu Zhiwen, a grassroots singer, is a typical example. Before he became famous, the whole village didn't like him: he was lazy and stupid, and he could only sing blindly but couldn't do farm work. He became famous overnight and became rich overnight, and the attitude of the whole village immediately changed fundamentally: this guy has money, made a fortune, and asked him to borrow it! It's like Zhu Zhiwen made money from them, so he borrowed money and didn't pay it back. Besides, everyone is almost the same at ordinary times, and you suddenly come back to your hometown one day and appear in front of your relatives, friends and neighbors in your BMW and Armani. Your first reaction will not be to celebrate your good luck and get rich, but the definite idea is: have you come back to mock our incompetence? Moreover, the more you explain and give gifts, the more you feel looked down upon.
In fact, the curse of "being poor without leaving your relatives and being rich without returning home" can be broken. The method is very simple, as long as you do three things: ① be yourself, be honest and honest, be enthusiastic about helping others, and never tire of seeing others; 2 relatives, friends and neighbors usually walk more, communicate more and understand more; When you have difficulties or major events, you must always let your relatives in your hometown know, and you must clearly let them know your attitude: the way and determination to get out of the predicament, and you will never forget your wishes and ideas in your hometown when you are rich. The biggest taboo is not to say or not to understand, let them guess. This "conjecture" is the root cause of the phenomenon that "the poor never leave their relatives and the rich never return home".
My understanding is a little different from yours: if you are poor and don't leave your relatives, that is, your family is too poor, ordinary relatives should not wander around, so you will visit your relatives with what little savings you have at home, and then you will always be poor and have no savings, so ordinary relatives will be alienated. Moreover, if you walk around, people will not be nice to you. You should get rid of them and give yourself a clean break. The so-called "rich don't go home", I think this "rich" is generally rich, not rich, very rich, very rich, generally speaking, there is no "rich don't go home", because you are rich, you are willing to give some money to the villagers, and you are happy. If you are generally rich, go back to your hometown. If you give the money to the villagers, and you are not very economical, then don't go back at all.
How to understand "poverty never leaves home, wealth never returns home"? "The poor don't leave their relatives, and the rich don't go home" is a classic saying, which reflects the worldly wisdom and life in life very realistically and exposes the coldness and indifference of human nature.
"Poverty means that people who are poor will be despised and looked down upon, and relatives and friends will avoid you like the plague. Although the bond between relatives depends on blood relationship, we should know that it depends more on the balance of economic strength. After all, relatives also exchange resources. Once the economic strength is unequal and the balance of resources is broken, it will bring trouble and encounter contempt.
Don't visit relatives when you are poor, because you will be despised, despised and despised. Relatives are afraid of being suspected. You must want something from me. Is it borrowing money or real estate? Either ask him to do things and help you ask for help, or you have to do things for nothing. I'm tired of you, poor man.
At the same time, relatives should bring gifts to show respect. It is impolite to visit relatives empty-handed. People feel inferior when they are poor, and they are even more afraid of being looked down upon by others, so they try their best to spend more money to show their face. But after spending the money, snobbish relatives still despise you and dislike you. Therefore, it is better not to visit relatives. The phrase "be poor and never leave your relatives" profoundly expresses the warmth and coldness of human feelings.
"Don't go back to your hometown if you have money" means don't go back to your hometown if you have money. Because you go back to your hometown with money, some people think that you have come back to show off your wealth and will envy and hate. In addition, if you make a fortune, your relatives and friends in your hometown will open their mouths to borrow money. If you don't help, you will certainly offend others. If you help, it is difficult to satisfy others, and it will also cause necessary troubles and disputes for yourself. Therefore, "not returning home with money" is more of a helpless choice.
"Three acres of land" Hongshan Bai Cui Road West Stream, the ninth cold door to keep quiet. Aim high and dance the sky with swans. My father was happy and comforted me: even if my fame and fortune in other places are not right, there are still three acres of ancestral fields. In front of the east slope of the white horse and yellow shirt, Shili Yangguan is a beautiful picture. There is a sword in the south and a sword in the north, and Qingyun laughs to the peak. The man has Qian Qian's boundless ambition, comforting his relatives: But I want to show my hometown. I have never thought of three acres of land. "Laugh poor" Yan Yixiang, the dog barks at loess bridge. Doctor Wuyang abandoned it like grass, and Wang Yu became a dowry cat. Eat coarse cloth and grass, but don't laugh at secular poverty. The car is too quiet and BMW is happy. The six countries are attached to their waists, and Su Qin meets her money worshippers again. Zhong Ding jade robe, beginning to believe that the world is rich and arrogant. The "young poor" suffered 16 years, and spent half of their parents' money. Wandering from south to north, not wanting to work. I was lucky enough to get a salary of 3 thousand, and I felt ashamed to look at the building. I immediately paid the down payment and lamented that it was difficult for beautiful women to hold hands. Car slave mortgage, shallow children, pressure to sleep at night, the wind is wasted on teenagers.
This sentence is somewhat similar to "the poor are nameless in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." It is said that it is best not to go to relatives' homes when people are poor, otherwise they will be looked down upon and disliked by relatives; If people are rich, it is best not to go back to their hometown, otherwise they will be vilified and reviled because they can't satisfy the excessive help of their hometown people. I believe that most people have a deep understanding of poverty. The taste of poverty has also inspired many people to be brave after being ashamed, and many people have been hurt and hit by poverty. They all say that human feelings are indifferent and the world is cold! If you have money and don't go back to your hometown, Brother Tai's experience explains the true meaning of this sentence! In fact, it's a bit serious that you are poor and inseparable from your relatives and rich and don't return home. Most places in China are simple and hospitable, but in some places, some people can't be kind to their relatives and others, so we can't take responsibility together!
This sentence originated from China's classical literature "Zengsheng": "The poor are not in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains; Have money to tell the truth, but no money to tell lies; If you don't believe me, look at the wine on the table and persuade Fu Xian. A poor man never leaves his relatives, and a rich man never visits his neighbors. They put a begging stick in front of the door, and relatives and old friends don't come. "
"Glorifying and Offering Articles" is an enlightening bibliography of Taoist children compiled by China in the Ming Dynasty. This book's understanding of human nature is based on "inherent bad habits", and it gives a cold insight into social life and family ties polluted by money.
The phrase "the poor don't leave their relatives and the rich don't go home" means that all people in the world love the rich.
Poor people will be looked down upon by relatives and friends, even if they just visit relatives and friends, they are easily misunderstood as borrowing money or eating and drinking; But when you get rich, people in the village will think that you are developed and rich. It doesn't matter if I borrow money from you. I take advantage of you. After all, you have money and don't care about this little money.
Although this sentence was written thousands of years ago, it still has certain basis and social foundation.
In A Dream of Red Mansions, Granny Liu once went to the Grand View Garden. Granny Liu from the countryside came to visit relatives in Jiafu and wanted to borrow money. She was funny to please the rich daughter of Jia's family, and was also gossiped. This shows that "being poor and not leaving your relatives" is a very realistic problem.
Zhao Liying, a small flow flower, was originally a star who came out of a small village in Langfang, Hebei Province. In recent years, she has been particularly brilliant in the entertainment circle. It is a good thing that she built a spacious road for her backward hometown with her own money. As a result, the villagers in her hometown are not only ungrateful, but also take it for granted. They even think that Zhao has given too little money and should spend more money to build their hometown.
This kind of moral kidnapping is an explanation of an extreme phenomenon that "the rich don't go home".
Do you have any different opinions on this issue?