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We have a saying, called persuade and not persuade to leave, refers to about couples have conflicts, as a bystander, we should try to persuade and make up, rather than add oil and vinegar, push the wave, persuade each other to break up.
There is also a saying that it is better to tear down ten temples than to destroy a marriage. From these words, it is able to see from the traditional thinking how much emphasis on marriage. So, as a last resort, it is best not to go to the divorce this, after all, together to form a family is really a rare destiny, but the ideal is always harsh, there will always be a marriage in the end do not go on. So, the elderly couple divorced, the rest of their lives in peace?
Reader one, Ms. Wei
I am 28 years old, I grew up in the countryside, from childhood, I can say that I have heard a lot of quarrels and conflicts about the two couples and so on, but also have seen some couples fight, and make a lot of fun. However, when I was a kid, I rarely saw divorced people around, even if couples fight each other to the head, still live together.
And I have heard many examples of women drinking pesticides in my time, after the couple had a fight, or some of the wife was beaten up, but also some of the wife's cries were bullied by the in-laws, etc., a variety of problems and conflicts, resulting in women eventually even drink pesticides to commit suicide.
These things can be said to have left some shadows on me since I was a child, and I always think that marriage seems to be quite scary, otherwise why would so many women prefer to drink pesticides. My mother and father in fact have been living a lifetime is not happy, my father life hard work, but has not been able to earn too much money, coupled with my mother's poor health, three days to see a doctor to spend money, resulting in the family burden heavier.
It is this environment that makes my father's character more and more irritable, and often quarrel with my mother, and even started to beat my mother. I grew up watching, every time I feel particularly afraid.
Grew up in college, and have a job in the city, back home, my mother quietly pulled me said she wanted a divorce, I chose to support her. Because I know that she for me and my sister, this life has endured a long time, often we are older, I also hope that she can live the life I want. My sister and I both told my mother that if she really got divorced, she would live in both of our homes in turn, and we would take care of her. Regarding my father, we will also take care of him, even if they get divorced, he will still be a father.
Reader 2, Ms. Wu
I am in my 30s and used to have a family with a 4-year-old son.
My mother and father is to old age divorced, as a daughter, initially had advised both of them, but because of the understanding of their situation, so I finally did not stop too much.
Mother and father's marriage, a lifetime of mediocrity, although there was no fuss, but between them, it seems to be always relatively indifferent feeling. Later, my mother informed me that she and my father were introduced to recognize soon after the marriage, the lack of emotional roots, coupled with each other's preferences and personality are also some differences, so the two people married, I feel that a lot of inappropriate.
But as their era, very few people will go to divorce, so so make do with life. After having me, they were even less likely to divorce. In fact, I can feel when I was a child, my home is not like other people's homes, overflowing with laughter, always cold, quiet, my mother will often hide in the house crying, I see it pretend not to see, or she will be more sad.
It can be said that the mother endured a lifetime, until I worked independently, she felt no longer attached and burden, this is the decision and father divorce. The fact is, the fact that I'm not a big fan of the idea is that I'm not a big fan of the idea, but I'm a big fan of the idea that I'm not a big fan of the idea.
And my mother feels that she is also living a more youthful life than before. In addition to transporting her children, she dances with the aunts in the yard and goes to the market to buy groceries, which is quite happy.
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In fact, the matter of divorce, not as a last resort, believe that couples are reluctant to go to this step. But assuming that really two people are too different, can not tolerate continue to live, even in old age, but also be able to follow my heart choice. Break up may be to each other's let go, perhaps only to let myself live the life I really want.