What should a rural woman do if she can't have a child after marriage?
China's most rural society and culture, often with some feudal flavor, in the rural family, if the woman can not give birth to children, then it may be scolded, and will even be kicked out of the house. It's a very big deal for the family and can affect family harmony.
In such cases, rural women are often at a disadvantage, and even if they don't know who the problem is, the one to blame is often the woman who can't give birth to a child. In fact, such a situation is also very common, we can often see from the news or TV. Because in China, this kind of thinking has been very deep-rooted, more difficult to shake, even for the contemporary society, although some improvements, but there is still such a phenomenon.
In this case, the rural woman should have to use the progress of science and technology nowadays and the advanced medical treatment. She can go to the hospital to check her body and find out in whose body or in which part the problem appears. Both husband and wife should be examined, only in this way can they better find out where the reason for not being able to have a child lies. Before that, she should have a positive communication with her family, because she may encounter those uncooperative situations and it is often effective to communicate beforehand.
Going to the hospital for a checkup is what is crucial so that the problem can be fixed. Taking a step back, even if the problem happened to this rural woman, nowadays medical technology is so advanced that there are still many means to make you pregnant, but only if the situation is not too serious. As a contemporary rural woman, she should not continue to take the blame for the problem of not being able to have children, and fight for a little bit of women's rights. Getting the problem out of the way also contributes to family harmony and stability.
First of all, you should go to the hospital to check whether there is any disease that leads to not being able to have children, usually women have any problems that are easy to cure. Nowadays many people are unable to have children, there are several around me.
Among the people I know, 3 of them have families where the man has problems, one with low sperm survival, one with inactive sperm, and one with zero sperm. Only one of them divorced, the man thought the woman had a problem, the woman's family went to the hospital to check themselves and there was no problem, directly divorced, and when he left, he threw down a very elegant sentence: ask your son to go to the hospital to check himself!
The other two pairs, sperm zero survival rate, directly to do artificial insemination; sperm inactive pair also experienced a family war, efforts of six or seven years have been intended to give up to do IVF, pregnant.
Now society is relatively fair, people's thinking is also a lot of progress, are no longer determined that the woman can not bear children, after marriage can not bear children, do not always suspicious, must go to the hospital to check, the woman's body structure is very wonderful, a friend because of ectopic pregnancy, the uterus is cut in half, has been dead no longer able to bear children, and then get pregnant, the first few days of the successful birth of the baby. The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California at Berkeley.
In the countryside is this, once you can not have children will feel that the woman's problem, even if it is a woman's problem, active treatment, but also can be pregnant, nowadays the medical science is very advanced, really can not be naturally pregnant can also be in vitro fertilization it.
Don't be superstitious, looking for some of the so-called soil doctor, go to the regular hospital to do the regular examination, how to treat how to treat, now due to the environmental impact of a lot of people can't have children, the hospital is not surprising, while young before it is too early to treat, don't care about the gossip of the rural people.
Modern society continues to develop, civilization has risen to a certain height, a lot of the past feudal ideas have been gradually abandoned by the people, the better the economic development of the city of the past feudal ideas will be abandoned more thoroughly. At the same time, the slower and more backward the economic development of the place, many backward ideas will still exist in people's hearts, this phenomenon in the countryside is particularly significant. For example, it is not uncommon for people to divorce their husbands because of infertility after marriage.
And cause this result, from the male side of the reason, perhaps for these men is not the meaning of the existence of women is to give birth to children? Of course, part of it is that the woman believes that if she is not capable of having children, then she is meaningless to his family. Although I can't understand either of these thoughts, it is undeniable that this kind of thinking still exists in the countryside.
In my opinion, if a woman is not capable of having children from both the male and female side I make the following comments.
One from the male point of view: first of all, I hope that men know that you will marry a girl home, married to her this person, not her uterus, when the woman knows that she is not fertile, believe me, this is a fatal blow to a woman, and at this moment she needs to be their husbands understanding and comfort, even if it will be pressured by the family from the village of other neighbors of the gossip, but it is still the case in the village. Gossip, but please protect your wife and make her feel that she still has a husband even if she doesn't have children.
Two from the women: women have to learn to love themselves more, to be clear about their own value, you for a family is not just to give birth to a child, you are an independent individual, if your husband because you can't give birth to a child for him and you divorce, or begin to dislike you, then such a husband is not worth you to cherish, this morning to look for the people who really love you.
If the couple is genuinely in love you can choose to adopt a child, as long as you are serious about raising the child, the child is no different from your own.
There should be no difference between a rural woman and a city woman.
This depends on the specific situation to decide, some will be directly divorced, some will adopt a child back.
But the rural people's thinking is very backward, can not have a child mainly depends on who is the reason, usually people will first choose to go to the hospital to do a checkup, will certainly be the first conditioning, now there are a lot of treatment of infertility hospitals, and the rural people are more important to the marriage, will not be easily divorced, they will certainly be the first to choose to go to the hospital to receive treatment, may be able to hold out for a few years, after all, the disease we all know is need to rely on a long period of conditioning, but also the most important thing is that we will not have to go to the hospital to receive treatment. know that it is necessary to rely on a long conditioning.
But the conditioning of a long time or not effective, then there may be a problem, if the woman's reasons for not having children, the man's parents will generally require the two divorce, especially the very important inheritance of the kind of family, will certainly do so, the previous woman could not have children also committed seven out of the crime it! Nowadays, although not so outrageous, but in the male aspect will still be a little biased. But not absolutely, some parents are also reasonable, will ask them to continue treatment, or adopt a, will not care too much about the matter of the child, but this kind of parents in the rural areas are very few.
If it is the man's willingness, perhaps the marriage can be saved, but may be said to the public is the woman's reasons, I have such an example around, and so that the couple adopted a child, the couple, including the woman's in-laws mother and father are very love that adopted back to the child, after all, a family or need a child, not to inherit the flame, but in order for them to The family still needs a child, not to pass on the torch, but to give them an old age and send them off.
But it feels like whichever way it's handled is a little unfair to the women in the countryside, but it can't be helped.