On a Friday night, I asked Lele to go to a hot pot restaurant we hadn't gotten together in a while. While waiting for the soup to boil, we chatted about the movies we've been catching up on, the shopping lists we haven't finished yet, and spouted off about our recent discomforts.......
Hot pot and old friends are a perfect match, and the cheerful rhythm of the balabala was interrupted from time to time by Lele's WeChat messages and incoming calls ringing, and without Lele saying anything, I've already guessed that these
When he and Lele first started dating, we were envious of the two of them and refused to eat the dog food, but we were also happy that Lele had found someone who cared about her so much.
But as time goes by, we can't help but feel the helplessness of Lele in this relationship.
There is no denying that D is a warm man in this relationship, but after a long time, for Lele who needs to keep her own space in the relationship, his warm temperature is too high, and it is really hot.
Listening to Lele said, the first quarrel is because she wore a long skirt, but did not wear bottoms to go out, and then D's face is like the director of training to see the bad girl general ugly.
Then even gradually transitioned to Lele's work on the advice, he felt that Lele's current work is not much room for growth, but recommended to Lele's eyes are not the position. The first step is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the situation, and that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
And like Lele so about our girlfriends a few dinner, D also always from time to time phone text message ceaselessly, once met her cell phone blackout, he went one by one to play close to a few of our friends to call and ask Lele is not and a few of us in a piece of it, so that Lele was in tears and laughter.
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The aggressor in love, one is time, give me all your time, two is physical space, I want to know where you are, what you are doing, and who. The third is psychological, requiring the other side of the psychological world completely open, let yourself in and out and prying, turn yourself into a small circle, embedded in his big circle.
But, love is the need for independent space.
I once saw a rice advertisement in Taiwan, which probably means that good rice is a little sticky, but not too sticky.
In fact, the sweetness of the partnership is just right - "a little sticky, but not too sticky". If it's too sticky, you'll be suffocated and want to run away. One partner expects more intimacy, while the other wants to be independent and free.
Love should not be "detached", but need to have the appropriate "distance"; relationship should not be "limited", but need to moderate "boundaries". "The first thing you need to do is to get the right kind of information from the right people.
Even if you are a close partner, you are two independent individuals who have their own emotions and need private space.
Doing new media Ann does not know what is called nine to five, and her boyfriend is doing business in the foreign trade market, busy when the two people's time is completely staggered, the same under one roof, but feel the kind of I came back from work, he fell asleep; he had to go out and go to work to wash up, and I just had time off work and rested, and a day to say a few words.
Because they are in the career of the ascendant, but also know each other in the work of the struggle, so, the two people also made a date in the work of time has nothing to do with children's love of the busy serial, but also came up with a compromise method of getting together, every day in front of the home of a different breakfast store to meet together to eat different breakfasts. Then, a person full of energy to go to work, a person ate a full home to sleep fully charged.
Caught up with the long vacation, the two of them will discuss and plan to go out together to play relaxation, there are two people together want to go to the attractions, do a good job of strategy, sweet into the line. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need, and then you'll have to pay for the services you need. A person backpack to see the faraway places want to see, a person to stay in the small family this big back to adjust to rest.
Special circumstances, special treatment, not in the "you love me must be with me at all times" this problem trapped each other, is the two people mature concept of love.
Just like the song "like two people" sung by Peng Jiahui, considerate is occasionally allowed to you not like a lover.
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Two people in a relationship are like hedgehogs in warmth, the distance is far from cold, and the distance is too close to make the other person uncomfortable.
"Rose Island" said, the best love is two people do each other a companion. Don't bind, don't entangle, don't possess, don't desire to dig out the meaning from each other, that's something destined to fall through. Instead, it should be, the two of us, standing side by side, looking at this fallen earth.
Semi-saccharine love is when we love each other, but never bind each other in the name of love. We dance happily***, yet we are also able to be alone once in a while. We sleep in each other's arms, but also let go of each other in the road of life to run and struggle. I love being with you, but I don't want to be attached to you all the time. There are moments when I will go shopping with my girlfriends for afternoon tea, and talk to my family for a long time about what's in my heart. Also occasionally let you free, and brothers drink and watch football, and dad play chess duel.
A short separation will not affect our long love for each other, busy, I am also convinced that no matter you in my eyes, or not in my eyes, will be in my heart. We run hard on the track of life, occasionally stopping to drink and eat meat together. The moment we embrace and look at each other, that is the love I want.
A good love is a little sweet, but not too sweet. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
A good love is a little sweet, but not too sweet.