Anjie married Jiang Defu, the days have been smooth sailing:
Although the birth of five children, but there is a sister-in-law Dewa wholeheartedly to help support, but also the strength of the strength of the Jiang Defu favorite wife plus understanding of consideration, the days of the wave without ripples, happy and calm into the old age.
The only pain in the ass after retirement is from the oldest three Jiang Weimin. The other children are to be more successful and more successful, the marriage of children like do not need parents to worry about, each outside the family business, and all mixed up in a good way.
Particularly Jiang Yafei, career and family both, has been staying with his parents, both filial piety and the ability for the aging parents all kinds of troubleshooting.
Only the third Wei Min, first went to the countryside back to his father's hometown as a farmer, and then in spite of his parents' obstacles recruited into the local county's factories into a worker, and married the local ordinary family woman Xu Hong.
After giving birth to a child and justifiably sent the wailing daughter Yaya to her parents to let her mother Anjie with.
Anjie's own children when she was young were not so bothered, but in her old age, she was stuck at home with her granddaughter in bottles and diapers.
But not as good as the others, Ms. Ge, married to Wang Zhengwei as a sequel, but also can be relaxed every day and the old lady went out to square dance to go.
Looking at the part of the little granddaughter, although Anjie has a bellyful of complaints but also can only bear down to suffer those years.
Who knows how hard it is to bring up the granddaughter Ya Ya sent into the kindergarten, Jiang Weimin and husband and wife were both laid off, cut off the source of life, so back to Qingdao parents home to chew up the old.
Anjie this disturbing is really a wave has not leveled a wave again.
Looking at the son and daughter-in-law of the rich and powerful sleep every day to the sun on the pole, meals do not do, health is not engaged in, the child does not care, work is not to find, Anjie gas is not a place to come.
But we can't leave them alone, so we have to pay attention to them everywhere to help them find a suitable job.
This day, I saw a small advertisement posted on a roadside pole: "Dry Cleaner Transfer".
Anjie couldn't help but be motivated to call and collect money to help Weimin's two families to get the store down and make a living.
Who knows that their own Xingxing head a burst of busy, and the Weimin two mouths say that people are not happy, smacked to wash clothes for people this work and tired and humiliating, daughter-in-law Xu Hong and mother-in-law directly and mother-in-law Anjie a sentence to a sentence on the top of the collision.
The door of the Yafei can not listen to it, directly into the door to clean up the Weimin two couples, pointing out that the Weimin mixed to this point, not at all what did the Jiang family scapegoat, but all their own bent on choosing the result of the mistake.
Jiang Weimin and Jiang Yafei are twins, the age of the military opportunity to be arranged on the island as a soldier, Jiang Yafei gladly obeyed the order to become an operator on the island.
Jiang Weimin resented the fact that he had been on the island since birth, and resisted becoming a soldier under his parents' watchful eyes, resisting to the death and missing out on the opportunity to become a soldier.
The next year in time, but the mountain to the countryside, his father and he said, Weimin will be reluctant to agree, and returned to the countryside as a farmer.
Weimin's situation has always been the heart of Anjie, who repeatedly warned Weimin to stay in the countryside and wait for the opportunity to return to the city.
Weimin, however, could not stay in the countryside for only one year, just in time for the county tractor factory to recruit workers, Weimin was called into the factory.
The direction of his life has been finalized, and he can only go with the flow and get married and have children in the local area, even if his father is the commander of the river, but he can't do anything about it.
It is really a mistake, step by step, and the fate of the siblings and the sky is very different.
But Jiang Weimin mixed to this point, really as Jiang Yafei said and parents have nothing to do, but all their own blame?
In fact, this is not entirely true, Jiang Weimin in the major life choice before that bent on absolutely and parents can not be blamed.
Jiang Weimin and Jiang Yafei were born together, but their popularity was very different.
Because when he was born, he was already the third son of the family, while Jiang Yafei was the first daughter of her parents.
Jiang Yafei was brought up by her parents in the heart of their hands, so she was not afraid of the world, and was wilder than the boys on the island:
Fast and agile, often chasing boys all over the island;
Fighting, the two boys together were not her opponent, but she was beaten to the ground;
Eloquent, disliked when he spoke out, and Wang Haiyang, who was years older than her, was very popular in front of the other children. The other children, who are a few years older than her, have a lot of authority, but she often dislikes them and leaves them speechless.
Jiang Weimin is not so popular, on the upper two mischievous brother, already let Anjie spent most of the energy.
There are two other precious daughters who need to be loved, Weimin is sandwiched in the middle, and his parents have left him with very little love and patience.
Weimin's only way to make his presence felt is to cry, to make trouble, to complain, to be coy, to be his parents' sounding board, or to speak out in a shocking or thunderous way to draw attention to himself.
Big brother Weiguo want to be a soldier, and bent on going to the front of the Sino-Soviet border to go, parents pity big brother's age does not want to let him go, big brother for the matter of hunger strike, the days of the whole family for the big brother worried about the heart.
Later, parents could not resist the big brother, agreed to see the whole family after he joined the army grand, and is to open the farewell banquet is to take pictures of the family, the father also special day off to accompany the big brother to go target shooting, a whole basket of bullets to let him play to his heart's content, the big brother are happy crazy.
The second brother, Wei Dong, is a paratrooper, because the pilot was not selected parents also took care of the second brother's emotions.
While the father did not promise to take the second brother to target shooting, the mother did not promise to take family photos, but in the dock to send off to see the second brother hiding in the cabin does not show up, the mother immediately tear collapse, regret what, and promised to come back to take the second brother to take family photos.
It's my turn to go to the countryside, and my mother is not happy to hear that my father is coming back, but I didn't force my father to find another way out, so I'll just wait until I can see him off.
Mother always pouted on the pier, I can not tell whether it is pain in the heart, or smacked himself as a farmer to her shame, anyway, the attitude is very twisted, but also have to say something witty to make my mother happy.
The three brothers, send off treatment that is not as good as one, the parents of the heart of a less than one.
It is precisely because of the disregard and neglect of his parents since he was a child that Wei Min insisted on choosing not to stay on the island to become a soldier, and he wanted to leave his parents' side and go as far away as possible, even if it was to go out to the island to become a farmer.
Not only did his parents ignore him, but they also made him take the blame.
At the dinner table, the daughter "hummed" Jiang Defu no temper, Weimin did not see eye to eye also followed the "hum", but his head was his father with chopsticks and knocked hard.
Weimin is not convinced:
The words are justified, but in fact very hurtful.
De Hua was rejected by Lao Ding, low pressure at the table. De Hua was in a bad mood, put aside the chopsticks and abandoned the meal, the rest of the people who are bored with the meal do not dare to speak.
Yafei spat out her tongue, Yaning followed unannounced, Weimin then coldly popped up, "You are all hanging ghosts ah!"
He thought he was being humorous, but it was so out of place that An Jie, who was in a complicated mood and had nowhere to vent, knocked Weimin hard with his chopsticks again.
It turned out that not only his father was biased, but even his mother was like that, in Weimin's opinion.
The children missed their mother's aunt's peach cake, which she had locked up, but Weidong was so greedy and clever that he poked the lock with a wire early in the morning and ate several packages of it.
Finally, his conscience came to light and he gave the last packet to his elder brother, Wei Guo, but he was discovered by Yafei and Yaning, and in order to bring them into their camp, the two brothers gave them a piece each.
These and the aunt sleep in the same room of Wei Min only do not know.
Yafei was smart and bold enough to follow suit. When her mother went to the service center, she did the same thing and poked the lock with a wire to get the peach cake.
Who expected that this time by Weimin bumped right into, Weimin see her this light-hearted gesture, know that it is not the first time to commit crimes, righteous indignation, and shouted: "Catch thieves!"
Yafei snatched him up and held him down until he begged for forgiveness and forced him to swear on a hook that he wouldn't tell anyone before letting him up.
Yafei solemnly took out a piece of peach cake and was going to hand it to Weimin, but on second thought he gave it to Yaning, saying under his breath, "Yaning is small and should eat it first."
Whoever expected that this is the last piece, Weimin white drooling half a day.
So furious, regardless of shouting, "Catch the thief." It wasn't until his mother came sniffing in from outside that Yafianin had the good sense to hide in his room.
Anjay was furious at the empty peach-crisp buns, and turned his head to hit Weimin, who was tattling on the sidelines waiting for the outcome.
With all the instances like this in Weimin's upbringing, it's no wonder that the grown-up Weimin insisted that he was the only scapegoat in the family.
Weiguo and Weidong have slept in the same house since they were young, and are as close as Siamese twins, inseparable all day long.
Whether it's stealing meat for the dog, or stealing the family's peach cobbler, they can't hide it from each other, so they have to develop each other into their own allies, and share the same blessings and difficulties.
Weiguo was beaten up by his father and did not eat, Weidong got up in the middle of the night and secretly cooked eggs for his brother, even though he was watching and drooling, he had to force himself to swallow his saliva and eat tightly.
This kind of accumulated cultivation of the depth of brotherhood Weimin is not fishing.
He sleeps in the same room with his aunt at night, who takes care of him in every possible way.
But at this age, what he needs is a playmate to play with, an ally to enjoy secrets with, and a confidant to vent his frustrations with, all of which he does not have.
In the family, in addition to the relationship between the elder brother and the second brother of the iron porcelain, Yafei and Yaning two girls share the house, and the relationship is self-contained.
The two go to school together every day, do their homework together, whispering together, encountering difficulties, someone to help, make a mistake, someone to cover up.
In addition, Wei Min's body is not as strong as his elder brother's, and his character is weak, and he cries like a girl, so he is often bullied outside.
Either he needed his brother's help or Yafei's help, so everyone thought he was a burden and didn't want to take him to play.
So, he was left alone, isolated, parents do not like, siblings rejected, so he had to rely on the behavior of the incident, snitching to attract the attention of parents, rely on bending over backwards to please the siblings to obtain assistance, who know that the more so the more unattractive to parents, and more and more by the siblings belittled.
Growing up Jiang Weimin first thought is to escape
The first thought is to leave home, outside is the wind knife is frost sword he has not experienced, but intuition tells him as long as the leave home where is good.
So no matter what, I would rather go to the mountains and become a farmer than stay on the island as a soldier.
Secondly, I don't trust my parents
They told him to wait for the opportunity to go back to the city, but he didn't listen to them at all.
Subconsciously, he felt that his parents had left him in the countryside, and had probably forgotten that he was their unproductive son.
So as long as there is a slight chance, he will be like grasping a straw to save his life, regardless of whether this straw can hang the rest of his life.
Then there are character defects
Weimin's character, cowardice is innate, low self-esteem is slowly developed.
Weimin's self-recognition is very low due to the fact that he has been neglected, suppressed and isolated at home for a long time.
In the matter of finding a partner, Weimin brought back an opera singer, Bai Hongmei, who has the appearance and talent, Anjie saw the horizontal nose and vertical eyes, and always felt that they were not worthy of their own excellent eldest son.
But the Weimin Bureau is confined to his own county tractor factory workers, even if he had a high family background, but in his heart, only feel that he is the commander of the family's most unappreciated and unproductive youngest son.
So when he met the small people's family, Xu Hong, who has no talent and no appearance, was eager to marry and was willing to be pressed head to head.
As for what Yafei said about people going to the countryside and mixing up the people, she wanted to say that Wang Haiyang, Jiang Weimin of course, can not be compared.
Jiang Weimin study has not been enlightened since childhood, people Wang Haiyang has always loved to read;
Wang Haiyang is an only child, is absolutely rich by the mind to grow up, unlike the Weimin inner with the trauma of being suppressed, with an inferiority stigma, to do what have no bottom line.
Because the living environment is comfortable and affluent, not like Jiang Changyi has been pressed to the bottom of the fate of the strong desire to turn over and internal drive, so out is out, as for a career is no more than a fool's errand, neither the courage nor the ability.
The argument that a lifetime of lack of success is attributed to the family of origin is of course very biased, but each child is an independent individual, a different way of education, the child's life will probably be very different.
Specifically for Jiang Weimin, as long as Mr. and Mrs. Anjie give him the same respect, fairness and trust as other children, his life will probably be much smoother.
We hope that every parent can continue to progress and grow on the path of parenting, become a better version of themselves with their children, and be a strong support for each other.