Four old people tell you: people in their old age, the closest person is not the old partner

As the saying goes: "The young couple old companion, the most beautiful love twilight love."

In his old age, he can still hold his old partner's hand, accompanied by his old partner to see the sunrise and sunset, lonely, someone in your ear nagging, sick, someone remembered you, and for you to bring medicine and water, which is the greatest happiness in the world.

But the ideal is beautiful, the reality is always cruel. When you are old, you will find that there are too many things that are not as good as you want in your old age, and you can't get what you want. Maybe it is the old partner's physical condition is worse than you, but also need you to take care of and worry about? Maybe it is a couple of two people most of their lives Emotions are not cold, how to talk about twilight love? Maybe ......

But whatever the reason, people who have had personal experience say the words have the most credibility, and in their old age to choose the closest people is more worthy of reference.

Let's listen to the words of these old people, which will help us in our future lives.

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The closest person in his old age is not his partner or children, but himself, only he is the one who can accompany him to the old age, and only he is the one who treats himself wholeheartedly. Since then, moncler jackets outlet online, you have to take care of your partner, walk with her, eat in front of her, and be careful when you talk to her because she's become very sensitive. If you're not careful, you'll lose your temper and even drop your chopsticks, so even if you're in a good place, you'll be able to get along with your partner every day and destroy all your good memories. So, Mr. Zhang can only take good care of his old partner every day, and even have to accept the inexplicable outburst of temper of his old partner.

I thought that when I wanted to go out and travel, or when I wanted to take a few days off, I could let my husband stay at my children's house. However, the children due to their own busy work and family pressure, not be able to take good care of the old partner, the so-called heart but not enough. Even if you send your partner to your children's home, the children can only help to take care of a few days, once a long time. The children then feel that they are helping moncler outlet store uk to take care of their own mothers, and this idea makes moncler outlet store uk the heart very uncomfortable. But moncler outlet online you can also understand the children, because they are really too busy. It would be better to take care of your own body, adjust your mind, and be a positive person.

After a few years of this, moncler jackets outlet online you realize that you are the only one who can rely on yourself, who is the closest to you, who understands what you are doing, who knows how hard you are working, who is the one who is with you the most, and who is the one who has the most to offer. Therefore, moncler outlet online, he often reads "The Three of Us" written by Mr. Yang Jiang, because he wants Mr. Yang Jiang's old companion and daughter left him very early, and then relies on his own will to accompany the one who accompanies him to the old age.

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As the saying goes: "Accumulate grain to prevent hunger, raise children to prevent old age." So the closest people in later life are your own children.

Auntie Dong, 60 years old. And his partner has been married for more than 40 years, once in order to look at the face of the children, can still put up with the old partner's laziness. Later, she was confronted with the fact that her old partner had nothing to do all day long and only knew how to ask her for money. The marriage between the two seemed to be tied together for the sake of the children, even if the name existed in reality, but at least the children had a home where both parents existed, and the grandchildren had grandparents. So, Auntie Dong never expected to rely on her old partner for old age, and even felt that if her old partner did not ask for money from her it would already be the happiest old age.

But even though the two parties have no emotion, and even completely pay for each other for most of their lives, Auntie Dong still accepts this marriage with a hard head. Since the two people do not really love each other and support each other, how can we talk about worth relying on?

Although many people say that raising children is the biggest lie in the world. There are also people who say that children are the ones who come to claim their debts in this life, and in addition to the selflessness of their parents, they don't need to count on them at all.

But Auntie Dong doesn't think so, she feels that her children are her spiritual food, and even more so, she thinks that her children are her best dependence, and she also thinks that her children are her invisible crutch. At least in their own sad time, hear the children a "mom", really can forget all the troubles. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on your own.

So, the children are not only the support of Auntie Dong, but also the strong backing of the old man when he bullied her. Even if and old partner two people's feelings do not exist, but for the sake of the children, she can only barely get by, and wait until the old partner's old age, but also have the children's help and support, which has been Dong auntie's most looking forward to, so the children are not only Dong auntie's heart, but also Dong auntie's food for the spirit, and more Dong auntie seeking help when the most sincere to give support to the people.

Thus, Auntie Tung thinks that the closest people to her are her children when she is old.

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As the saying goes, "A neighbor is better than a neighbor, and a neighbor who is genuinely helpful at a critical time is actually very kind.

73-year-old Auntie Chen, three years ago, his partner died due to illness, he stayed at home alone to mope, and few words, life is very lonely and lonely. The children looked also very worried, so decided to take her to live in the city, I thought every day there are children's life, there are grandchildren milk milk to shout a grandmother is a very happy thing. But really went to the children's home, only to find that they simply do not have the time to sit down with her every day to talk properly for a few hours, the children are also very rowdy, but instead of letting Auntie Chen particularly uncomfortable.

In the end, she decided to go back to the countryside again.

Perhaps in the city, in the same unit, a wall separates the two families, and they rarely see each other, and once in a while they nod and smile, or even simply do not say anything, revealing too much indifference and ruthlessness.

But in the countryside, Auntie Chen always felt the help and care of her neighbors. When they are sick and cold, neighbors will take the initiative to send a bowl of rice, but also from time to time to visit the fear that she is sick and have any accident. When it snows in winter, the neighbors get up early to shovel and sweep the snow for Auntie Chen, fearing that she might slip and fall. When she was bored, she talked to her neighbors and became very close to them.

To a certain extent, the neighbors know more about Auntie Chen's daily life and health than her children. It's not that the children are not filial enough, but the distance is too great to keep an eye on each other's lives and behavior. But neighbors are different, as long as you can give some help, the neighbors will be able to return the favor accordingly.

So, when the neighbor's daughter is going to college, because of poverty and can not pay up the tuition, from Auntie Chen took out 5000 yuan directly to the neighbor, even in the later neighbor to give Auntie Chen back, Auntie Chen resolutely do not want. In the eyes of the children, Auntie Chen this is old and confused, even not to their own relatives, but the 5000 yuan to the neighbors.

But Auntie Chen knows that at some point, her neighbors are her closest relatives, and if she is able to help her neighbors in any way, they will become her relatives and friends. In the future, when they need to take care of the time, neighbors are timely rain, neighbors are their own interpretation of the flower, neighbors are also their own people can rely on.

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In real life, there is a controversial issue: siblings or partners? There are many people who say that siblings are also their closest relatives.

58-year-old moncler outlet store, because and the original wife of the emotional has been incompatible, and wait until the children are a family, decided and the original wife of the divorce. In so many years of living with the original wife, the two people contradict each other constantly, sometimes the original wife does not give him to cook food, nor give him to wash clothes, and will not communicate with him calmly and peacefully. So when his life lost faith and motivation, his siblings always cared for him, supported him and silently guarded him.

By the time the divorce was finalized, moncler outlet online he was able to find a new partner. He thought that he knew his partner very well, and after all, he lived not far from each other and met often. But after the marriage, moncler outlet online I realized that the reorganization of the family to make people more worried, not only in the economic divergence, but also to create more family conflicts. When you get married, moncler outlet store your children do not agree, but moncler outlet store you think the children are in the city to develop, and far away from their own, and the two people between the concept of life and the concept of consumption is completely different, not as good as their own to find a new old man, happy to spend the rest of their lives.

But the ideal is beautiful, the reality is cruel. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots. In the end, not only did he lose a deposit, but he also lost his children's consideration. The whole person lost confidence in life, lost confidence in themselves, every day listless. At this time, the siblings often come to moncler outlet online the home, to explain to him, to cook for him, to give him laundry, to help him through the most difficult time.

This is the siblings, maybe in the ordinary for their own family and life, rarely patronize. But at the critical moment, brothers and sisters are very united, and will be justified to help each other through the difficult times. We are together to think with each other, talk about the world, solve problems, the so-called blood flowing in the blood of the same ***, broken bones connected to the tendons.

Although a person can not completely rely on their own siblings, but on the basis of relying on their own, so that their siblings become their own dependence, become their own spiritual support, become their closest people. Although husband and wife are family and siblings are relatives, at no time, no matter what the relationship between husband and wife is, should one lose the affection of siblings. When old age, look back at me and their own siblings from childhood, the inner relief and joy is irreplaceable.

Summary:

The old companion is certainly pro, but the old companion is not necessarily able to accompany you to old age, the old companion is not necessarily always able to wait for the person who serves you. The old companion, of course, is the happiest thing, each other, each other warm, *** with life, towards the middle.

But in a person's life, is inseparable from the circle of life, social circle, more inseparable from other emotional support. Therefore, and children to maintain good relations, promote family harmony, in order to feel the warmth of home; and their siblings care for each other, mutual understanding, *** with the recollection of childhood memories and beautiful, in order to let their memories have no vacancies; and their own best friend, adjust the mentality, and positive upward life, in order to have a truly happy and elegant old age; and their old companion to cherish each other, mutual companionship, the heart of the emotional bonds in order to have a really happy and elegant old age; and their own old companion to cherish each other, mutual companionship, the heart of the emotional bonds in order to have a really happy and elegant old age. The emotional bond in the heart can only really have a landing.

So everyone's life is different, their family environment is different, their way of dealing with emotions is different, and they feel that the people closest to them are different. But when we try to be close to ourselves, close to our partners, close to our siblings, and close to our children, you will find that there are many people in your life that you need to rely on, that you need to be kind to, and that there are many people closest to you.

I hope that all the old people in the world will have not only someone, but many people in their lives, so that they can have their hearts in the right place and make their lives enjoyable!