First, is not in the education and bring up the issue of communication and exchange of children too strong, so that the grandmother feel very stressed, bring up the child is really very hard, who do not want to get into this muddy water, if and tired and do not get respect, certainly minutes want to give up.
Second, to help help with the children, if a person is a long time to do a very tired and boring and unrewarding things without decompression, it is easy to break out, so it is recommended to do children's work on Saturday and Sunday do not take the phone to play non-stop, and more children with more cooking, sympathetic to the old man's hard work, nobody is supposed to be, especially grandma, raising a daughter to raise a little jacket, and the result is that their own nanny to change the year of pulling! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
Third, the return, whether it is spiritual or material, have to give with enough return, because I am a person with a child is really very much more tired than work, grandma with a love is not the original, the gift to give more care, do not be less, even if you go home to the mother to wash the dishes massage, more than a few thank you, more than a few mom hard work you pull, not happy to pull the bring to the mall to buy buy buy ah!
In short, don't take this love for moral abduction no one should give you a child, someone to give you must treat the old man well, or like me and Mr. Nuoda in Beijing with a baby really very tired, no one at all to take the hand of the people are grinding the old pull a few years, so cherish the gratitude!
55-year-old retired civil servant Chen, go to her daughter with a period of time the child does not want to bring, determined to return to their own homes, so let's find out together.
Sister Chen was 50 years old, her daughter gave birth to a child, when Sister Chen was not retired, the child was taken care of by her daughter's retired mother-in-law, I heard that the daughter's mother-in-law in order to take better care of the grandchildren, but also participated in the training of the sister-in-law, Sister Chen is also an only daughter, in order to make up for the regrets can not take care of her daughter and grandchildren, the daughter hit a sum of money each month to compensate for it.
In the blink of an eye, Ms. Chen has reached the age of 55, and has just completed her retirement formalities to live a leisurely retirement life, and received a phone call from her daughter, who said she wanted her to go over and play.
Chen is a career-oriented people, a retired idle always feel empty and lonely, the daughter called just as she would like to grandchildren, immediately packaged things to the daughter's home.
In the daughter's home, the daughter's mother-in-law exceptionally warm, warm, grandchildren sent to the kindergarten with her supermarkets, parks, play a few days, the in-laws said his heart: they have not been home for a long time, and want to go back to see, asked Sister Chen can take care of the child for a period of time.
Sister Chen quickly said, "No problem, no problem, anyway, I am now retired, I am worried about nothing to do boredom, in the future, the two of us can replace to take care of the child, so that both can take a break."
The in-laws looked happy, but stayed for a day to account for all the children's food, clothing, and shelter before packing up and going home.
From the first day of taking over the task, the child's clothing, food, housing and transportation Chen sister full package, home hygiene, laundry, grocery shopping and cooking is also a full package, but the good thing is that the daughter son-in-law in the morning and noon are in the unit to eat, and only at night at home to eat a meal.
A week down, Cheng sister has been sore back leg cramps , in the unit of regular life over the habit, all of a sudden so complicated work on the shoulders a little bit can't stand, but in order to their own children, Chen sister is happy to pay.
Sister Chen is a simple person, especially in the food does not pay attention to, will only do some home cooking, exquisite meals to do. The son-in-law's family is from the South, and they are more particular about their meals and like to cook and drink soup.
Especially difficult to cook for the children, the daughter asked to do it alone for the children, every day by her to write a good recipe, so that the mother wrote according to her to buy food to cook, Chen made every effort to make the children's meals small grandchildren are always eaten, a few times to find the grandma, Chen is very embarrassed.
Daughter to Chen said a few times to let her every afternoon to the soup pot, steamed rice, more fried a few dishes at night, but Chen always love to eat pasta at night according to the habits of the northern people, and simple and easy to digest.
For a long time, I guess my son-in-law couldn't stand it, and asked a neighborhood bellhop to cook dinner for them exclusively. Later, knowing that the child does not want to eat grandma's cooking, so that the bellhop will be the child's meal also package, Chen sister although some internal discomfort, but because it is the daughter's decision, did not care.
Sister Chen's work is a little lighter, every day to buy food, take care of the children, get the home hygiene, do their own breakfast and lunch (she did not let the end worker to do, must do it yourself), the evening of the daughter son-in-law to take the children out of the play can go down to square dance .
One night the daughter's family went out to play again, Chen sister danced for a while stomach upset on the return home, because the day is too tired to go to the bathroom on the washroom, not long after the son-in-law with a small grandson back.
Cheng sister in the house heard son-in-law in the living room loudly to his mother on the phone, so that his mother to come early, said his mother-in-law to do the meal is really difficult to eat, they are a family of bad food, there is no way to only ask the hourly wage to make do, the hourly wage is still not as good as his mother to do, and then not come to the child on the starvation of the skinny ...... later heard the little grandson also cried that he wanted his grandmother to do. The grandson also cried and said that he wanted his grandmother to take him, do not want to take the grandmother with ......
In Chen's mind, her son-in-law has always been courteous and very respectful of her, and she also regarded her daughter's family as her own family, and made every effort to share the burden of them, but also thought of the in-laws worked hard for several years, so that she can also take a good rest and relaxation, but I did not expect that she was so unpopular, the son-in-law should think that she is not the most popular, and that she is not the most popular. popular, and her son-in-law should have thought that she was not at home, and then said what was in his heart. Hearing these words, she was not angry, more sympathetic, but determined to leave her daughter's home.
In order not to embarrass her son-in-law, Chen insisted for a few more days, and then found a good reason to return to her own home. I thought to myself: young people nowadays are really hard to serve, and I have to attend nanny training like my in-laws if I want to go to my daughter's house again!
From this incident, we can see: as parents, whether it is the son's home or the daughter's home do not think of themselves as their own home, the children need to go to help them, do not need to still live in their own homes, to keep the distance, in order to keep the affinity for a longer period of time!
My mother took a day with the grandchildren do not want to take, understand the real situation, I do not want to let my mother to help me take, but her heart aches for me, has always endured not to say, alas ......
After the summer vacation this year, far away from the home of the father-in-law periarthritis and committed, my mother-in-law anxious to go back to take care of the old man, I said to wait a day, she insisted on a few days, and then she said, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do it all on your own.
Although my mother agreed to help me look after my children under the persuasion of my relatives, she made a joke and gave me three rules: First, my son-in-law must not be able to look at my face again; second, I will not cook and wash clothes for you for fear of doing a bad job and complaining about her; and third, I will take care of the grandchildren myself but I can't complain about her when I have a problem with them.
I seriously promise, July 5 when the mother booked a ticket to fly over, I and the child drove to pick up the plane, the mother, happy to go to pull the child's hand, the child seriously said: "Grandma, you have not been washed this hand, do not touch me, easy to cross-infection.
Mom was embarrassed, think the child said right, but also feel too unhygienic, so a face of sour smile, did not say.
Waiting for home, I gave my mom to clean the bed where my mother-in-law sleeps, who knows, the son and do not let move, said: my grandmother's room, why let outsiders sleep? Let her sleep on the sofa to go ......
Mom face is not good, said: sleep wherever, sleep wherever ......
Hubby heard, but also feel that the child a little too much, educate him, said: grandma and grandpa and grandparents, we are a family!
The son beamed and said, "We are not a family with her, we are a family with our grandparents.
At this point, the mother did not say a word, just sat there, looking not very good face.
The next few days, we went to work, the child stayed at home to the mother to take care of it, I got up in the morning to do breakfast, noon mom to do some, laundry and cooking me, let the mother to watch do not let the child climb the window, do not play with electricity, pay attention to the safety of the line, I and my husband are to the mother said: son, if you are naughty and disobedient, the buttocks randomly beat, climb the window, double beat! ......
Mom said: children are naughty, beating is not a solution to the problem, can not beat, can not beat.
Later, after my husband and I got off work, I saw my mom doing a good job at dinner, cleaning up after myself, and my clothes were cleaned and folded neatly, and I asked my kids what was going on today, and my mom just wanted to open her mouth to talk, and I always heard my son coughing and coughing.
Mom sighed and said: the child a day are accusing me of this, complaining about me that, that I do not have a good grandmother, said I do not eat my cooking, starve to death also do not eat, I persuade him, he yelled at me, called me names, said I am the worst, let me roll, let me leave his home ......
The matter of the child, I and my husband and I went to ask the son, the son, the son confessed not to violate, I am so good. The son confessed not to violate, my good voice persuasion does not work, angry I hit him two slaps.
Hubby said: the child is still small, you are not making a big deal, is not too much, what the child said, you still hold a grudge ah, how old you are ah, and then the grandmother itself is not grandma pro, grandparents that is the root of the child does not give the grandmother pro, the ancestors left behind is this way, you have to think about why, rather than come over to the child ... ...
I did not expect my husband would say this at home, I dislike him a few words: Grandma is good, capable of not letting Grandma go ah, Grandma pro, let Grandma guard ah, I'll send my mom home tomorrow, why are you angry here ah, what do we figure ah?
After saying this, I did not expect, mom is in our bedroom door, I looked at her very unhappy, did not say anything else, to persuade her to go to bed.
The next day, I have not yet woken up, my mother made a big family breakfast, there are my favorite fried dough cake, and Hu spicy soup, I do not want to be angry again, just to give each other a step down, to the husband said: get up, mom made breakfast, it is very delicious ah!
Hubby got up in a daze, washed up, mom let him eat quickly to go to work, hubby took a look from afar, said: greasy things, very unhealthy, I never ate these, you slowly eat it, I went to work.
I can see that the mother is more embarrassed, I was also very angry, but has been persuaded by the mother: the South is really pretentious, they eat rice as hard as eating stone, it is easy to get stomach problems.
I put the child to give a good account of some went to work, back in the afternoon, to see my husband and son in the grandparents to play video phone, graciousness is not a grandma and grandpa can be compared to the old mom in the kitchen busy, and now and then also asked my son-in-law can not eat spicy, do not drink rice, do something with the soup and so on, and my husband and son, a face of disdain, a face of the rightful, which makes me very uncomfortable, I I'd like to ask you why you're doing this, but I don't think I'm going to.
And over a few days, my son was sick, mom accompanied by day and night, holding, this child is lying in the arms of the grandmother shouting grandmother, grandmother, I know my hometown there is a saying: grandchildren are like the dog in front of the door, eat and go.
And my husband did not have a little gratitude, constantly complaining that my mother will not take the child, has been in the remote control command, but will not take a hand, I looked at the appearance of the old mother, especially heartbreaking, my mom, why this aggrieved complain, why!
As soon as my son was well, I booked a return ticket for my mom, and I could see that my mom especially wanted to go back, but she wanted to help her daughter, and she didn't speak up, telling me: wait a little bit longer, wait for the school year to start, and wait for the kids to get older, and it's just a few years of hard work.
But to be honest, I often hear my mom sighing at night, tossing and turning, I know she does not want to be tied here to see the grandchildren, but for the sake of her daughter, she is enduring.
Hopefully, the time will pass quickly, and we can send mom back on September 1st.
I've been working on my daughter's two children, my granddaughter who is 9 years old, and my second child who is now 3 years old. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the children's faces, and I was able to see the children's faces, and I was able to see the children's faces.
Daughter and son-in-law are university students, son-in-law's family is from the countryside, after graduation to stay in the city to work, he has a year older brother, in the hometown of farming, after the marriage has been living with his parents.
When my daughter was pregnant, her mother-in-law made it clear that her family was busy with work, and that her eldest son and daughter-in-law's child was just over two years old, so she couldn't come to the city to help her youngest son's family with his child.
Since my daughter decided to get married, I naturally understood her family's situation and never expected anything from her in-laws, and my daughter was the only one who had a child, and I was retired early, so I had nothing to do at home.
The daughter was born prematurely, the child is particularly weak, every now and then the problem, run to the hospital. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do it all in one place.
Every time a child has a fever or some minor illnesses, it is my partner and I took her to the hospital, the child is difficult to sleep at night, always crying, my partner and I took turns holding her coaxing, tired in the body, pain in the heart. The first thing I've noticed is that I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to get out of the house.
In fact, the hard work of the body can adhere to, the most difficult to endure is the heart of the grievances, one year almost the Spring Festival, the child's grandparents family to the city to do the New Year's goods, and incidentally come to see the little granddaughter, just in time to catch up with the daughter of the overseas business trip, the granddaughter and the fever in the injection.
The child's grandmother is distressed granddaughter, words outside some blame us mother and daughter did not bring the child good meaning, good son-in-law thoughtful, explaining that the child's fever is because of the poor health, the child's grandfather is also sensible, afraid of us upset, has been in the middle of the round, I look at the son-in-law and the sick child's share, hold back and she did not have to wrestle with the idea of a good.
But this incident makes me and my partner feel very uncomfortable, we bring children for our daughter and son-in-law, never figure what they are, and the child should be mostly supplies we spend money to buy, the grandmother's family is not sympathetic to the case, but also say three or four really should not be.
At that time, I also had the idea of giving up, but, looking at the little granddaughter's soft and lovely appearance, and then think of the daughter and son-in-law's not easy, or can't bear to leave it alone, so this matter is not even mentioned in front of the daughter on the pressure, continue to do their best to bring up the child.
In the careful care of my partner and I, when the little granddaughter went to kindergarten, the body has been completely adjusted, finally no longer every now and then sick, grew into a healthy and sturdy little girl.
The second child is a boy, more than the sister of the skin, with a little less trouble, but also appeared in the middle of the idea of not wanting to bring, in fact, this idea was put into practice for a period of time, but ultimately did not realize.
The little guy is a very good learner, and he's especially good at imitating, and my partner and I are getting older, so some of our old ways of life and daily habits are hard to change. For example, my partner likes to watch TV while eating two mouthfuls of shochu, which has led to my two-year-old grandson not eating without the TV on.
Another example is that I like to cook and have a lot of things for cooking at home, and then when my little grandson is playing with his toys, he names them after the food I often cook.
These are the habits that have followed us for most of our lives, and it's not easy to change them, but I'm worried that these things will have a bad influence on the growth of small children, and I feel that small children are still more conducive to growth when they are around their parents, so I sent the little guy back to my daughter's house for her to bring up on her own.
At that time, the daughter and son-in-law's career is red-hot, they are still so busy, the daughter and to take care of business matters, but also to take care of small children, it is very difficult to take care of both sides, less than half a month, the person on the thin circle, I and my partner heartbroken not, and the daughter of son-in-law to discuss, I live in the daughter's home, so that they do not let them distracted by the work of the matter, and can let the child and his parents get along with the opportunities The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
And so caused me and my partner an age but also live in two separate places, although living in the same city, want to meet is not difficult, but the thought of my partner's health is not good alone at home is always not a good meal, it is very painful, the daughter and son-in-law is proposed to let him move in together, anyway, their house is big enough, but with the previous thing, we are worried about in-laws and ideas, or do not want to add to the trouble, thinking of waiting for them, and then they will be able to move in. The first thing that I want to do is to make sure that I have a good understanding of what I'm doing and how I'm going to do it.
As a grandma with more than ten years of experience in bringing up grandchildren, I'd like to ask what kind of situation a grandma would want to bring up a child for a period of time, and my answer is that except in the case of a grandma's physical condition or economic status that is really not permitted, or for the sake of the child's educational considerations, these two situations, the other reasons basically won't allow a grandma to bring up a child to the halfway point to leave her hand behind.
Because the grandmother is not only a grandchild, but also a very important reason for her own daughter, and this kind of intergenerational love and pain for their own children superimposed on each other, will be converged into a kind of unshakeable power.
With this kind of power, the general difficulties can be overcome with teeth.
I think, first of all, it is not the body, the body is not good she will say it. It is estimated that the daughter does not understand, do not know to sympathize with, heartache mom, must be doing something to make mom very sad, otherwise mom is not not help her. To be honest, I happen to be bringing up my granddaughter right now, and I can kind of relate. Whether it is a grandmother, grandma are sincere to help children, looking at the children to work ...... can help them is also very happy. But when the children to realize that their parents are helping them, usually to be more sympathetic, heartache parents, if you have time, take the initiative to do housework, take the children, so that grandma, grandma get a rest. To care more about their parents, communicate with them, so that parents get some comfort, happy mood to help them. I don't know if there is any and I have the same feeling
There is an old saying in the countryside: to bring up a child is to desert three acres of land, so it can be seen how tired to bring up a child. This is still the old saying, now people have higher requirements for bringing up children, bringing up children is even more exhausting.
The grandma brought a period of time do not want to bring, I think most of the time she think you gave birth to the child themselves do not bring, I now help you to bring, you are not busy when you do not give me a hand so that I can rest rest rest. I'm not the one who raised the child, so why should I be the only one who has to work hard?
These two years, there is a popular saying: "Mom and Dad are born and raised, and Grandma and Grandpa are here to see them. This phenomenon is very bad, grandparents stand by and watch, naturally, will make the tired breathless grandma psychological unacceptable, if the young people and then do not understand, do not know how to be considerate of the grandma with a child, in exchange for that you are the grandma, do not want to take ah. Who doesn't want to be free? Basically, grandma brings up the child because she cares for her daughter, of course, there is a limit. When she can't physically or mentally handle it, she doesn't want to do it.
So, young people should count on the elderly to take care of their children, whether they are grandmothers or grandmothers, to be considerate of them, to share the work, not to put the burden on one person.
Indeed tired ah, bring children too worry ah! The first thing you need to do is to take care of your child, and then you'll be able to take care of him or her in the same way you would if you were a child of the same age as your parents. My health is deteriorating day by day, and I'm in my fifties and sixties, so it's a devastating blow. The days are tiring and not free. It was not as hard as when my children were going to school and earning money for them. The biggest reason: too much sleep, not free ah!
Firstly, bringing up a child is a pain in the neck! The first is to bring up the child, which is a pain in the neck! But do the grandmother's day and night tired straight back, take over all the household chores, night hands and feet numb sting or endure, children do not understand is not all heartache of their own daughters? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world.
Sometimes in the education and bring up children issues, communication, the two generations have a generation gap, there is a gap, each have their own reasons. Let grandma feel very stressed, with children really very hard, who do not want to trip this muddy water, said with children is not a good job, really dare not go out to work, but also easy, sure minutes want to give up. Who do not know tired bad, enjoy the blessings of more good ah, why suffer, but also free babysitting, do not get recognized, but also to look at the role of the son-in-law all the time.
I have been with my grandson for 3.5 years, not that I want to, but my in-laws are very patriarchal, so I have to take care of the kids, and I have to pay for all the food, water, electricity, heating, and property costs, as well as the housework, which is a lot of work.
I am 60 years old, with grandchildren, to be honest, I do not know whether it is heartache daughter, or love grandchildren, in any case, with grandchildren, personal experience with children is really very tired, the most tired is tired of the heart, the force is not able to do, but also adhere to the in order to help them, as long as the child is again around the child's safety every second not dare to relax the child. How many days and nights to boil, headache, back pain, nosebleed.
Meals, warmth and cold, hygiene, mood, every thing you do is to think before you do, but also to be more careful with the new knowledge of child-rearing, listen to the son-in-law and daughter, and do your best to keep up with the child-rearing and they have been, really hard, so tired.
Sometimes it's really hard to cry. Sometimes see the baby learn to walk, talk, listen to the story, but also feel happy, bittersweet, with the baby is a bittersweet grit your teeth through the difficult times, play a spare hand to the daughter, so that she can rest assured that she is good at her own is, when the parents of the heart of the remorseless. Who wants to bring children, helpless [teeth bared]
Third, the return, whether it is spiritual or material, have to give enough return, because I am a person with children really very much more tired than work, grandma with a love affair is not the original, the gift that should be given to give more care, do not be less, even if you come home to your mother to wash the dishes and massage, say a few more thank you pull, say a few more mom hard work you pull, not happy! La take to the mall to buy buy ah the first old man to help bring grandchildren do children should be grateful, thank you, more care. As the elderly regardless of grandma and grandpa with grandchildren grandchildren do not always feel that it is to the son-in-law and daughter-in-law with children psychological loss, grandchildren are your own.
First, the child's education by the parents say, even if the elderly feel wrong, do not accuse the parents of child care in front of the child, this time the elderly to maintain the authority of the parents, after the parents and parents to communicate to improve the education methods and methods. Fourth, with children is not simply the mother's responsibility, the father should also assume the responsibility, parents home from work after the child to parents, the elderly can choose to rest or go to work out with friends to relax. Fifthly, household chores should be shared by all family members so that everyone will not be particularly tired! All families have difficult to read the scripture, first of all, first look at yourself is not where it is wrong? Give you to bring your children favors, not to bring the principal, to be a person to learn to be grateful!
Bringing a child is really too tired! Not fall good, I am a grandmother, a take two granddaughters, the eldest nineteen months, the smallest seven months, exactly one year and one day difference, brush pots and pans cooking clean up the home and pouring garbage, all of which I do alone, they came home from work as if it were an official, nothing to help do every time I put the meal on the table, so that sometimes they want to swing temper swing a while, and now even with the gas and fatigue is a problem, eaten Now, even the anger and fatigue are all the problems, take this medicine to take that medicine, now when the grandmother is really tired ah! The children don't mind the old man's this and that! We are the generation that brought up the son, and then brought up the grandson ah!
Whether it's a grandmother or a grandma, bringing up children is very hard, can not be forced, not to mention that the elderly do not want to bring up children on the pretext that the elderly do not bring up children and so the elderly can not move on the elderly. Because we are highly intelligent people, is capitalized people, not imbecilic animals. Husband and wife are good, double million parents have something *** with the face, feelings in general, then each filial piety to their old parents, and can not force each other, because all things in the world are complementary.