It's not called moral kidnapping, real moral kidnapping is when you should have done something and you didn't. Moral people who do that thing reap happiness, hypocrites feel pain. And no one will reap happiness from this thing you did ...... You should learn to say no. And the art of language. A girl knows how to refuse politely. For example, that umbrella. You can say to buy back spare, said their forgetfulness is afraid of dropping no umbrella to use.
Why don't you reject it, you don't want her to take advantage of you all the time, you have to know how to reject ah, you don't call it being morally kidnapped, she was purely to take advantage of, I have a friend, usually borrow with me dozens and dozens of borrowing, did not pay back, I thought she forgot, like you, embarrassed to say, she talked to me later, she said that as a child to go to the kiosk to buy things on credit, the boss's son did not keep track of the books, did not ask her to pay back, she was as if she was a child, and she did not ask her to pay back, she did not ask her to pay back. I didn't ask her to return, she just as not this matter, not return, I instantly understood, not she really forgot, is she selective forget, I am also very angry,
Back then again borrowed I will remind her to pay back the money, and finally very little with me to borrow money, borrowed will also be returned as soon as possible, do not want to depressed, uncomfortable, do not like to reject directly, so simple, next time you let you wash the quilt, directly back to their own wash to go, I'm your mother? I'm your mom? Going out without a cell phone, directly, forget to bring, down on you, directly back, are you my mother? The first thing you need to do is to get rid of all the stuff that you have to do to get rid of the stuff that you have to do, and then you have to get rid of the stuff that you have to do, and then you have to get rid of the stuff that you have to do. Moral evaluation is affected. The general principle is: first look at the purpose of their communication with you, and if it's a request that you can't accept, then just say your specific reason. As for the moral evaluation (such as "unfiliality" and so on), learn to separate it from the matter at hand. Just don't wear the hat you've been given.
Moral abduction is generally too focused on your square dance mom's view of you, ignoring your own independent cognition of the events of this life, analyze and understand. When you think about it clearly you will make a choice: one is to do in the eyes of others, one is their own heart