Man's choice of spouse is based on "ex-girlfriend"?
Beware of unequal status in love
The handsome fresh-meat type boy Guo Ganglong is a luxury goods sales, because of the work of the life of the reason pay special attention to clothing collocation, always very concerned about their own image, even if it is just a simple photo, must be to choose a good-looking scenery, pick a set of suitable clothes, make a handsome Even if it's just a simple photo shoot, you have to choose a nice scene, pick a set of suitable clothes, and do a handsome hairstyle. His friends describe him as a gentle and chronic "snail boy" who lives a slow life and knows how to take care of people. He was the first to choose Xu Ruixuan as his finalist, and the reason was that "she looks like my ex-girlfriend".
In love, Guo Ganglong claimed to be a beginner, and only had one relationship, but it is engraved in his heart. At that time, the girl is the school's "10,000 fans", not only many suitors, and the opposite sex is super good, "with her to talk to too many boys! From the beginning of the relationship with her, I have been jealous, eat a vinegar or two can make feelings warming, but she is a brewing vinegar, finally one day the vinegar tank overthrow, we came to a breakup. Huang Lan analysis, in the male guest of this relationship, the two have been in an unequal state, the boys even a little bit of inferiority complex, "always suffering, emotional fluctuations are more and more powerful, and the behavior of the girls is constantly aggravated his inferiority complex, leading to him more and more feel that he is not good enough, not worthy of each other, and finally completely out of balance. "
The unequal status in love is not uncommon, the female guests unanimously suggested: "love certainly can not do absolute fairness, there is always a party to pay more, a party to pay less, but the status of the two must be if equal. Some people love too humble, put their own position is very low and small, always look up to each other, the distance between the two people will be more and more far" "Many people because of deep love, can tolerate everything. The other party just casually coax a little, appease a little, will be obedient to follow, such a relationship will not be happy and will not last long. Love must be mutual, two people must get along as equals, it is possible to love more stable and long".
How to judge whether the opposite sex has good feelings for you?
Between lovers should pay attention to the spirit of communication
Although young, the male guest from Shanghai Qing Zhixiong is a square dance enthusiasts, the side of the dance partner are middle-aged and elderly aunt. His life is very simple, basically three o'clock one line, go to the park in the morning and play badminton, and then go to the store to do business. After work, he also often goes to the elderly home to sing to the elderly, his wish is that every corner he walks through can bring laughter to everyone. He came to the "Do not disturb", first offered a Russian version of "Katyusha", and then a big square dance, the atmosphere is very happy.
Talking about his relationship experience, Qing Zhixiong revealed that he had a failed marriage and has a 5-year-old son who is now living with him. Summarizing the relationship, he believes that the two people love too hastily, after the marriage of the two people's habits and personality are not very match. He likes art, but the other neither love music nor dance, just like to play games. Over time, the two people's spiritual level of communication is broken, and finally had no choice but to break up. Later, the male guest and met a girl, always like to like in his circle of friends, but when trying to confess when the girl is extremely deny that he has a good feeling, and finally simply disappeared.
How to determine whether the opposite sex has a good feeling about you? Female guests on the scene shared their own experience: "A person has a good feeling about you, will often secretly observe you, when you notice the time will also quickly avoid. In addition, like a person's eyes will be glowing, you can see from the inside of the adoration and pleasure" "In fact, there are a lot of intuitive ways to recognize, such as the other party to reply to your message is not a second back, for your request for a date is not a quick yes, whether they will share their own more private matters with you, etc." "Like the male, the man's eyes will be glowing, you can see from the inside of it, you can see from the inside of it that the eyes are glowing. ""Like the male guest just through the likes to judge too single, when a person likes you not only likes, but also often comments, will go through your circle of friends and microblogging, especially eager to take the initiative to understand you, something or other love to talk to you, like in front of you to hang around to show their own .... ... and so on in many ways." For the male guests emphasized the spiritual exchange, female guests also agree, "there is spiritual exchange of love to be able to flow, two people should be compatible with the three views, like-minded, able to be on a channel of spiritual dialogue, in order to go farther" "than the traditional pursuit of the door to the right family. It is more important for two people to be able to talk and have reciprocal spiritual exchanges. Two people together must have a rich spiritual life, in order to make each other more attractive".
For the future of the other half, Qing Zhixiong still focus on spiritual communication, hope that the other party is a love of art, the elderly and children full of love for the girl, the two people can understand each other and support, together further and further. Yu Jie and Wu Yue, who were chosen for the final selection, who better meets his requirements?
Living up to your own preferences is the best thing you can do for your parents
The topic of "too much independence" is hotly debated
"Traditional" and "open-minded" are the two main themes of the show. The two words "traditional" and "open" are contradictory, but in the male guest Zhang Yishu got a perfect blend. Born in Chaoshan, influenced by his family environment, he has great respect for his family's traditional concept of life. The experience of studying abroad has made him particularly passionate and open-minded, and he couldn't help but sigh on the spot, "The most painful thing in life is not being able to live your life the way you like." For his marriage, Zhang Yishu, like many young people, had to take into account the preferences of his parents. Huang Lan stated that as a mother, she will not have a formatting requirement for the future life of her children, and her greatest wish is for them to be free and happy, "We, the new generation, should look dialectically at our parents' wish for their children's marital bliss, and it is even more of a freedom and happiness if you are able to live very independently and confidently. I think that living as you like is the best way to give your parents the best account."
Independence, is a recognized advantage, but some people are "overly independent", Zhang Yishu has dated a similar girlfriend, "she rarely share her moods and ideas with me, something will be taken care of, I can not find the feeling of being in demand! I don't feel wanted at all." On the topic of "excessive independence", has repeatedly triggered heated debate in the program, some female guests even said they do not like to be boyfriends all day long to ask for warmth, can a month without contacting their boyfriends, life problems can be dealt with on their own do not need to refer to their boyfriends' suggestions ... ... ...Huang Lan believes that excessive independence will really make each other no sense of existence, a good love relationship is always with each other's feelings together, two people together is actually the process of warmth. Meng Fei also stated that everything should be a degree, independent is certainly an advantage, but the important decision or to listen to the other half of the ideas and suggestions better.
Finally, the male guest of honor put Dongmei, Xu RuiXuan selected into the final selection area, he in the end can successfully hand in hand? Tonight 20:30 "Do not disturb" to look forward to!