Perhaps, the essence of life is to wait alone, who can not harvest the happiness of this matter on the assumption that the person, then the loneliness of love will always be the path of grief. But perhaps, as Jiang Xun mentioned in Six Lectures on Loneliness, "Loneliness and loneliness are not the same, loneliness will be panicked, but loneliness is full."
I. Waiting alone for someone you love
Chen Wen wrote a list of dream lovers when he was 17 years old, filled with all his requirements for his other half. It wasn't until Liu Rong came along that he was instantly trapped.
Hugo said, "Are people born twice? Yes. The first time, on the day when man begins to live; the second time, on the day when love sprouts."
From the time one understands love, one waits alone for someone to whom one is willing to give one's love. Fate may come in the form of childhood sweethearts, or love at first sight, or love over time, but no one can meddle in our love, no one can really fiddle with who we meet and for whom our hearts will be moved. It can be said that love means loneliness from the very beginning, and everyone has to take one step at a time. Some people wait their whole life for so many people they are willing to love, while others wait their whole life for only that one person.
But the reality is cruel, waiting alone is not pure. Those who are full of jewelry, a talented person's waiting alone, but is to kill some time; and those who are ordinary, the pockets of the wallet is barely full, there is not much light to rely on the people, waiting alone has become a long time. Chen Wen that set of holding up a tape recorder in the girls dormitory downstairs play songs, send sugar ring said a sentence "I decided to send you a thing that you can not forget, when you think of it, it no longer exists. Like my feelings for you, will only dissolve in your heart", and even pretending to be a big spender with a beautiful girl in front of the favorite, trying to make Liu Rong jealous of the trick is too cheesy, but this cheesy is also full of worldly sadness. You know, not cheesy romance almost always have to use money to smash out, when Chen Wen excitedly went to the jewelry store to buy a gold ring, think Liu Rong "certainly like", but in the end, still lost to the ability to buy more gold rings Damien.
We all made a list when we were young, as Chen Wen did, and then compared it to the reality of waiting for the dream lover to appear. But dream lovers are always few and far between, and those who are willing to suffer for love are even fewer. So, in front of the love, many people either did not meet their own love, or met the grasp, or grasp and slipped away from the side. The final a burst of tossing, and then again waiting alone.
Two, waiting alone, waiting for a suitable person
If waiting for a person they love, is to submit to the heartbeat of the romanticism; then waiting for a suitable person, is to the life of the realism of compromise.
Chen Wen realized that "there is no such thing as a dream girl in the world, and even if there is one, she may not be suitable for you in terms of her qualities and personality," he said after experiencing the pain of pursuing Liu Rong. But I'm sure that in this world there must be a suitable girl for me." Liu Rong, on the other hand, understood what she wanted from the very beginning, and she once told Chen Wen, "I believe in lightning love anyway. But it depends on fate, I always think everyone will find someone who suits them."
In love, there are too many people who only seek to have Mr./Mrs.OK, so those who insist on waiting for Mr./Mrs.Right are really assertive and brave.
The two lines of Liu Rong's response in the movie are a good footnote to her view of love. We mentioned above that Chen Wen gave Liu Rong a sugar ring, but it was given out in a very inopportune context. Chen Wen says, "Any other girl would have been touched a long time ago. If I were a chick, I would have fallen in love with me long ago", but Liu Rong thinks, "I'm not another girl, so what's wrong? You think you've done something cute and I have to be madly obsessed with you is that it?" Again, Chen Wen meets Liu Rong at the mall cuddling and laughing with Da Ming. Chen Wen sour Liu Rong and says, "I misunderstood our relationship. We're not pursuing the same goals. I forgot that I'm not a big spender." Liu Rong responded angrily that she just wanted to live a happy life, "Life is not supposed to be easy."
Admittedly, Liu Rong is not a likable character. It's probably because we're so used to seeing the drama of love and compromise, and Liu Rong's naked materialism and selfishness stings the dark side of our hearts. Yes, is the love of "love is full of water" worthy of praise? Do others do a little romantic pursuit, they have to cry with joy? Is it because of a sentence "I love you for a long time" should be grateful to carry virtue? Love is your own, and does not live to satisfy someone else's feelings.
Waiting for love is not difficult, but waiting for a person who is right for you. The people around you come and go, look lively, but can only be regarded as human interaction in the name of love. Love itself is impossible to clamor. Because we always have to experience the despondency when love is not yet arrived, sometimes we have to resist the outside world's finger pointing alone, alone reject the logic of "I'm so good to you, why do you want to do this to me" to stalk us, alone bear all the causes and consequences of love, and then become invulnerable to the sword until we usher in a person who is suitable for us, and then we have to wait for a person who is suitable for us. us, the years are quiet.
Three, waiting alone, waiting for a better self
Love is a matter of two people, but in the final analysis is everyone's respective growth experience. In the love has not come before, nothing to do nothing, obviously not a smart approach. While we wait alone for love to patronize us, making ourselves better is the ultimate meaning of what love can bring us.
And in "Waiting Alone," Chen Wen's positive transformation is reflected in his outlook. There are two scenes in the movie --
One is when Chen Wen, who writes horror novels as a hobbyist, is repeatedly asked by his publisher's editor to change his novels. In the beginning, Chen Wen did everything he was told, but he always got a "bullshit" from the other side. Finally, Chen Wen pulled the manuscript back from the editor's hands and said, "Everyone can't like the same thing." Yes, why condemn yourself to adapt to someone else's preferences? If love is meant to be a process of waiting alone, then at least let's wait with joy.
The other scene is a dream within a dream. This is the reason why many people are in the pit of the movie "Waiting Alone". Chen Wen dreams in a daze that square-dancing moms are dancing in his room, and when he wakes up, he shoots out the window and breaks the moms' drums.
In fact, there are several other moments in the movie about Chen Wen being woken up by square-dancing moms, but this last one is the only one where Chen Wen picks up his gun and stops the noise. I think it's a response to what Li Jing said, "Sometimes you can't force the other person to love you, you can only be the one who is loved by the other person, and the rest depends on how the other person is doing", we will be annoyed because of a person, and the inner world is all messed up because of this, but the right to choose is always in our own hands.
Initially, Chen Wen was tossed by Liu Rong's wandering uncertainty again and again, and just said he would not care about Liu Rong anymore, but Liu Rong's phone call and a passionate kiss made him fall in again. Chen Wen and Liu Rong completely broke up the moment, Chen Wen drinking wine will be from the playful smile all of a sudden turned to tears. The happiness of two people is the result of love, but waiting alone can also be the blossoming of love. The cliché of "Waiting Alone" lies in the fact that the screenwriter didn't write Chen Wen as an overnight rich man who came back to show off his power in front of Liu Rong. Instead, when Liu Rong came back to the antique store to look for him, he said that he broke up with Daming and wanted to continue to be "friends" with Chen Wen, Chen Wen was very resolute, "Rong, I don't hate you, I forgave you long ago. I forgave you a long time ago. But I'm not a substitute for anyone."
The reality of love will not be like some Mary Sue novels, the protagonist of the love of his life is too poor to be cold and hot after the realization of the wealth and status of the promotion, but the experience of love, will make us become invulnerable to become a personal opinion.
Voltaire has written, "love among the noble components no less than the gentle components, make people upward power no less than the power to make people atrophy, and sometimes inspire other virtues."
Believe that each of us can become a better version of ourselves in love, and it is up to us to choose whether to go with the flow and love a nice girl and guy in the popular sense, or to sink and drown and continue to love an unworthy person. We can, and should, control our own love or peace and quiet, or chaos.
Chen Wen wrote a horror novel portraying the image of a faceless man, Chen Wen once fell asleep in the subway dreamed of this faceless man, the conversation between the two people let people think:
Faceless man: "You have to follow the feelings inside. Love is not a science, that's why it's so wonderful."
Chen Man: "What do you know, you don't even have a face."
Faceless Man: "That's because I'm something you made up in your head."
Yes, love doesn't have a face, and all stories are written by us.
Waiting Alone is positioned as a romantic comedy, but the movie's faint sadness is everywhere: Chen Wen is still not with the girl of his dreams, Liu Rong has finally lost someone who loves him very much, and Li Jing, who has been secretly in love with Chen Wen since high school, is also lost in time as the train travels slowly south. It should be said that director Yang Shixian has gotten the scale of sadness and happiness in love just right.
Waiting Alone has one of the most popular dialogues, "In life, you either live well or hurry up and die." When life is simplified into life and death, we will understand that the bumpy ride in love and the long, hard wait alone is really no big deal.