The simplest and most effective way to educate children is to talk. The quality of conversation is closely related to the art of conversation.
Conversation is a heart-to-heart talk between parents and children in a democratic and harmonious atmosphere. The timing of the conversation should be appropriate, and the topic should be beneficial and interesting to the child.
Before the conversation, parents should induce their children to pour out their innermost thoughts freely, and then give back their own opinions that are superior to their children as a gift to their children. Through the exchange of ideas between parents and children, children can be taught and inspired. Simply parents speaking and children listening, without feedback and discussion, cannot be regarded as real communication. It is even more undesirable for parents to use conversation to sarcastically reprimand their children, nagging them endlessly about trivial matters, and making their children feel disgusted and bored.
The art of conversation is mainly reflected in the capture of conversation opportunities and the use of conversation methods. Generally speaking, parents and children should not talk when they are in a bad mood, especially when they are angry; do not talk when the whole story is not clear; and do not make critical remarks when outsiders, especially guests, are present. Conversation; it is not advisable to have critical conversations at the dinner table or before the child goes to bed.
The characteristic of family education is "teaching when you encounter things", so the timing of education must be flexibly grasped. Everything should be based on the needs of education, especially the effect of education, and based on the child's acceptance. The methods of conversation can be various, such as casual conversation, investigation, motivation, serious criticism and education, etc. Among them, the casual conversation style, that is, having a broad and relaxed conversation regardless of time, place, or content, is often a popular conversation method for children.