It is paranoid and anti-intellectual to not let your child be active.
First, extroversion and introversion are both normal character traits, and there is no superiority or inferiority.
There is an old Chinese saying that "when you are not moving, you are useless", which means that if you are not active as a child, you will not have much success when you grow up. In fact, this is very narrow-minded, because there has never been any objective data statistics, active children and inactive children in adulthood, to realize the social value of better or worse. There are many famous people in history who have made remarkable achievements, and they all have their own personalities. If parents feel that their children have to be active to meet their definition of a healthy child, then they are being narrow-minded.
Second, respect your child's true nature and give them back the right to deal with their emotions, and let go of your desire to control them!
There's nothing wrong with a child liking someone, it's better for them to be happy and comfortable than for parents to think that they should be happy and comfortable.
Parents should focus more on themselves, do their own work well, enrich themselves, the more enlightened they are, the more insightful they are, the more tolerant they are of their children, and the more empathetic they are.
Third, the teacher's words are not holy orders, so please treat them dialectically.
So, first of all, recognize your child's teacher. A good teacher evaluates your child objectively, while a bad teacher's own character is flawed and doesn't see things accurately. Therefore, do not take everything the teacher said, as the holy orders for, and indiscriminately decided that the teacher said must be a real problem.
Fourth, there is no such thing as a correct interaction in this world, and the traditional view of human relationships is very limiting. What we should teach our children is how to recognize the truth of human nature, treat different people differently, and have the ability to be warm and strong in order to protect themselves.
Fifth, parents who care about their children should really take the time to see if their children really have the problems that their teachers reflect.
If the problem does exist, is it in the normal range, and if it's outside the normal range, such as autistic tendencies, seek medical attention to troubleshoot it.
May the child grow up healthy and happy.
Both of these causes can lead to a child not wanting to socialize. But the solutions are very different. If it's because of concentration, it's a good sign that your child has a strong sense of focus, and that's a good thing! There is no need to worry too much about it! If you can rule out focus as the cause, or if it's introversion, then you need to find a way to address the introversion issue.
Finding the cause of your child's introversion is the key to solving the problem.
If you can't solve the problem of introversion, you're not going to be able to do anything about it, you're not going to be able to do anything about it, you're not going to get anywhere!
There are many reasons why a child may be introverted: being frightened, being bullied, having a grumpy parent, etc. Parents can help by observing how the child reacts to certain situations. Parents can determine the cause of their child's introversion by observing their child's reaction to certain things. For example, if the child trembles with fear when the parent loses his temper, or if the child rejects other children and doesn't want to play with them, it is possible that the child has been taunted or bullied by them, and so on. If you find the cause, half of the problem is solved.
For example, if a child is introverted because he or she has been taunted or bullied by other children, parents can talk to the parents of the students through the school and have their children apologize in person.
Then, find some sunny, cheerful kids to do things with your child that interest him. Through contact with each other, helping each other, solving problems together, sharing the joy of success with each other and experiencing the beauty of friendship, the child will gradually get rid of his introversion. The child will gradually get rid of the introversion!
I hope this helps!
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How to make your child more active?
The following suggestions are for reference only.
First, the influence of a healthy body on the child's personality.
Let your child participate in outdoor activities, exercise more, more contact with nature. Running and jumping in the nature, doing games, the child will be very happy, naturally willing to talk more, the character is slowly cheerful. A lively and cheerful personality is closely related to a healthy body. To ensure that the child a reasonable diet, regular living, enough sleep, proper exercise, the child has a good body, the character of the impact is also very big.
Second, the influence of the parent-child relationship on the child's personality.
Parent-child relationships have a great impact on children. There are 3 types of parent-child relationships.
1. Adult-centered parent-child relationship, in which the child is generally polite, cautious, focused, but also shows timid and shy, willing to obey, lack of self-confidence.
2. The child-centered parent-child relationship, this relationship under the child is generally positive, expressive, optimistic and confident, but attention is not enough to focus on, unwilling to be constrained, unwilling to obey, stubborn character.
3. The ideal parent-child relationship should be one in which the parents are loving and caring but not pampered, enlightened and equal but not forceful, strict but approachable. The children who grow up under such a relationship are self-reliant without being complacent, cheerful and generous without being selfish, and because of their parents' trust and respect, the children are willing to share their joys and sorrows with their parents.
The different attitudes of parents towards their children result in children with different personalities.
One point worth mentioning here is that more time spent by the father with the child can contribute to the formation of a lively and cheerful personality. Generally speaking, fathers are more tolerant and generous, easy-going and cheerful, coupled with the fact that fathers are energetic, more athletic, and also like to change their tricks, so they are particularly suitable for children's age characteristics. In dealing with problems in the attitude, fathers and mothers are also different, fathers tend to take a positive attitude to deal with the problem, consider the motives of young children's actions are often easier to think from the good side of the problem solving is easy to use some of the more light-hearted, humorous language to educate the child, this case to raise children to do things positively, active, optimistic, and courageous and self-confident. Therefore, the father to increase the density of interaction with the child, try to find some time in the day and the child chat, games, which is very helpful to the child's good character development.
Third, the influence of good emotions on the child's character.
Good emotions are one of the most important conditions for the formation of a healthy personality. A good mood can improve the activity of the brain and the entire nervous system, which is beneficial to the healthy growth of the child, and even more beneficial to the formation of a good character. If a child is often in a positive mood, he or she will form a lively, cheerful, kind and sympathetic character.
How do you cultivate a good mood in your child?
1. Parents should love their children sensibly and meet their reasonable demands, rather than overindulge and unprincipled accommodation.
2. Protection and help for children is necessary, but not excessive. As long as it is not too dangerous, the child should be allowed to try.
3. In cultivating the child's interest, parents must respect the child's choice, only in this way, this interest can become the child's real lasting hobby, for the lively and cheerful character to provide spiritual power.
4. Parents should teach their children to learn to adjust their own emotions, to ensure that the child is in a happy mood. Especially when the child encounters difficulties, to guide the child to overcome in a positive and positive attitude.
Fourth, the impact of targeted education methods on the child's personality.
Parents should pay attention to analyze their own children's personality characteristics, and adjust the targeted education methods.
If the child to do things focused, but the action of the timid and shy, we must praise him more handmade good, good picture book reading, to develop his self-confidence; if the child is silent, do not like to participate in collective activities, we must praise his concentration, seriousness, patience to do the habit of encouraging him to participate in more collective activities, and more and more other children to socialize. Improve social skills. Parents should create more opportunities for children to socialize. Help the child from not like to talk over to willing to chat with the children in a small range, play.
In short, the lively and cheerful character is not cultivated overnight, parents usually observe the child's daily behavior, adjust the education method at any time, and try to help the child lively and cheerful character formation.
Let the child learn to interact with others, will be conducive to the child to better adapt to the new environment, better towards the group; will be conducive to the child open-minded to face the challenges of life, will have a positive, far-reaching impact on their lives. The children will be able to learn to socialize with others, which will benefit the children throughout their lives.
1, to help children master the simple skills of interaction
Children are very much like to interact with their peers, but due to the lack of experience, ability to interact, and therefore in the process of interaction often occur in such and such contradictions, and sometimes even fights, therefore, to give the child some simple skills of interaction is very necessary. Such as to the children and then use "please, thank you, I'm sorry" and other polite words in the process of interaction, encountered problems with the use of negotiation *** with the solution to mutual modesty, friendly, know that this child can make good friends.
2, increase the opportunity to interact
First of all, in the family, parents should let the child out of the small space, contact with the outside world, in the process of other children's interactions, the beginning of the process from the "self-centeredness" in the release, to understand the difference between self and others, and learn to correctly deal with their own and other partners, individual and collective relationships. They learn to correctly handle the relationship between themselves and other children, between the individual and the group, etc. Let the children respect themselves and others, in the same talk and play, laugh and have fun in the knowledge and experience and behavioral norms, learn to control their own desires, emotions and behavior, to cultivate the children unity and love, care for others, self-tolerance and brave, cheerful, optimistic character. Parents can take their children to the children's playground, to the neighbor's house, and the neighbor's children to play; you can also invite children to play in their own homes, warm hospitality to small partners, there are good food, fun and small partners *** with the sharing; take the child to the store, so that the child to try to shop for themselves.
3, do not with utilitarian interaction
Sometimes, parents will be very utilitarian to limit the child: only with the study of good interaction, not with the study of poor interaction, and so on. This kind of purposeful inducement will make the child become vulgar and snobbish. The child should be taught to respect anyone in a wide range of interactions without prejudice.
4, to make friends to be selective
5, to cultivate the spirit of the child for the sake of others
A philosopher said: have a good friend is a good life.
Let the child learn to interact with others, will be conducive to the child to better adapt to the new
environment, better towards the group; will be conducive to the child to open-minded
face the various challenges of life, will have a positive
far-reaching impact on their lives. The first thing you need to do is to teach your children how to socialize with others, and it will benefit your children for the rest of their lives.
1, to help children master the simple skills of interaction
Children are very much like to interact with their peers, but due to the lack of interaction
experience, ability, and therefore in the process of interaction often occur this and that
contradiction, and sometimes even fights, so the hand over
children some simple skills of interaction is very necessary. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some simple interaction skills. Such as handing children
children and then use "please, thank you, I'm sorry" and other polite
language in the process of interaction, encountering problems with the use of consultative methods **** with the solution, to be mutually humble
to let, friendly, know that the children will be able to make a good friend.
2, increase the opportunity to interact
First of all, in the family, parents should let the child out of the small space, contact
contact the outside world, in the process of other children's interactions,
began to free from the "self-centeredness", to understand the self and others
distinction, learn to correctly understand the difference between the self and others
and to understand that the child's life is a little more complicated than that. Let the children respect themselves, respect others, in the same say
play with, laugh with fun in the acquisition of knowledge and experience and behavioral norms, to learn
control their own desires, emotions and behaviors, to cultivate the children unity and friendship
love, care for others, self-tolerance and brave, cheerful, optimistic
character. Parents can take their children to the children's playground, to the neighbor's home
to visit the door, and neighboring children to play to; you can also invite children to play in their
their own homes, hospitality, and small partners, there are good food, fun and
small partners **** with the share; to take the child to the store, so that the child to try to ask for the shopping, and so on.
3. Don't make it a utilitarian relationship
There are times when parents will limit their children to only interact with those who are good at school
and not with those who are bad at school, etc. This is a great way for them to get a better understanding of what they are doing. This kind of purposeful
inducement will make the child become vulgar and snobbish. Children should be taught
to treat everyone with respect and without
prejudice in a wide range of interactions.
4, make friends to be selective
Selection. The friends you make will often have a great influence on your child
. Parents should have a broad and deep understanding of the child's deep friends: there
no bad habits, often talk about something, and so on. Parents generally
are hoping that their children can make good friends, but the standard of "good"
is not the same, the parents of the "good" mainly refers to the study of good, well-behaved
know how to do; the child's
"good friend", "good friend", "good friend", "good friend", "good friend", "good friend" is not the same. The concept of "good friends" is more like-minded
temperament. If parents find that their children's friends are really problematic
problematic teenagers, or even delinquent teenagers, do not interfere roughly, but
to give the child greater understanding, respect and care, to tell the child some
ancient times, "Meng mother three move" and other stories, so that the child to make their own decisions about his friends
friends, and the child's own decision
to make the child's own decision. p>
The first time I saw a child in a car, I saw him in a car, and I saw him in a car.
5, cultivate the spirit of the child for the sake of others
A philosopher said: there are good friends have a good life
As teachers and parents have to consciously cultivate the child's ability to socialize with others in school, life. Guiding children to make friends and socialize is currently an important social issue that cannot be avoided. Anyone who wants to succeed can not do without others, and can not be separated from friends to develop interpersonal relationships. To socialize with others and to establish and maintain certain interpersonal relationships is one of the most frequent and strongest needs in a person's life. Therefore, parents must pay attention to guide their children to make friends and be good at socializing. 1. Strengthen the child's psychological guidance Psychological guidance should pay attention to cultivate children to do: First, respect for others. Let the child understand everyone's interests, hobbies, behavioral habits, can not ask others to meet their own appetites. Tolerance, honesty is a sign of respect for others, but also the basis of interpersonal communication. The second is to believe in oneself. Let the children know that in the interaction with others, there will inevitably be difficulties and setbacks, at this time, they should be full of confidence, through efforts to overcome the difficulties and defeat the setbacks. Thirdly, they can overcome and resolve conflicts when they encounter them. Because of the child's age, the ability to control behavior and emotions is poor, it is more important to tell the child to learn restraint, tolerance, understanding, forgiveness. 2. Cultivate children's self-esteem, self-confidence, enhance their ability to interact Do this, parents should often introduce to the child some of the advantages and strengths of other students, encourage children to learn from children of the same age, you can also introduce the child to see more stories of successful characters, enhance the child's awareness of the community and social interaction with others, and cooperation with others. Once the child shows some kind of progress, even if it is a small progress should be fully affirmed, so that the child gradually build up self-confidence. Children's ability to socialize is in practice, parents should consciously in the interaction to enhance the child's self-esteem, and then encourage them to socialize. 3. Widely make friends As the saying goes, "more friends, better road", no parent wants his or her child to be isolated and helpless. So help your child to make friends, warn your child not to judge people by their appearance, parents in front of their children do not comment on his classmates where not good. Parents should not take sides when conflicts arise between their children and their classmates, but should deal with them in a fair and reasonable manner, or ignore them. Increase your child's opportunities for socializing, and expand the scope of your child's interactions by "going out" and "inviting in". At the same time, parents should make some time to participate in their children's activities and encourage their children to socialize with others. In the process of children's friendships, timely teach children some interaction skills. For example, when speaking, give a clear expression of their own point of view, so that people can hear and understand. Change the bad habit of talking, use more polite words, such as "thank you", "trouble you", etc., not uncivilized language, talk with dirty words. To do with classmates to interact with each other heart to heart, accept each other, will melt their own feelings into each other's feelings, to learn to patiently listen to others to express their views and opinions; learn to other people's things Emotional interest; learn to say "I agree with your idea", "I like your arrangements They should learn to say "I agree with your idea", "I like your arrangement" and other words of praise; they should learn to care about their classmates; they should learn to be tolerant, and they should refrain from complaining about their classmates. 4. Children's excellent interaction from the human example Parents should first take the initiative to make good relations with neighbors, colleagues, relatives and friends, help each other, tolerance and generosity, in order to give their own good interpersonal interaction to the children to make an example. Children in the long term in the words and example can get emotional inspiration, so as to overcome the shortcomings of refusing to socialize with others. Actions are silent commands. Parents and teachers are role models for children and should pay special attention to their words and behavior. When the child to follow suit to do, to praise him at the right time, to affirm his good ideas, good behavior, because the child cares most about the praise from parents and teachers. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
I have studied psychology for a period of time during the university, according to the direction of the owner's question, the probability that the child has an inferiority complex, not integrated into the small partners is a typical small child self-closed mentality, want to get rid of the inferiority complex of the child as soon as possible is also very simple, we first analyze the formation of the inferiority complex, and then to the right remedy, you will be able to get rid of the disease.
Low evaluation of their own behavior and value, feel inferior to others, easy to inhibit their own views in social interactions, often their own negative, often others to their own negation, are the elements of the formation of low self-esteem. As children, their social interactions are not as complicated as those of adults, so why do they have an inferiority complex? That most of the reasons is that parents often deny their own children, that's why there is a "child is to boast out" said, the child did something wrong, can not scold, you tell him the reason, more than 4 years old children will have their own subjective views, tell him to communicate with adults, enhance his ability to express himself, to buy things outside you can try to let the child to pay or ask the price, this is the child to pay or ask the price, this is the child to pay or ask the price, the child to pay the price. When you buy something outside, you can try to let your child pay for it or ask for the price, which is also to increase his ability to express himself. Can not give children too much to play games or watch TV, children in early childhood, it is very easy to play roles, when he feels that he is a role in the game or television, in reality, there is no way to get everyone's approval, then he will be disappointed to produce low self-esteem. So there is a way to change the low self-esteem is to let him talk more, a small mouth, bark bark is a bunch of words, this time you do not mind him to talk more annoying, you patiently give him the exchange, you will find that my child is so smart, so many ideas, this time to correctly guide the child's values, because in the child's own confidence in their own time, when he received the affirmation of their own, the concept of the concepts are very easy to change. This is the right time to guide the child's values, because when the child has confidence in himself, when he receives affirmation, his concepts will easily change. Think about it, when you were a kid and your homeroom teacher complimented you, were you happy for half a day? So, if you want to completely change your child's inferiority complex, the best way is to let your child's mouth speak first.
Then, take your child out more, don't always stay at home, even if it is to go out for a walk, square dancing. You see a lot of children in the square dance also dance, you have seen which in the inside of the dance of the child is inferior, not into the group? So, the problem is not complicated, but it requires patience.
One, learn good manners. This is the best method, the best premise, the benefit is endless, focus on the implementation, develop good habits, benefit for life.
Second, honesty and friendliness (socialist core values) seriously and conscientiously.
Thirdly, it is very important to have a model for parents.
Four, tell the children to know, to love society, tolerance of others.
Fifth, let the children know the way to "help others to be happy", and practice it!
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